I'm at the end of my tether with my eldest son. This is probably going to sound really stupid.

I asked him at the start if he would give me away to which he promptly said no but he would be a witness. Well that was fine with me and to be honest I wanted my youngest son to do it anyway but thought I best ask the eldest one first. So this was back in March when we sent the date son got married himself in June had a completely different wedding to what we are having was a lovely day really enjoy it, but since then I have hardly any contact with him what so ever (he only lives up the road from us ) and when I have and we have said anything about the wedding they promptly change the subject. Anyway they have been here tonight and they actually asked about the wedding and where they would be sitting at the reception so I said oh I thought I would sit you with my sister and her lot. Well I got a dirty look and he said oh we are expecting to sit on the top table with you. We had planned to just have us with my youngest son and his partner who would act as my parents as they are both gone and the best man and his wife who are H2B brother and wife plus our 2 bms. Now I've got to change it all....

Grrr kids who would have them!!!!!!!!

Rant over feel better now thanks Ladies x

Your last comment reminds me of something my grandmother says all the time. If she had know better she would of had her grandchildren first.

thanks for that ladies I've come into work and ranted as well lol. I wanted both of them included in our day but the eldest one doesn't get on with my H2B very well think alot of it is to do with with when his dad left. he was 22 at the time and still at home and was brillant with me as I was a mess (ex had walked after 25 years for someone else) he was very very supportive but 6 months after he moved out and in with his gf who is now his wife. I have now decided to keep the peace I'll put them on the top table H2B isn't happy but is willing to do it to keep the peace for me.

Now I need to know is 10 too many for a top table lol. xx

its your wedding day babe and he should sit were u say to i know he is family an makes it difficult hope it all works out x

futuremrsPite H2b is so good he knows just how stressed this has left me going to sit tonight with my sister and look at the tables again either way eldest and his wife won't be sat together it will be one at each end to even it out.

Grrrrr families who would ave em lol x

NicholaP44 you are soooo right lol xx

10 isnt too many at all ive got 9 on mine, infact most of my guests tables have 9 on them aswel! i can understand why he feels put out, if it was my mum getting re married i would want to be sat on the top table and feel more part of the day. we only have one little boy and he will be sitting on the top table inbetween my cheif bridesmaid and my mum, i couldnt have sat him enywere else it wouldnt have been right x