don't know how people will feel about this post...mods can decide and delete if necessary

but i thought i would start something that we can all share a memory or 2 about our loved ones who are no longer here and not going to be here to see our big days!!!

Doesn't have to be a big long story ..jut your faveourite memory..as im sure they will all be looking down on us on our big days and giving us the biggest smile ever xx

I think it's a lovely idea :) we are having 7 lanterns lite at our wedding for the family who are unable to attend.

H2B's grandparents (nan is still alive but in a home so we've included her), my gran, my uncle (dad's brother) & my dear cousin who was just 20 when he died :(

xx

My grandad, most important man in my life, was always there for me. Remember when we tried to make him quit smoking he useed to hide his ciggies in the roll up of his trousers ;o) miss him loads x

Oh n my friend nadine, she died when she was 17, nearly 5 years ago now... favourite memory is her tryin to teach mason n box...

i want to light one for my grandma and granddad, i miss you both so so much, i wish they were both here to share in my special day, my grandma was here for both my brothers weddings love you always and forever xxxxxxxxxxxxx

:( so sad Becca big hugs hun. Thinking of you xx

aw bless you chic thats so sad thinking of you and sending big hugs,i would like to light 4 candles for my granparents i didnt know my dads parents as they died when i was quite young,my mums dad died when i was old enough to remember him but not alot,but my mums mum i miss dearly she lived with us for years in her own little granny flat in our house she was a big part of my life and was devastated when she died i miss her so much ;-(,can im also light 2 other candles for my best friend and her little boy they both died few years ago and i miss them dearly to thinking of you all xxxxxx

And I'd love to say awww bless to everyone elses, you all have me welling up. xXx

awww this is sad yet so nice at the same time!!!!

another memory i have is when h2b first met my dad..my dad worked in aberdeen football club and supported them too..whereas h2b is a big Rangers fan...they both joked there was goin to be conflict but they got on well..and it was sad they only knew each other for a year! ..ahh he'll be watchin me from up above and sayin what a silly girl lol

i love this idea hun,

thank you for giving us the opportunity to do this

1st off id wish to light a candle for my grandad, tbh i was too young to remember when it was he died but it doesnt make him any less special, i used to be called Alice by him after Alice in wonderland :) i used to comb his hair and he would always spoil me. Unfortunately his heart couldnt handle the tablets he was on anymore and just stopped :( Love you loads granddad.

Next i lost my Great grandma on my 12th birthday, she simply died of old age. I try to take my nan (her daughter) to her grave once a year to say hello :)

In 2003 my nan lost her life to motor neurone disease, honestly i wouldnt wish this on anyone. She lived for 5 years with it, slowly it shut down her body :( Miss you loads

In 2005 my ex boyfriend's cousin lost their baby girl at 16 months old, she had a very rare genetic condition. Our little star in the sky.

Unfortunately in decemeber 2007 my sister had my neice, we knew for about 5 days beforehand she would be stillborn :( My angel, i miss her so much and love her greatly, so glad we had the opportunity to meet her.

sorry to hear about all your other losses and they shall all make sure your days will be perfect xx

i would like to light 3 candles, 1st is for my nephew who dissapeared 7 years ago when he was 7, such a lovely little boy with a big mischeivious character. 2nd is my Grandma who died 5 days before my Nephew, she was a major part of my life and I miss her everyday. 3rd is for my beautiful brave Mum who died 6 years ago, both were amazing woman. I really dont know how I am gonna handle them not being there on the day but I know they will be with me every stap of the way.
And now I am crying and cant see the keys lol xx

what a lovely idea!! sat here with tears streaming down my face!

my 1st candle is for my granny who died when i was 16, still miss her everyday even though it's been 22 years.

my 2nd is for my auntie who died last october. she was like a 2nd mum to me, miss her loads

my 3rd is for Lyndon's parents who I never met but would love to have

I'd like to light some,
One for my baby sister who died nearly 14 years ago. One for my Grandma and one for my mum who passed away 21 months ago.
The only way I'm planning my wedding without my mum is knowing that she's my guardian angel and she's always with me where ever I go and whatever I do xxx

This is a lovely idea, even if it is making me cry : )

I want to light 5 candles
One for my Grandad Lee
One for my Grandad Byrnes
One for my Nana Byrnes
One for my baby brother adam
One for my Baby Miss you loads beautiful