My wedding is in 80days!
As soon as I was asked 'the question' I ran to a good friend of mine, Gemma, and asked her to be my maid of honour! She was always seen as a best friend of H2B and lived a few miles away so would be easy to wedding plan together.. or so I thought..
My other 2 bridesmaids are best friends of mine but live in my hometown a good 60 miles away so meeting with them would be harder to work with.

Duties:
- When I booked a date to actually look and try on wedding dresses, my MOH just 'couldn't be bothered' and when I confronted her about it she apologized a big deal and promised she will be more involved from then on. So I forgave and forgot.
- When I took the bridesmaids out to choose bridesmaid dresses, she looked as though she was bored and pulled faces at any dresses we all picked out, making changes to make HER dress different to the other 2.
- I'm trying to organize a hen night for June, and she has chosen a venue I don't like, and a theme I don't like. When I try to ask nicely to change them I had the full wrath of an angry MOH.
- She upset me last night saying that the plans I tried to make, (making naughty named sashes for the hen party to wear), was inappropriate and upset everyone, (which nobody told me so i'm thinking possibly lies), so my H2B had words and got shouted at by her.

We're both tempted to just say don't come to our wedding but it's finding what to do with the dress, shoes and bouquet we have already bought?

Any help would be great.

Thank you!

Totally agree with Georgi hun, either bump one of your bridesmaids up to MOH and recruit new bridesmaid or sell the dress, shoes and bouquet. As Georgi said, they're unused so you should get your money back on them! She sounds a right pain hun and definitely your hen night should be about what you want, not what she wants xxx

Well, she keeps comparing mine & H2B's future marriage to her life with a lad who she's so obsessed with but she won't accept that he's moved on, got a baby now and that it just never works out for them.
We have tried to be there for her and spent so much money to help her to get over him but she just keeps going back to him.
We haven't seen her since December, and every time I've tried to meet up with her she just came up with some excuse that she's busy or suddenly very ill. H2B used to live with her at uni but since then he's had no contact with her unless she wants something or if her relationship is breaking down again.
She told him last year that she is going to his stag night (without asking) but he said no as it would be weird for him going out with the lads and having a female there as well. Our plan is to have the hen and stag on the same night anyway so neither one of us is stuck at home bored. I'm not sure really,

I've been unsure about her staying MOH for a while now and my other 2 bridesmaids have helped me out a lot with the wedding and plans etc so I might just stick to the ladies I have, and maybe ask someone else but I don't want them to then think they are an after-thought..

i got rid of my MOH as she wasn't interested in sorting anything for me hen or dress shopping nothing after her relationship broke down (9months before the wedding) so in the end i had people asking me about the hen do and i just said i don't know whats happeneding and to ask her to step down everytime we arranged to meet she fobbed me off so i thought right thats it and bumped my other BM to cheif and managed to ask my hubby's sister in law to be my other BM as she was the same size. thankfully she said yes and was really pleased to be my BM *Phew*

me and ex MOH talk but our relationship has never recovered and never will due to her actions to just bear that in mind when you make the decision.

tell her that you need her to be there otherwise you will have to ask someone else to get involved and take over due to her lack of interest. this might get her to buck her ideas up but by the sounds of it you need to do something now

Hmmmm, sack her hun! She is not someone you want in the run up to or on the day of your wedding ruining things! Sounds a little like she could be jealous, I'm a little suspicious of female best friends of blokes getting married and wonder sometimes if they are an ex or have had some secret desire for them and them will try to ruin things for the bride (like in "My Best Friend's Wedding" film).

Like others have said, you could sack her and promote another BM to MOH and maybe appoint another BM or just sell her dress and shoes etc.???

Get rid or her though, she is not worth the hassle xxx

Great minds Kel! x

I would speak to her hun, ask her if she would prefer not to be MOH if it is too much stress and would rather be a BM. This might just be enough to make her think of her behaviour and the consequences, or if she doesn't want to be MOH it will give her the opportunity to back out gracefully. X

We sent her one last message saying that we're unhappy with her attitude at the moment and do not want her to be maid of honour anymore. She replied simply saying "Don't worry I wasn't going to come to your wedding anyway!"

I told one friend who I only met in February but has known H2B since they went to school. Her being a wedding planner, she organised my hen night within 5 minutes! I have since then asked her to be my new MOH as she fits the dress and shoes anyway and has done more to help us then my other one did in the 10 months she had the role! Haha!!

Thank you everyone for your responses they've all helped so much! :)

Glad you've sorted the situation out. Sounds like it worked out for the best in the end :)

Brilliant news, definitely better without her stressing u out at every turn xx

its a shame about her response, but overall its good news. No need to worry anymore, you can relax and enjoy the process, plus your new MOH sounds very proactive. X