Wedding Forum - Made my Step-Mum cry...

My OH lost his mum when he was 5 and his dad has since re-married, he doesnt call her mum though. Paul's step-mum is also 62 so alot older than my mum. Anyway we still want Elaine (step-mum) to feel involved as not officaly mother of the groom but asked her to be our witness instead, she was so overwhelmed and cried. Was very sweet and felt we had really made her day but my OH's sisters are not impressed. I think they think they should be doing something like that rather than their step-mum but our choice and want everyone to be involved. Also apartently it isnt tradiontal for parents to be the witnesses - should be Bridesmaid and Best man but i didnt realise and already asked her.

Also, my parents are divorced and i am really close to my step-dad so want him to be involved in our wedding still. He wont be walking me down the aisle as my dad will be but asked him to be our witness instead too and he was overwhelmed.

I think its nice to make everyone feel involved... what do you think? xx

I think its a lovely idea to have your step parents as your witnesses. xx

I think its a wonderful idea to include your step parents, and clearly it means so much to them both which is lovely :-)

Thanks girls - made me feel better about having them both now. xx

Thats lovely - and had made me think now about asking my own Mum xxxx

My two son's are our witnesses, I never thought about etiquitte! As my parents are dead now I've asked FIL2b to give me away x x

I think that's lovely. The witnesses can be anyone you want over 18

We had my Bm the best man x

im gonna sound stoooopid now but what does OH mean???? xxx

Aw just saw this and thought that's a lovely idea. Now I'm thinking of asking my step parents. my mum is married and my dad has been with his partner for 16 years so they're a big part of family really. We haven't always seen eye to eye but this now seems like a really nice way to put all the rough times behind us all and start again. My step dad doesn't have any children of his own either so I think this might be nice for him to feel involved. hmmmm decisions.

Sounds lovely hun! Tbh its your day, have whoever you want as witnesses :) Xx

KistHall - glad i could help haha !! I know the feeling though of keeping everyone involved. We both have 4 brothers and sisters each who are all married with children so plenty of neices and nephews plus 3 sets of parents and grandparents so hard work involving everyone but have to draw the line somewhere or wont be any guests as all bridal party. But my step parents are important to us so important they are involved too and keeps my FIL2B happy too as his wife is involved xxx

we had both our mums as the witnesses as the dads get to give a speach we thought it would be nice to have the mums involved too, it doesnt matter what the traditional thing to do is, its your day and it sounds like you have made two people very happy by asking them and thats really nice. x

I think its lovely - like others have said, its your day. x

this is really lovely :) i was bit worried wen i opened it that it would be something bad lol but how lovely to involve your step paqrents in you day :) i havnt even thought about witnesses yet!!!! lol x