Didn't really know which category to put this one in... and sorry it's a bit long.

Hello ladies, I was just looking for a bit of support really, someone to let me know that losing all intrest in their wedding has happened to them too.

These days I seem to spend all my time on the phone to my mam finding out if my dad's medication for his MS is sorted yet and seeing if she is okay ( as she is everyone's rock and never has anyone to be her rock, plus she has not been well herself ). Then a few days ago I find out that my nanna has alzamis ( really don't know how to spell it but hopefully you can all work out what it means ). And if I'm not on the phone to my mam or worrying about them all H2B and myself have been around his dad's spending time with his niece as we both know if his sister gets her back we will probably only see her once a year, if that. Everytime the post comea I'm hoping theres a letter from the hospital saying that the H2B's scan is here. Then on top of all of that it's Christmas soon and we are having to decide on who will be getting their gifts after Christmas as paying off the vet bill has eaten basically all of our Christmas shopping fund.

But I feel a bit bad by not finding time to do wedding things anymore. Not finding it in myself to be a little bit more intrested in it. Please someone tell me I'm not alone in this.

X

I think if you have enough going on in your life at the moment then the wedding can take a back seat as you got plenty of time anyway until the wedding.

My H2B has just lost his job and i we are surviving on one wage and things are tight while he looks for a new job but the wedding takes a back seat as i need to concentrate on something else at the moment and not worry about too much. You go through peaks and troughs surrounding the wedding but ultimately life carries on..... xxx

its healthy to not think about it for a while and then when you feel like you want to organise something its much closer and you get the va va voom again

You have so much to deal with its really not surprising you feel this way. But I do know your wedding will bring smiles to all those going through hard times right now, its something people can look forward to.
Take some time out for yourself xx

it comes in waves with me sometimes im in the mood for it n then others im fed up with the whole thing just take your time n youll get there xx

I have lost interest in my wedding at the minute as i have enough problems with work, so you arent alone.

I think you have enough going on at the moment that it is not at all surprising to hear you aren't interested. Don't feel bad about it chick, you have plenty of time to organise things. When things quieten down at home, you'll be able to get back into the wedding planning xx

Novelty has worn off for me recently we cant seem to get started so Ive lost all interest for the time being, maybe when the savings stop getting swallowed up by broken beds, washing machines, random tax bills new bathrooms kitchens and patio doors I might actually get in the swing of it, but at the moment it just feels like one extra expense on the list, so Ive jut put it to the back of my mind for the time being, while we clear all the shit, then hopefully I'll be more upbeat about it all! I think the key thing is as long as we still want to marry them, then getting sick of weddingy things in general is ok - Id quite happily just get married in a bin liner next week somewhere the way I feel about the whole thing recently

All of the above comments are spot on in my opinion
I have gone through times of cramming and wanting to do it all then a few months of serious CANNOT BE BOTHERED attitude!
The beauty of it is, If you are organised (which I am, just cant help myself) you can afford to have a few months "off" the wedding when you feel like this
Once you return to it, it is so much more exciting & fun

I agree that a little break from it here & there is healthy & gets you used to the fact it wont last forever
After all, life goes on & the wedding stuff wont continue to take your time after your day x

Hey honey i am the same as you, but i think especially when you have alot of time to plan, the excitement from the first few months of engagement slowly dwindles i find OH and i are rowing about money a lot which i dont wnt to happen as obviously we want to want to marry each other hehe!

but i think it happens to everyone. iv got excited again since joining up this site!! xxxxxx

My wedding is in August 2014 and so far I've only booked the venue, photographer and florist. This was done back in June and I've booked nothing since. I'm just using this time I have thinking of ideas and cost cutting tricks. But I know that everything will be sorted :-)
You get engaged and then set the date and life goes on in between :-)

to be honest with you i am going through that now i want to do things but cant and occasionally look at stuff but just feeling that i cant be bothered!! I just want to go away and do it just us!!! it so expensive and i feelawful saying it bu my parents said they could give us a lump sum of money which was why we could afford to book the whole thing and now it looks like they cant give us that which means that we are £1000 down!! dont think it gona happen but am too fewd up to fo anything1!! xx i wouldnt worry too much im sure you will gain interest again in a few months xxx

if i were you i would be putting all things wedding away till after Christmas and not worry about it .... then look at what is in your control or not ...

h2b scan ... how long has he been waiting ? if its a while get him call the hospital and ask to speak to his consultants Secretary ( they are amazing) and see if she knows anything or can speed it up at all.

can you make a date for you and you mum to go for lunch together