Ive totally lost my mojo for my wedding- i have been planning it since March last year and with 6 months to go i just can't be bothered with it anymore. Everything is booked but my invites are still sitting in the box that they came in and im struggling to even raise a smile. We currently live with my partners parents because our flat is on the market - we are due to buy a house together once the flat has sold, i think this adds to the 'pressure' of this relationship. I have been on and off with him for 13 years but very much together for the last 6.5 and we got engaged last March. It had got to the point where i was going to have 'the chat' with him to see whether he did want marriage etc but then he went and proposed! we were great post engagement more in love than ever, but a year or so down the line and we are like this. We argue about everything and anything. I love him very much and can't imagine my life without him but he is irritating me no end and im sick of it. What do i do? i dont want to cancel the wedding and neither does he but we can't carry on.
CommentAuthorAna40
Have you tried having sometime to yourselves, away from it all? X
CommentAuthorNatalieD205
Sounds like the stress and pressure of not having your own space could be a factor in this. could you maybe book a couple of days away somewhere not very expensive just for the time away from it all ...... you can get hotel rooms for £30 a night if you shop around and dont go on a friday or saturday. I really feel for you as when I sell my house we will probably live with H2B's parents for a while and as much as i love them..... its not the same as having your own space...... cant relax the same and feel pressure to be polite and happy all the time.... I'm sure some of the irritation is just from the inability to move forward like you want to..... it is frustrating.... Take some time together....... alternatively...... convince his parents to get away for a while so you can have the house to yourselves for a few days :)
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CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
I remember as we got closer to our wedding, we both suffered badly from "wedding fatigue."
Best bit of advice I can give you is to have a week away from the "W" word. Do not do anything wedding related, don't talk about it and just spend some time together, even if its at home.
Also, perhaps you do need to think do you really want to get married? You do say you were ready to finish the relationship until he proposed. At the end of the day, last thing u want is to end up in a marriage you don't want x
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
Mexico for our first anniversary
CommentAuthorBev
I agree with the girls above, you need to spend some quality time with each other, without mentioning the wedding. It can be so stressful at times without the added pressure of feeling like you can't move forward in your own lives whilst you're living with his parents so really try and get some 'date' time with each other. If you still feel the way you do after talking and getting away from it all, maybe you should discuss where it is you both want you relationship to go.
I definitely agree with the others that 'date night' is needed! Have a wedding free night and have fun! Xxx
29/09/2008 - The Day we met
12/11/2008 - When we decided to be more than friends
04/11/2012 - A proposal in Central Park NYC
08/11/2014 - The day we say I do!
