Wedding Forum - Marriage preperation classes...

So im going to the 1sy of 3 classes at our church tonight at 7.30 and just wanted to know if anyone else has been to one yet? I dont know what to expect really and im going with my mum becuase H2B is working :( What kind of things do they ask? Also meeting our vicar tonight!!! x

hmm, all i know is what my auntie told me, but bearing in mind that she got married thirty years ago that might not be relevant!! they had to talk about how they would cope if problems arose in the marriage and stuff.

yes we were told that its the catholic one where it can be a bit intrusive if thats the right word?! x

Ours is a week on Saturday, each church does it differently but a friend who was married at the same church said it was really good, about learning to tolerate each other long term but in a really practical way! I think the key thing is though to get your H2B to attend if possible as there's no point only your mum and you knowing about it!

the thing is wev'e beent together for over 6 years and we have pretty much been through quite alot together and i think any guidence i can get should be from my parents who have been married 30 years not someone that i dont know. I just dont want any personal stuff being asked as my mum is there! I also dont like being asked questions in a group environment so may get a bit nervous! i have a friend going with her h2b and hopefully we can have a chat plus ive heard sparkling wine is offered!! x

I have to say I don't like the idea of them, it immediately puts my back up. If I had to go I would do, and I'd try to give it a chance but I find the idea a bit old-fashioned. Unless the couple marrying have been very traditional and not lived together until marriage, then maybe some pointers might be useful. But realistically, nobody can prepare you for your married life because you and your partner aren't the same as any other couple, so there isn't a one size fits all. Laura4Alex if you're going with your mum instead of h2b and they don't mind then it doesn't sound too strict so should hopefully be ok! :) :)

so it went really well not too religious and we met our rev who is marrying us and he is really nice. What he said about marriage and love a lot of it i could relate to so nothing he said was a surprise or anyhting. the bit about s e x was a bit akward sitting next to my mum but he was saying we should embrace it and enjoy it!!!lol x

Our COI rev sent us the info of the next prep course in are area, he said in his letter he didn't experinece them first hand but they come highly recommended! Anyways they are £60 per couple and run for 3 Thursday evenings in March. H2b isn't too keen on 'wasting' the £60 but I would like us to go, I just think it would be nice to keep traditions. Has/is anyone been in this predicament? What was your reason for going to them? Or what was your reason for not going?

I think its a bit cheeky that on top of the fees for the church,plus the organist,plus the verger and the bells,oh and the choir they then want to charge you more for 'wedding classes'.
Our reverend is very sensible and does not offer wedding preperation as he comes from the viewpoint that its 'your wedding' and you will 'prepare' for it in a way fitting for you as a couple.However if you feel that you require preperation/guidance then he is happy to arrange that with you (free) and sends out a fun quiz for you to do at home.
I am glad that 'our church' doesn't require us to attend these classes as i think that at 42 and after 9 years together plus a seven year old daughter we should know what we are doing.
I think if you are both living at home with your parents or are very young and inexperienced then they could be valuable but everyone is different. xxx

im glad we dont have to do this hehe! The joys of a hotel wedding but I am glad the classes are going well so far x

I went to my first one last night!
I am getting married in Church of England, we went through the preface (the info they give at the beginning of service) we also watched 2 videos one of a bit of the royal wedding the other a you tube video of Gill and Kevin ( they danced down the aisle) and the vicar discussed what we would prefer to do when we came down the aisle, The preparation classes are just so you know about each element of the service, our next one is going to be about the vows and the last one is a bout the music, I was a bit skeptical about going as we have been together nearly 9 years, but i'm glad I did go now xxx

I'm not sure what to expect from them either but I had a letter come about ours yesterday. Oh and also told us to arrange our meeting with the vicar soon. xx