Hey girlls just wanted to get a 2nd opinion i dont knoe if im over reacting so here goes,
I have 3 bridesmaids one of them is my maid of honor my close friend.
Me and my fiance are fue to be married on 3rd may next yr so now i am booking things and attending wedding shows etc. the thing is my moh has let me down a few times now when i have made plans to go to wedding stuff
1st time was a wedding show i was going to go to , she wouldnt give me a straight answer said she had to check work etc , faie enough... Turns out she couldnt make it, bit said she felt bad. I saod to her at least come to the main big wedding fayre in our area whixh she assured me she defiantely will and ssaid she was off tbat weekend so would defos come.. Got to the day and i heard nothing .. I had to txt her and turned out she went into work and when i txt her she acted as though she never promised she would come just said she was workimg..
So then i told her i had consultation for flowers and she promised she would defo come to that.. Again day of the consultation i had to txt her and she asked if i had moved the appt to that day when clearly we diacussed this i know because i checked the messages amd she was asking if that was a fri and i told her no sat, she said she would dedinately come as her daughter had no comps on until the sun(her daughter in a wee dance club and does some comps),she told me that morning in txt ahe was going to watch her dance at a shopping centre.. so when i txt her saying no it was always the sat she never txt me back? She never txts me about wedding atuff and there always seems to be a drama.. Her daughters
Not well, shes not well her dads gt a broken knee, etc etc i cant help but feel ahes not interested and her life is too hecktic?? Am i being a bi**ch?? Am i expecting too much too soon? I dont think im being premature in booking things as roung the just over a year mark things need to be gettn booked? What do youz think? I just hate she acts like weve not made plans to do this stuff when we have and wverything else seems to come in front or she mever feels the need to say sorry for lwtting me down and leaving it to me to txt her to remind her and shes planning to do something else anyways?

Thats a dhame:( its weird how u see a different side to pdople at times like this:/.. My sis in law whos a bridesmaid has been askin me what my moh and other bm thinks of dresses etc we have been sending to each other and i feel i need to lie to make it look like shes interested? When really she doesnt say much lol. Think im gna have to speak to her.. Its not that recently we had a discussion and i txt her saying i wasntd to meet and talk to her amd she automatically thought it wS that i was going to say i didnt want to have her as a moh .. She seemed happy when it turned out it wasnt that so u'd think she would be conciois of that? :/argghh sp annoying xxx

I also think you're being a bit harsh, you've got well over a year to go. I didn't ask my MOH to go to any wedding fairs/shows with me, or to any flower appointments. I asked her to come dress shopping once for me, shopping for her dress, and then to my final fitting. I wouldn't have expected her to be so involved in the planning. I asked their opinions on some things over email, but I never expected them to stop living their lives just because I was getting married.

I didn't consult any of my bms on anything, not even their dress, to be fair you do have a long time to go so I'd just relax a little and not expect anything, her daughter will always come first no matter what so if she tells you she's busy your just gonna have to accept it... Sorry Hun, prob not wha you wanna hear but there you go x

My situation is a bit different because my MOH and my bridesmaid (only having 1) are in another country. My friends in London have offered to come to my dress appointments and have said they will 'do whatever they can to be helpful'. The way I see it, the MOH, BM, and close friends are there to talk through things with and help the week before. Setting things up, pick up stuff, and keeping me calm and sane. People are insanely busy and their own lives are going to take precedent, especially this far in advance. Hopefully the week before she'll be more available!

My BM is my sister and I get her opinions on everything. My h2b has the attitude of if I want it as long as I show him and it's within budget I can get it, he is so laid back. My BM is my sister and she has come to wedding fayres but she is getting married less than 9 months after me she would have come as my BM anyway. I send her emails about everything and speak to her as much as I can, it's maybe different for us though as we are sisters getting married so close together. I hope that she can come with me to the flower shops but she is crazy busy as am I so we just need to plan and have our diaries at the ready as soon as we arrange something it's in the diary.

We are going BM dress shopping 21st June and then maybe July-August we will go to flower shops.

I am similarly in the same boat as you, my MOH is my sister, and seen as my mum in a 4 hour hour drive away i cant go anywhere with her. We arent girly girls so i know its wierd and boring for her but she just turns her nose up at everything and cant tell if its jealousy or just doesnt like anything i try on. (im the youngest of all 4 children and 1st one to get married!) She picked her dress and I ordered it for her, it arrive and all she did was put her thumbs up awkwardly so i think she doesnt like it on but she says she does, i never know! she doesnt want to do anything weddingy with me but she is kind of making an effort for trying on my wedding dress as know one else i can take with me. It is so annoying! but in your case you can cut her as MOH and just have a bridesmaid so not such a demanding role?