I have just had confirmation from the vicar for a first meeting with him on Saturday about us getting married in his church. It is my parish church (I have lived there since I was born) and I was also christened in this church so I think he will be ok marrying us. I was just wondering whether anyone could help me out with what sort of stuff he will ask us when he sees us? As none of my friends have got married in a church I have no one to answer this for me! Any help will be much appreciated!

Thank you xxxx

i have not had this meeting myself yet but have recently spoke to a friend who had just spoke with her vicar she said it was fine she felt abit awkward but was just like a normal conversation gathering your backgrounds etc. she did say the subject of sex was brought up as the vicar knew they had a daughter he said that traditionally they should have been married first but in this day and age he knows its different and that sex should never become a duty even though you are married ;) lol hope this helps anyway im sure you will be fine and good luck :) xx

It is CofE so not quite as strict as RC I dont think? But I did not even think that he would mention that lillybaby! At least I am now prepared for it and wont get caught off guard! xxx

So would I have! And probably turned very red!! xx

haha you will be waiting through the whole meeting now for it to come up and it probably wont now your prepared :) xx

haha lillybaby you are probably right! xx

Hi Linzi, we are also getting married in our parish cofe church. We went to meet the vicar back in February & he was really nice. He just asked us some basic questions, how long we've been together etc and then confirmed all our details with us, date of birth, fathers occupation, address etc.

He then went through what we would like on out order of service & showed us an example so we basically know what order the hymns/readings/legal bits come in.

There was no religious talk at all which surprised us, we were at least expecting 'why do you want to get married in a church?' He then told us the dates for the reading of the Banns and said that although we didn't have to come, he would like it if we could. The first of our readings was last week, so we have to go tomorrow and next week. It was all quite relaxed and nowhere near as formal as I'd expected & we had no mention of living together before we were married or about s ex thank goodness!

Hope this helps a bit x

Thanks for all the advice ladies and I can tell you it went well! Our worry was that h2b is a different religion (Greek Orthodox) but he was fine with it! Even said that if h2b's priest wanted to come and do a blessing during the ceremony he would be fine with it! It was much more relaxed than I thought and talked to us about our studies and bits too as he was also a student when he got married. Main thing is he agreed and we now have a date and time booked in with him! Very excited!!! xxx