my h2b's son lives with us cause his mum lives in ireland he turns 18th on friday an is havin a party his mum will be comin to the party so i will be meeting her for the first time.
i am a little nervous about meeting her and was wondering if anyone as any tips
i am feeling alittle pushed aside as she will be staying with h2bs sister as all his family get on well with her, am i been silly about this h2bs think i am
CommentAuthorVx Debz xV
Yeah I think you are a bit... just remember she's an ex for a reason, you're his now and future .. she's his past :)
CommentAuthorMrsFlude
remember your only meeting her because its your step-sons special day :) x x x
CommentAuthorSuzi
Difficult I know hun! But as Debz said, she is H2B's past but she will always be your (soon to be) step son's mum! Im sure everything will go just fine x x
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CommentAuthorvintage lass
I dont think your being silly...I suspect Id feel exact same. It nice though that you and her have not let past and present relationships interfere with your h2b son's celebrations. Smile, be happy, enjoy yourself and be wary of the green eyed monster. As Debz has already said.she's an ex for a reason so try to not listen to any insecurities you may have, that way you'll avoid unnecessary strain and potential arguments.
Shes probably worried about meeting you as well. Try to relax.
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CommentAuthorrach23
thanks lady's feelin a little bit better now, would never do anythink to spoil step son birthday party
CommentAuthorLou lou
just be urself n if she doesnt like u then it doesnt matter at the end of the day uve got ur h2b s and his/ur sons love, like debz said as well shes an ex for a reason xx
CommentAuthorwelshcerys
Agree with Dove - she's probs worried about meeting you too. My mother and step-mother havent met yet (parents split up 14 years ago and Dad has been remarried for 8 years) but they will be meeting for the first time in my engagement party. Not nervous as my parents just split up (with no drama if you get what I mean) - they know all about each other as I'm sure you do with the ex. My mother is a bit worried about meeting her, but mostly becasue she doesnt want anybody to feel awkward.
Just be yourself and enjoy your nearly step son's big day!
CommentAuthorCeCe
Rach...treat her as you would ANY OTHER new person..
There is NO reason why you should not have a friendly relationship..she is (I am assuming) not an Ogre..you do look after her child..so she should have an element of thanks to you.
As for her staying with the inlaws...well, they know her, they have the history..that is NOTHING to do with you..so DONT take it personally. Make her atleast a person you can be friendly with..how about getting her a bunch of flowers, bottle of plonk..a little something to show her you have No issues.
CommentAuthorLou lou
cece our company could do with someone like u ! i love ur no nonsence way :) xx
CommentAuthorcatch
l think you should be yourself,l get along terrific with my h2b ex-wife she's lovely we chat about Gabriella thier daughter together whom l love and cherish as one of my own, we also chat about our pending weddings as she will be getting married next april,so be yourself and act normal you both have amutual interest in the child so that's your starting point good luck hope you all get along together and have a great night x
CommentAuthorCeCe
TY Lou Lou, I try my best ... lol what does your company do..and do you pay well ;) ?!?!?
CommentAuthorTigerlily
dont forget that, her son has been living with you, for however long, she is probally just as nervous about meeting you and seeing the kind of relationship you and him have. My mum and dad are friends with my dads ex wife (my older sisters mum) and she and her partner are always invited to family bbqs and everything! There is no need to feel jealous as at the end of the day like the other girls have said she is the past and you are the future! she also lives in ireland...i would be more worried if she lived down the road (which my dads ex wife does! lol) just enjoy the celebrations and remember that your h2bs family like you aswel and although are still friends with her are just giving her a place to stay whilst she is here, not pushing you away! x
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
she is proberly MORE nervous about meeting you after all you have built up a relationship with her son, i agree with getting her a small gift and i would start by saying i dont know if you were as nervous as i was about this meeting ......i bet after a couple of glasses of wine you`ll be getting on fine and if not .........drink more
