My maid of honor is H2B's sister but she lives in kent and im up in Newcastle. She visited a few days ago for 2 nights and now shes said shes not coming up again. Surely she can't still expect to be my maid of honor if she can't commit to being there for my hen do or even wedding. She didn't elaborate, just said she's never coming up again. I now want my H2B's sister in law to be my maid of honor but how do i tell his sister that its just not possible anymore. xx
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CommentAuthorMrsLane2Be
Are you sure she meant ever ever? I'd get more information out of her before jumping to conclusions, either way hope you get it sorted! x
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CommentAuthormillz090
Surely your maid of honour should be YOUR best friend who will support you, help plan the wedding and hen do, keep you relaxed, listen to your ideas..... I think maybe you should reconsider but seriously think about who you want? It's a big role and shouldn't be flippantly given out in my opinion xxxx
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CommentAuthorMrsMcculla2be
Oh don't get me wrong i really did want my H2B's sister to be my MOH but the few days she was here completely went wrong so now i really do not want her to be but don't want to sound mean about revoking the position. When i asked her to be Maid of honor she came up a lot but somethings changed and she doesn't want to come up anymore but the thing is nobody knows WHATS actually gone on. Im so confused by it all myself xx
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CommentAuthorLittleMissWorry
I'd have some chats with her, maybe over the phone. Not mentioning the wedding, but trying to find out how she is and what's happened. I definitely wouldn't take the MOH position away from her without knowing the full story.
I'm sure she can't have meant she wasn't going to come to the wedding. Maybe just not coming up as often, or for social visits for a while. She can still be supportive to you over the phone and email, and its still quite a while before your wedding so hopefully this will all be sorted by then :)
I would put the moh issue to one side for a minute and try to find out exactly what's going on...if she used to come up regular and is now refusing, it sounds like there is something more to it.
You say the last time she went up things went majorly wrong...reading between the lines, maybe hers was just a flippant comment without thinking...sometimes if we've been up town with friends and the night goes peter tong I'll come home and be like 'remind me never to go to such and such a place' again...so I'm thi king that you might be taking her comment out of context? Worth an ask, I think.
Maybe you could mention that as maid of honour you expect her to be their for dress shopping and hen do - if she refuses, then it gives you an in to say 'well, if you can't do it, would you rather just be a bridesmaid' or something.
Hope you get it sorted Hun xx
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CommentAuthorMrsMcculla2be
Well nothing actually happened to make it go wrong last time she was up, she just refused to talk to me of H2b and has since invited him to hers but said me and our daughter aren't welcome and we're all flabbergasted as to what i've done wrong. I worry too much about what other people think to be honest xx
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
I'm the same, sometimes I worry too much about what other people think, I try not to but I can't help it! Has your H2B spoke to her and asked if you've done anything wrong to upset her? xx
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CommentAuthorVelcro
As soon as id heard the words 'not welcome' id be asking why. you've clearly no idea what you could have done, so you need to find out who has been running the rumour mill, or why shes suddenly taken the funnies, could she have misread somethingyou have said ordone to make her react like that?
one thing for sure though, in saying that,she should expect to not be BM anymore, least of all MOH
I would try to find out why shes taken the funnies with you first of all though. Half the time its down to some daft missunderstanding
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Wow that's really odd...why are you not welcome?! If you're not welcome surely she can't expect to be your moh...
Could h2b maybe have a chat with her? Something's definately going on...xx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
Something has gone on with her to change how she feels towards you
You need to have a chat with her or if she is favouring ur h2b then get him to but u need to find out, if she doesn't want to know when u have done your best to get it out of her then ask ur h2b's SIL as she hasn't given u much choice
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
All sounds very strange if you ask me. Maybe write her a letter and see if she responds to it.
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CommentAuthorbex
oh dear hope u get it sorted x
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CommentAuthorMrsMcculla2be
Thank you all! I'm going to have a word today so will update you later. xx
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CommentAuthorShazk
I think like other ladies said U need to find out what the problem is before U sort out the moh issue!
For her to say not welcome is very strong and that needs to be sorted x
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CommentAuthorMissEmmaT
Hi not sure if this is where i should be posting this?? I'm also having my H2B sister as my MOH. We live in Aberdeen and she lives in Fort William. It takes a bus and a train journey to get here/there. What is my best option for sorting out her dress? Do I meet her halfway in Inverness, get her to come here, or just order online and hope for the best? What do you ladies think I should do? xx
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
I would meet her halfway, then you're both making the same effort as each other xx
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CommentAuthorTori
I personally think that you have grounds to revoke your offer in response to you not being welcome to visit her. Perhaps get h2b to find out what the problem Xx
CommentAuthorMissEmmaT
I might do that then. Make a girly weekend of it, book into a hotel and have a couple of days shopping and pampering :-) xx
