Apologies in advance...

We got engaged in July last year. Right from the start, I asked h2b to look at options for venues etc with me, and to think about whether we would have a civil or church ceremony. I didn't get much response, so I looked up loads of different places, churches, hotels, country houses etc, and told him about all of them and showed him them online. We decided we were happy to have a civil cermony as neither of us was particularly religious. ~I double checked with h2b as he is the more religious one of us two, so I wanted to be sure he was happy. He was happy.

Fast forward to ten days ago. Argument. I have apparently made all the decisions myself and "vetoed" - yes that's what he said - both having a church ceremony, and getting married near where he grew up.

Eh, sorry, wtf?!?! After almost a year of me TRYING desperately to get him to show a smidge of interest in choosing venues, this is what I get. Was so furious. Told him to grow up and not blame me for the fact that he didn't bother to make his feelings clear. Said am perfectly happy to have a religious ceremony if it means that much to him, as I don't really mind one way or the other, and I really don't want him to look back with regret if there's no religious aspect to his wedding day.

So he admitted that he often just agrees with people and then feels sorry for himself for not having had a chance to give his opinion. (In fairness, this is due to working with his dad for the past decade, who never ever took any of h2b's ideas or suggestions on board, so I see where he's coming from.)

So anyway, that was that, we are having a religious ceremony if we can find a church to marry us (if HE can find one - time for him to do some of the donkey-work), and I've told him not to play the martyr with me again or there'll be trouble - communication being important in marriage and all that!!!

GRR!

Over now, thanks for listening ;)

Exactly, thank you!! ;)

fingers crossed! :)

Yes its a man thing lol with maybe the exception of clive and one or two others on here xx

i did mention to my h2b the other day that i wished he would take more of an interest and not just agree with everything i say lol he said that as long as we are married and I'm happy that will make him happy. i know he would prefer to just slope off to the registry office with the girls and a couple of witnesses as hes really shy and doesn't like to be the centre of attention and i did offer to cancel everything the other night when we were having our big talk. he said he will manage as long as he doesn't have to make a speech and have everyone watching while he says his vows. he did take an interests the other night asking about music as i have been trying to get him to help me with that for weeks. but i think he only did it to try to get back in my good books as i was upset with him over the flat he put an offer on with out telling me x

Just how it should be luvvie! Qudos to him!!:-)

yes totally agree with everyone mines only just starting to get involved but i seem to be the only one in panick mode about paying for it all

You ladies wanna think yourselves lucky that they dont take an interest lol on saturday we made trip number 4 to the suit shop as h2b had decided once again he didnt like the jacket of his suit. Even the suit guy was getting annoyed as he has now choosen (and now doesnt have a choice) the first suit that was picked in the beginning lol we now have to arrange the bridal party to go up again to be measured up for these new suits lol, I also had to walk around 7 (yes seven) car places, looking at the same cars each time for h2b to find a suitable car for me and dad to arrive in. apparently choosing a car 'is an art' I have been told lol

xx

We're not that bad clive!

I spend ages with H2B looking at mens clothes and shoes for him, he's fine and happy as larry, then I literally walked into the ladies section in the department store, I was I swear about 30 seconds and he got really sulky! :P

Ha ha Bobsi!! It sounds remarkably familiar to a conversation I had with the Boo almost 2 years ago. The result, he picked the fabric and style of tying for the chair covers and sashes, and is making 50 origami paper cranes (sucker!!). They want to be a part of it, but are petrified of getting it wrong I think, because traditionally its the brides day, not the grooms.
For us, it is about us and the people we love sharing the day. I remind him of that every time I change my mind about something!!!!

ha lol thats funny men are sooo frustrating at times and when it come to decssions it can take a life time . xx