Does he realise how your struggling form money?

that sounds awful - you need to sit him down and explain how its making you feel x

Aww hun does he know how much money u have to your name hope u feel better soon xx

Oh how pap, hope ur ok. Im probably worse than nicpep at saying the right thing. On the plus side - i imagine it means you don't have to watch football?! Seriously tho, im sure you already have but stress how much he's upset you. Mayb sit down togther and look at ur finances - he probs needs to see that there's an issue rather than being told. My fellas alot like that x x

cheers girls, i have told him till im blue in the face, i have broken down in front of him, i have showed him in black and white what we have going out and what we have coming in, and it just doesnt sink in. until he moved in with me a couple of years ago he was either living with his mum and then his nan and he didnt have to pay a penny to either of them so when he was working his money was his own to do what he wanted to do, plus he is a little bit not slow but things just dont go in and it is sometimes like having another child. dont get me wrong when he is working or when we do have money coming in he doesnt really have any of it apart from for petrol and every penny he gets he gives to me normaly, its just been a tight week this week has had to pay my IVA as well, just wish it would sink in to him that this is starting to make me feel like canceling the wedding, not that i want to coz i love him and want to be his wife, but i just wish he would grow up and realise that i need help sometimes

men!! I know how frustrating it can be. H2b has been moaning to me he's not got much money this month and is going to have to put off paying for suit hire until june but went out and bought a new XBOX on sat (as his old one had died and he NEEDS to play COD on a thurs night with his friends!!) just found out the money for this came from the honeymoon fund so not a happy bunny at all!!! Despite this can't imagine life without him!! x x

maybe but i wont hold my breath, plus he is getting to go away on friday all weekend to the BMF so dont see what his got to be that stressed about xx

When u go shopping buy him cheap cola - thats what upsets Chris!! He'd give up going to the pub anyday if he had to put up with rola cola!! Or something to that effect! If he isn't seein an effect from the lack of cash he's not going to be bothered, be a little sneaky ;o) x x

i will be fine ladies just having a stressful night, think it is cos i was suppossed to go swimming tonight but havent gone coz couldnt afford it and then he goes down the pub, i pay all the bills and im fine with doing that just wish he could understand how stressed i get about it all, dont think it helps that i havent been able to go out or even go swimming for the last couple of weeks. we will be fine next week as should have some of the money that people owe us coming in dont think that helps either as most of the money owed his family owes us x

Ok .... i have to ask..... why the hell are you considering marrying this man??

Several times he has left you very short with not enough money to feed yourself and the lil ones.... while he bogs off to the BMF and spends money on his bike or goes off the pub????

You want to go swimming, but you cant afford it, but he can go **** money up the wall at the pub?? Something is VERY wrong with this picture honey.

He needs to sort himself out and fast.... GET RID OF THE BIKE..... now i have a modorsickle meself.... its my pride and joy, and our lives revolve around bikes and the biker lifestyle...and i can totally understand why he loves it so much..... i would rather cut off me arm than be without my bike....BUT... if i were in your situation then the six grand thats sat in the garden would be sold off with immediate effect to get somewhere near straight.

From the stuff you've said now and in the past, it seems to me he's taking the **** somewhat and you need to eother sort it now, find someone who isnt so bloody selfish or live with it.

Good luck x

hi fairytale, hope you are ok, and you get things sorted. i know how you feel re stressed about money!! hope you get it sorted, and have a chat to him xx

hi ladies just wanted to let u all know that everything is ok, we have had a massive talk, and i explained exactly how i have been feeling and what we have going out and what we have coming in, and how his behaver isnt helping and that its making me feel like im on my own and that i am the bad guy always saying no, after a couple of hours of ranting etc.. he finaly gets what is going on, he has said sorry and that he didnt realise what was happening or how bad i was feeling, and he has promised that things will change coz he loves me and wants me to be happy. so thank u girls for all your advice and listern to me stress as your help managed to straighten everything out in my head so i could explain it to him xxxx

oh tiggs he wasnt drinking beer as he was driving so he only spent £2- £3 so dont think it was really the fact that he went down the pub that got me, i think it was just the cherry on the top but everything is ok now hun, hope u are enjoying your week and managing to get some sleep :) xxx

cheers lemon just shows that i have grown up at last lol, as if this had happened 3-4 years ago i would of just said thats it f off, where as now i will work through the problems we have as i am a believer in the marrage is for life through the good and the bad xx

huge hugs hun, glad you got things sorted out xxxx

cheers halloween i fell better now that i have managed to get everything off my chest to him, i do bottle things up which i really shouldnt do u live and learn dont ya lol xx

lol yeah you do, and i know what you mean because i am the same, i bottle things up or talk to someone other than h2b if that makes sense? everyone has their ups & downs, and i think it can make you stronger as a couple aswell xxx

yeah halloween we have gone though a hell of a lot over the last few years together, ranging from his people speading shit about us and us spliting up to us lossing a baby and we have worked though it all and come out the other side stronger so now that i have chilled out and have made him see what is going on im not going to throw this away over this xx

exactly if something is worth having to fight to keep it, and u work through your problem u dont run away at the first sign of a bump, otherwise whats the point in getting married, sorry to hear about the problems u and H2B have had, but am glad that u have each other xx

pmsl yeah tell me about it, i know it might sound cheesy but he is the other half of me and i dont fill whole with out him, but he cant get on my nerves in a way that no one else can lol xx

exactly, going to bed now hun as think all the stress has completely kanckered me out, night hun xx

glad your sorted fairy tale

Hun ive got the EXACT same problem!
Im the one who sorts the bills and im the bad guy who has to tell him we have no more money this month!
It sucks!

What ive done is have a joint account where the wages go in and the bills come out then 2 seperate accounts and whatever spare money we have after ALL bills including an estimate for food n petrol we have left we split and send into the 2 accounts.

We dont use our joint account anymore for personal spending... we use our private one... and once its gone its gone!

xxx

Glad things are sorted Fairytale. I am with Puddleduck on the dinner idea! LOLxx

thats a bit rude, but theres a reason why you manage the finances! just take a deep breath and take this as some alone time. Trust me it takes years to get them to realise these things.

how you doing today babe ?