It's just suddenly hit me tonight that all of my MOH problems towards me at the moment is to do with the fact she is extremely jealous! She has went from accepting her bf decision to never want to marry to trying to force him to propose and now she is being a complete Bi*** when it comes to my wedding! Has went funny with hen weekend planning, isn't interested in any of my wedding plans or thoughts, hasn't even come down to discuss anything or help me try my dress on. What can I do to try get her over this jealousy, or at least see its not my fault? I'm actually a little concerned that while she helps me get ready she might do something to jeapordise my happiness on the big day,like spill something on my dress or say something's not nice when it is etc. am I being silly? I do care she's jealous as its spoiling her being my MOH! And her bf is my fiancés best man and cousin!

I think you should chat to her, mabe she wants someone too talk too about it. I can't understand why she is being nasty but I understand the jealousy thing.... I was gutted every time another friend announced they were engaged as never seemed to be my turn (even after 7years) and I found it hard to listen to other peoples wedding plans. However I put my feelings aside to support my friends knowing it would my turn one day so I think you need to talk to your friend.

Yeah you need to talk to her x x

Its a difficult one but i agree with the others. You need to talk to her.
It is bound to be hard for her but its obvious that she hasnt accepted that her boyf never wants to get married. This sounds like a problem for them as a couple and maybe she needs a friend to talk to but doesnt want to mention it whilst you are in the middle of your own wedding plans. Make it known to her that she can talk.to you about it.

Good luck hun
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It does sound a little like jealousy. Perhaps she's not actually jealous of you, but rather really sensitive and defensive about her own situation and hearing about and being so involved in your wedding is making her seem miserable and nasty?

Personally, if she hasn't previously been the kind of person to do something nasty and spiteful, like ruin your wedding dress, I would chat to her? As nuts as she might seem right now maybe she's just not ok and could do with someone to talk to about it?

On the otherhand, if she has previous form for doing crazy things and acting out of spite I'd probably leave her alone right now and "tactfully" suggest one of your other bm's or mum help you get ready?!!

It's definitely a difficult situation for you, but ultimately it's your wedding day and you really shouldn't have to worry about you moh of all people sabotaging it xxx

I know of two couples who's partners never wanted to get married. The one thing that changes the mens mind was attending someone else's wedding!!!

Not kidding there must be something about weddings that make them realise that they can actually do it. One of my friends has now been married two years and the other is getting married next August.

Let your friend know that this can happen. It is not guaranteed that it will happen but being a best man may make him think that he wants his own special day. She may then view your wedding as the chance to get her fella to change his mind and then may get onboard with the planning of it xx

I'm sure she will snap out of it soon hun. She shouldn't be taking her bad feeling out on you.
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Its now got a little worse. She is now taking it out on my h2b and him and his best man have had a falling out too! All because of her attitude. I spoke to her and she seemed ok with me but im just worried its all getting out of hand!

Ok this is going to have the opposite effect of what she wants. She clearly wants her fella to propose. If all he can see is the stress that a wedding can cause - like falling out with his mate, the he is never gonna pop the question.

Hope she sorts herself out soon x

I was with a guy who didnt want to get married. I stayed with him for 5 years, waste of time when I definitely did want to get married at some point of my life and I knew it.