my moh is being a b**** at the moment, its my brothers girlfriend, decided to ask her when we first started sorting things for wedding because up until that point shed been like a sister if never had, shes the mother of my neice and thought it would be nice to ask her. now shes changed since i asked her, she doesnt hardly talk to me or my partner, cant remember the last time i seen my neice or her for that matter. shes deleted me from her friend list on face book and im starting to regret asking her. is there any nice way of asking her to not be my moh without it affecting my brothers relationship because ive now realised shes the sort of person that if she doesnt get her way she would take it out on those closest to her. my mum has told me to leave it at the moment because of troubles in there relationship but why should i wait just for her sake, when i already have someone else in mind who would appreciate it more sorry for rant but really need some advice
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CommentAuthorUnknown
if someone i asked to me moh deleted me on book of face and i hadnt seen her i would text her and say sorry change of plan your not moh anymore! it may sound harsh but she has been horrible to you by deleting you!
dont feel that you have to have her, by the sounds of it i dont think she will be to bothered xx
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
is she married to your brother? because maybe she's just getting a bit of a green eye envy that she doesnt know how to deal with - which is no excuse because she should be there for you!!
I would talk to her and say - can you help me organise this and ask for something very specific with a deadline - if she doesnt do it then you can use that as an excuse to say - hey i dont think this is working out. I need an MOH who is 100% there and ready to help and i know you have a lot on at the moment and may not have the spare time to devote to my wedding - so maybe you would rather just be a bridesmaid instead.
does that make sense!?
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CommentAuthortweedwedding
Why not talk to your brother first? Tell him how your feeling about the situation and see what he says. He must know that she's deleted you of FB... And if she's done that then like mrsbarkertobe said, she's clearly not interested in being your MOH anymore!
Hope you get it sorted hun xx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
no there not married but shes changed since my neice was born anyway. in some way i dont want her being bridesmaid as in my eyes she doesnt deserve it she would probs only get funny about something anyway. its like its her way or no way if u get what i mean. i just regret asking her i wish i never bothered. i might just say ive decided to ask someone thats known me most my life and who i actually like lol
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my brother told her to delete everyone who knows him personally off her fb as she was putting him down on there making him out to look like the bad guy but shes only deleted me on there
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
i talk to my MOH every day. I mean we are best friends - but ive never been this close to a friend before and I know that I pee her off sometimes getting obsessed with weddings - but she is always there for me - which is what a MOH should be!!
We're going out tonight for her husbands Bday and then they are coming over on sunday for a roast!! yummy!!
I mean she is my H2Bs sister (2 year older) but she is amazing and I met her through H2B and am sooo glad he has such a lovely sister - and she is 100% my best friend!!
And as i said thats what you need your MOH to be someone who will be your freind even when you totally annoy them with all your wedding talk!! hehe!
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CommentAuthorUnknown
good luck!! xx
CommentAuthorMrsBroady2B
She really dont sound like maid of honour material hun. You will just have to tell her, how can you have someone as your MOH who would be willing to delete you from off facebook. Dont make sence. Maby you should just tell er thats not the attitude you want from you MOH. It's surposed to b a job for someone who is reliable and easy to get in touch with.
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
I would ditch if i was you - it is not worth the hassle!!
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
thank u ladies x
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CommentAuthorMel D
Sorry to hear you're having problems with her, I totally agree with everyone else, and you should talk to her and tell her that you've decided to ask someone else. Might want to warn your brother you're going to do it first though, so if she does cause problems at least he will be prepared for it.
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
yeh might invite him round one night and explain everything to him so he knows why ive made this decision
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CommentAuthormrssidders2b
Rhiannon - awww that sounds lovely that your bestfriend is h2b's sister :) you're very lucky and you're right that's what moh should be like.
Kimi- hi! I agree with the other ladies... Ditch her. You can just say you haven't spoken to her much and need more support from a moh and you can't expect that from her while she's going thru a lot. Don't dwell too much on the fact this might upset her cos when she deleted you on fb she clearly didn't think about your feelings as someone who's kind enough to ask her to be a moh. Plus it doesn't sound like she still want to be your moh anyway, the way she's been acting!
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
really i should of just asked this other person to begin with shes known me for 12/13 years so she knows everytg there is to know and shes been there for me when i needed her
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
we all make mistakes. Im sure it will work out!
when I first got with H2B he warned me that if I ever hurt him his sister would be mental etc - and he made her out to be really scairy and i was sooo intimidated when i met her - then i realised how nice she was and we've been bessies ever since!! Very very lucky!!!
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CommentAuthormrssidders2b
Ahhh don't beat yourself about it. Sometimes we're faced a situation and we just can't help but get carried away with things in the heat of the moment. Everyone's done that :) So most important thing now is ask the right person so the enjoyment of planning your wedding with someone who cares can begin. :)
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
yeh thats what i was thinkin, in some ways i wish my h2b had a sister but hes 1 of 3 boys and 1 has a gf and shes bit weird
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CommentAuthormrssidders2b
Lol h2b has 4 brothers. 2 has got gf. One is very weird and rude and I'm seriously contemplating on not inviting her cos I don't want to pay for some ungrateful beetch at my wedding but I'm sure that'll cause an uproar in the family cos h2b's bro will kick off and we've not liked each other from day 1.
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CommentAuthorAvril
thats such a shame and im guessing you have no idea why she has deleted you from facebook :-(
a moh is someone you can turn to, someone that will always be there! if she is not, then you have to do what you think is best. alot of people try and please others but the more you try to please everyone, the less chance you have of pleasing anyone at all! its always the way. its your day.....its the ONLY day you will ever have like it and it has got to be right.....most importantly....its got to be how you and hubby want it! the last thing you want is to look back and regret some things.....and your photographs will be a constant reminder of all the mistakes you wish you hadnt made. you have to be completely happy! when your brothers gf gets married, she can have her day....so have yours! xxx
CommentAuthorloubyscooby
Talk to your brother first and he will know how to handle her and he will also know the reasons why you have changed your mind. Good luck as it can be tricky
CommentAuthorkimi1987
tbh i dont think even he knows how to handle her
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CommentAuthorVicky
Talk to you brother frist - then if it continues just sack her... Good luck
CommentAuthorAmy112
I think you should just wait a while, U have 14months until the wedding - a lot will happen in that time. Give her a bit of space for a few weeks then if she hasn't been in contact with you, then there is your decision made - let the other girl be MOH and dump her.
At least if she asks you why u have a valid reason, whereas at the moment she may be upset for one reason or another and needs a bit of time and not realise what you are thinking. x
CommentAuthorsuzky123
you defo have just cause to sack her and put someone who will be sooooooo much better in her place. She can see her bum, its her actions that led to your decision. No excuse to delete you from fb. Shes basically snubbing you im afraid
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