Ok so I'm way early in my planning, but I've always known that if I got married who my bridesmaids would be - my three best mates. I haven't asked any of them yet, although will be in the next few months or so, but my main thing is - I have no idea out of the three who should be maid of honour. Each of them is special to me in a different way - one I've known since I was two, and although we don't see each other regularly, she is like a sister to me (hard to explain lol), the second is my best mate from secondary school (so we've been through a lot together!) and the third is my best mate from uni (again, been through it all with her too!) - I honestly can't choose and I wondered if anyone else had a similar dilemma?! How did you pick? Or didn't you and let them all share the honour?
Oh also, they don't know each other - so I don't think there would be any jealously between them if I did end up picking one and not the other two. Oh and I don't have any sisters or anything, so no obvious choice from family etc.
Thanks! x
CommentAuthorGregorysGirl
It sounds like it could be an episode from Friends, lol. But I think you should go with what your heart says, rather than thinking you owe one more than the other for length of friendship. Who first pops into your head to have that part in your day. But also, the fact that you are going to ask all of them to be a part of your bridal party will have them all very happy I think. And you aren't that early in your planning, I have been planning since I got engaged over 2 years ago, lol. Good luck! :) xx
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CommentAuthorekielty(now Trow)
Could you not give them all MOH responsibilities and have them share the role?
Either that or do what they did in friends and set each of them challenges to compete for the role! lmao! xx
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CommentAuthorkrisw86
Yh gregorysgirl is right. go with ur gut instinct. They'll all be honoured to be asked to be ur bridemsaid so it shouldnt be a problem. And i'm not having a maid of honour. just bridesmaids as i'm scared i'll fall out wiht whoever i pick like i have done the last 2 times! xx
CommentAuthorloubyscooby
Go with the one who you wanted to tell first when you got engaged/started planning the day. I am sure whoever you pick they will all be pleased to be involved.
Which is the best at organising? I was asked to be maid of honour not because I was 'the best friend' but the best organiser. We had a small crisis on the wedding day not that the bride knew. You need someone who is calm in a crisis and can manage people. There is a lot to do pre wedding and on the day, which of your 3 do you think would be best?
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CommentAuthorBeskiboo
Definatly agree, you need to pick the person that you feel will be able to give you the best support and will help you keep everything together. Think it's helps if they are a good peacemaker and have a really positive outlook. At the end of the day all your other friend should want is for you to have the best day possible.
CommentAuthorjoey86
Thanks for the advice - I know I should go with my gut instinct, but my gut likes to change it's mind every two seconds! Gonna have a think about it over the next few months and then just go for it... Either way, I can't wait to ask them all to be involved :-) I think I will probably cry when I do - oh god help me on my wedding day, I'm gonna be an emotional wreck the entire day (in a good way obv!) x
CommentAuthorBeskiboo
You don't have to rush into it I have picked who I think I will have as my bridesmaids but am going to sit on it for a month or so just to be sure.
CommentAuthorMoomie
What is a maid of honour supposed to do? Could you give them an important moh duty each so that its fair if you can't decide. one can organise your hen night, the other could hold your engagement ring on the day.
CommentAuthorkrisw86
ooo moomie has a good point. let them all share the duties so in effect u dont choose. just explain to them that u cant decide between them as u love them all, so ur gonna let them all share the duties xx
CommentAuthorRobynFrances1990
Krisw good idea... also less things for you to worry about Xx
CommentAuthorkrisw86
yea they can help with anything that she needs doing. im doing it with my girls as i dont wanna pick one. last time i did, we had a massive fall out cos of her immature and selfish behaviour! x
CommentAuthorYourFirstDanceBride
My sister is my maid of honour so I was lucky there but I wasn't sure of how she would be at organising. But she has come up trumps and I don't know what I would have done without her. She is an absoulte star.
I am a bridesmaid for a friend in October and we were all so honoured to be asked that we don't mind who is maid of honour.
You could always play the game from friends where you get someone to ask you random questions and you have to gove snap answers!
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Don't have one hun - tell tlwhat you told us I'm sure they'll be happy xxx
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CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
I think sharing the MOH duties between them would be a good idea, and explain the reason behind it. I'm sure whatever you decide, they'll all be thrilled just to be a part of your big day :)
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CommentAuthorEmsy5000
I had the same problem and decided that they where all maids of honor and gave them all different roles from that job to look after.
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CommentAuthorSteffie
babe i had a similar problem! My 2 besties from different eras of my life and my cousin (who i don't always see) are my bridesmaids. well i couldnt decide between my 2 besties so i've got 2 maid of honours!!! and sod everyone else lol xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Hacker to-be!
I'm having 3 bridesmaids and altho i've given one the title of MOH......to be honest she isn't really doing anything more than the rest of them. If you really can't decide i would say split things all between them like i'm kinda doing. x x x x
