So, my MOH hasnt been the best over the past 12 months, theres always something in her life more pressing than helping me with the wedding or even taking much interest... (and i have barely delegated anything so she hasnt had much to do!), but i wasnt surpised when in the summer she said she was moving to coventry! I was as always very supportive and she reassured me that she would be at the hen do and the wedding. However, she has now mentioned that she's not sure she will be able to make the hen do due to financial concerns. The one thing she did do was organise it and she has done a fab job so im pretty gutted she might not be there, but im now also worried that she might not make the wedding! She's always been the sort of person that says yes until the last minute and then pulls out.... I have asked her about the wedding and she has assured me she wouldnt miss it but im still a little worried! I guess its out of my hands and of course if she cant afford it i understand, just needed to vent! Thanks Ladies!
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this, and yes it is out of your hands so try not to worry. I no its easy saying that. What will be will be, if she says she is coming and she is a good friend she should. Not much else I can think to advise but I do hope you get it sorted x x
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
Mcquire, I had/have a similar issue.
My MOH pulled out of my hen last minute as her dad wasn't well and she needed to be home as her mum doesn't drive. I was gutted as she is very special to me and had previously had a lot of input into the prep but has now waned a litle.
She just had a lot on her mind as her dad is very poorly and she no longer is working.
Keep you're chin up. I'm sure she'll come good for you xx
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
Mexico for our first anniversary
CommentAuthorJodyx
Sorry to hear this hun, my MOH isnt mine any more we have fell out majorly :( xx
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CommentAuthorSam
This is a common complaint. If you look through the forum archives you'll see a lot of similar posts. Unless you are planning a wedding in a very short amount of time most people will develop wedding fatigue, even those in the wedding party. It's just the nature of the beast. I think you need to have an honest conversation about her means and her ability to come the wedding. Does she need help with transportation and/or accommodation? Has she set aside the cash to come. Offer her a way out if need be. But, you really need to know what is going on.
I know you've spent lots already but if she backs out of the wedding due to finances, have you enough to help with travel costs, maybe offer to pay half?
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorTeganandRob
That's a shame she can't make it but I think if she put so much effort into organising she is probably gutted as well. Maybe she weighed up their finances and realised she couldn't afford both the hen and the wedding so made the decision to not attend the hen so she could definitely attend the wedding.
CommentAuthormcquire81
We really cant afford to help her with her travel costs, especially as we have other guests coming from further afield who have paid themselves, but i have already arranged a free night at the venue for her the night before, bought her dress and accessories and they are staying with family for free on the wedding night so they dont have to bring any money bar their petrol. She says they have budgeted for that and its just she's worried she cant afford both and would rather miss the hen do than the wedding. I do understand, i guess im just feeling a little let down that this situation has happened with her again. Ive spoken with her many times in the past 12 months about money and such... and when she told me she was moving to coventry last month i even offered her a way out of being MOH if it was going to be too expensive, so i have tried to be understanding. Im sure im worrying over nothing and she will make the wedding.... i guess its just the last thing i want to worry about a month before! Its cool, these things happen i guess! Thanks for all your advice ladies, much appreciated xxx
