Poor Spooney! I'll bet you anything he has his eye on borrowing some of your parent's money for something else. What a loser!!
You are doing nothing wrong. I felt bad accepting help at first too, but your parents have probably looked forward to this for years and years and it probably makes them happy to be part of this in this way.
A big : P to your stoooopid brother-in-law and chin up!!
CommentAuthorClaire Sky
oh honey xxxx sending lots of hugs!! xxx familys are a giant pain in the ass!!!!! xxxx and no way cancel your wedding xxxx
CommentAuthorsbride
Sorry your having a rubbish time hun, i dont think u should call the wedding off though, u have put so much into it x
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CommentAuthoremster
(((((hugs))))) Hang in there Spooney. Dont call the wedding off, we're date buddies xx I wouldn't enjoy my day if I knew you weren't doing yours too. Am always on here checking how your doing :-) xx
CommentAuthor4lannie4
big hugs spooney, jealousy is a terrible thing and just goes to show his true colours your mum wouldnt offer unless she wanted to do so, and at the end of the day dont let him ruin your big day hun xx
thanks girls, I think with all thats gone on the last couple of weeks with me that today was the last straw and it just made me snap, and now I am paying for the argument as my body had reacted badly to it and now I am struggling to even get around the flat.....so hate this bloody fibromyalgia sometimes.
Still to have a chat with my parents which wont happen til my car is sorted so at the moment I am trying to work out how we are going to pay the £200 for the car, then I can clear my head of that and concentrate on what to do next.
But I do really appreciate everyones thoughts and advice and even the "drag Spooney to church" group! x
26th December 2007 - the day I met my special man
8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
became Mrs Dickie for life. xx
CommentAuthortorialou
What the chuff does he think he's playing at?!!! Silly man!! Don't you dare cancel!! I know some people have to pay for their weddings themselves but parents usually make a contribution however small it may be! That's what I think is so lovely about weddings; everyone is eager to rally round and do their bit to make your day special. I bet that if your Mum knew what had happened she would be livid!! You know he is in the wrong, we all do, so please don't stress and most certainly don't make yourself ill. MIL has fibromyalgia so have some understanding. Money is nice, but it isn't everything. We are sharing a car at the moment, Simons car is sat on the drive: untaxed etc but we're doing it to try and save a little money. It's a huge pain because we don't work anywhere near each other but at the moment "Every little helps!" (No I don't work for Tesco's)LOL
CommentAuthorWingedSnail
Loads of Hugs xxx
Try not to let him upset you anymore than he already has; it's your parents choice to help you if they want to, it's completely nothing to do with him. They'd prob be more upset if you cancelled. He's a selfish idiot.
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CommentAuthorspooney24
Thanks, I know that money isnt everything torialou as some days ive gone without food to get this wedding to where it is, as even though we have 2 wages coming in I've only 12hrs a week work til my 2nd job starts and Paul is losing out in overtime as place isnt busy so thats £200 each month we are under out of our already tight budget. I am now going for another job as a part time cleaner and know its physically more than I should be doing but means must. We have one car and Pauls motorbike has been sitting in the shed for 4 months now broken as we cant afford to fix it, and neither of us work same hours so I am taxiing him to work and then home, then I got to work.
Havent slept much and wont be seeing my parents til the weekend at the earliest. Also still waiting for the refund from my photographer (another stressful situation)! Still unsure whether this wedding will go ahead if i am truly honest. x
26th December 2007 - the day I met my special man
8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
became Mrs Dickie for life. xx
CommentAuthorTigerlily
hunny, everything will work itself out! it would be devastating to cancel or even postpone the wedding at this late time...your parents will be upset as they money they are giving you would be wasted. im sure if needs must they could stretch to lend you what you need and then you could pay that amount back to them. Money is always a worry for everyone...believe me i know...im meant to be having a baby in 7 months and i have no spare money whatsoever...we cant save anything atm because marcs hours have just been cut, so he is trying to look for another job which pays a bit better and im at risk of losing my job because of the baby so we are potentially screwed atm! the wedding is your light at the end of the tunnel...its so close and after that the stress and worry will have been lifted...is taking on so much work going to make you really ill? because its not worth jeprodising your happiness and comfort on the day! xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
Spooney! Dont fret. We will tackle each problem one at a time. Even if you need to make a cut back or too, we will come up with ways to make this happen for you hunni.
18-09-10
Now a married lady :)
Im a rebel me
CommentAuthorshellay
do not let him put you off, you have your perfect wedding day, and let your parents help you, they would not have offered if they did not want to do this for you, you are both very hard working and deserve the best day of your lives to be special. You can make arrangements if necessary to pay back the parents afterwards, maybe there are a few corners you could cut, just to trim down on expenses. but do not cancel, you want to get married so dont let anyone put you off :)x
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I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
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CommentAuthorRaquel007
(((BBIIIGGGG HHHUUUUGGGGSSSSS)))
OMG what right does your BIL have?? None, you are their daughter and if they want to help you then thats up to them. If they paid for your sisters wedding then they must have paid for your BIL's too!! Ignore him and rise above it, your doing more than he did for his wedding so just know that you are better. If your parents had a problem with helping then they wouldn't have offered. They do it becuase they love you. My mom and the H2B's parents are helping us a little, it's what parents do for their kids!! xx
CommentAuthorSuzi
Oh hun im sorry your going through such a tough time! Let me give you a ((((((((((BIG HUG)))))))))) You cant honestly want to cancel the wedding sweetie, not this close to the big day! Just think in 3 months time everything will have been paid for (hopefully) im not even going to comment about your BIL as you know what a d*ck he is being! As you said previously, I don't think your mum would of asked when your popping over to collect some money if they didn't have it to give you in the first place. I would just laugh at him and ask when is he going to bother to pay some rent to your mum & dad. There should be no considering what to do about the wedding hun, it should be going ahead whether your BIL likes it or not, you have put everything into it and deserve to have the best day ever and I know you WILL have it. The 24th of July 2010 will be the best day ever for you! x x x
Do not disturb... Already disturbed enough!
CommentAuthorMelly
So sorry to hear everyone Spooney. You know where to find me if you want to talk about anything. xx
CommentAuthorKevsgirl
Ohhhh BIG HUGS, you poor thing. How dare he try and make you feel guilty. My sister is abit like that, doesn't like my parents helping out or doing anyting with the other 3 of us, she didn't talk to me for 4 months when M&D gave me their spare washing machine, not that my sister needed a washing machine.
If you parents have helped all the others, why shouldnt they help you too?
Have a chat with your M&D and see what they say.
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs Nicol
hope u get it sorted out... :)
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Spooney i hope your okay :) Maybe a lil time out wud do u good? I know thats what i needed when everything got on top of me! xx
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorspooney24
edited
no I will be fine honest, the wedding itself was something positive to focus on and had got me through a really bad health scare last year and a miscarriage so I will continue to do stuff for it like making my invites,etc but hesitant over the money side of things. It isnt just what my bro in law said thats made me feel this way about possibly postponing the wedding or cancelling it, its a combination of loads of crappy times over the last few months and it just came to a head yesterday with what he said.
Have already reduced our budget to as low as we can go as I havent got any frills and extras in the wedding day at all. x
26th December 2007 - the day I met my special man
8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
became Mrs Dickie for life. xx
