Hi all, iv never started a post before so apologies if this goes wrong :o) Amazing site by the way, its been soooo helpful! I just wanted to get a few peoples opinions on a small situation that’s come up as I really cant decide what to do. Our wedding is booked for the 1st April (Yep April fools, very appropriate for us!!) and iv had my bridesmaids chosen for a while now and we’ve been out dress shopping etc. I have ordered my dress and we have more or less made a decision on the bridesmaid dresses, but wanted to visit a few more shops to make sure we had our favourites, shopping planned for this weekend.
Anyways my bridesmaids were all meeting up last night to plan the Hen do (as a total surprise) so I decided to meet them once they had finished discussions. Then the shock, one of my bridesmaids is pregnant. I’m very very very happy for her and am soo excited as she’s the first of our group of friends to be having a baby but now i need to decide if i still want her to be my bridesmaid.
I think I do, but her due date is likely to be the end of April, so am I cutting this to close? H2B has said he doesn’t think she should be bridesmaid anymore, and has practically said i need to drop her or he’s not going to be happy. I can see his point of view but I still really want her involved, will i sound like a total cow if I tell her I don’t want her as my bridesmaid because she’s pregnant. Bearing in mind I’m buying the dresses (and dress shopping will need to start again as the ones we’ve picked will not work for a 8 month pregnant lady!) and originally I didn’t ask another friend to be bridesmaid because she’s trying for a baby and I didn’t want to chance the dates.
I literally don’t know what to do for the best, be a total cow and tell her she cant be bridesmaid, or change the plan for dresses and hope she’s still able to do it at 8 n a bit month pregnant! And probably annoy another mate because her possibly getting pregnant meant I didn’t ask her! Any advise greatly received guys! :o) x (sorry for the long post)
CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
Hmmm, hon, I think you should ask her. She may not want to be 9 months pregnant and standing in a pretty dress, plus there's fittings. I don't think telling her she can't is very nice but giving her the option isn't. You obviously don't feel comfortable telling her you don't want her. If she's a good friend she'll be honest with you and understand the difficulties, plus what if she's due early? Then you have a dress and no bridesmaid. xx
CommentAuthormelvis
a friend of mines sis got pregnant and she was 8 months at the wedding day, the seamstress just added another panel into the back of the dress, it looked fine and at the reception she just sat down all night and chatted to guests and family members. and as she couldnt drink she was way more attentive and concentrated on helping the bride.
you cant help that she got pregnant and its fantastic news, unless you really dont WANT her to be a bridesmaid anymore i dont see why she shouldnt be...x
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CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
Good point melvis x
CommentAuthorcharlottelee
Like the above posts it isnt the end of the world. Ok maybe the dress wont suit but you can still have her involved. it is a tough one but as a friend of yours i would talk to her. Maybe have her involved withhout being a bridesmaid as such. My sister is currently pregnant and told me she didnt want to be a bridesmaid cos will have a newborn to look after but instead she is signing the register for me and most of the planning
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Thanks for the advise, im planning on seeing her the weekend n im going to have a chat with her but i think we might have to wait untill we find out her exact due date before i get to worried about it. If its any closer than the end of April i think she'll agree that its probably to close to the wedding. Does anyone know how long bridesmaid dresses take to come in from a bridal shops?
Looks like its just as well im unorganised and have left the planning to 6 months before :o) x
CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
I think it depends on the dress maker hon, if she/you decide that she is going to be bridesmaid you will probably have to see the dress maker again anyway x
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
You could always get an empire style dress and let the shop know she'll be pretty pregnant by the wedding, this happens all the time! Plus I've seen loads of weddings now where the bridesmaids aren't all in the same dress, but can be in different shades etc dosn't matter if she's not in exactly the same one - a mate of mine is getting married next month, but found out 6 months ago she's also expecting, so had to cancel her wedding dress and find another more suitable for pregnant brides - there are shops and websites that specialise in these! She's had no problems with the fittings, and the seamstress has made extra allowances for the predicted bump growth - maybe google pregant bridesmaid dress and you'll be surprised at what you find! You can't just ditch your mate because she got up the duff
CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
LOL Bridalmiss, good suggestions though. Married in Liverpool...awesome...I love Liverpool :)
