Just wanted other peoples opinions really... there is some one at work who is getting married the same day as me (I booked min e2 years ago she booked hers 2 months ago) and despite her being rude about most of the things I am having for my day due to the fact that we are on a tight budget I have always been polite. She is now in a strop with me because she was stood in our office slagging off the reverand because neither of them are christened or religious so he is not overly happy about marrying them (although he is doing it) and I said I agree with the reverand, I dont think it is fair to expect somebody who is very religiuos to be happy about marrying two people are only there because its pretty in his place of worship, at the end of the day thats what a church is... I did word it in a nicer way but she snapped at me and is now in a strop... should I have just kept my mouth shut? I wasn't trying to be nasty, I was just trying to put the point across that it is a big thing to the reverand so he is not at fault.

me and partner arent religious and were having a church wedding. the reverand doesnt have a rpoblem with marrying us. the reason for getting married in a church may not be just because it looks nice but because it has a meaning to someone other than religion

To be fair she has said its becuase the church is nice... I just feel the way she was talking about the reverand was completely unfair. I'm not saying people shouldn't get married in churches if they aren't religious, thats their choice (although I personally never would) I just dont think the head of that church should be slagged off for not being happy about it at the end of the day religion is his life and his job and a church is a place of worship

If peple read what I have typed it had nothing to do with whether she is right to do it or not, its abotu slagging off this poor man

then yes cowchop i agree she shouldnt slag off the reverand as at the end of the day it is his choice to make wether to marry them. a reverand i spoke to at a different church before point blank refused to marry us but i did not say one bad word about him as it is his choice. luckily we found a church where the reverand agreed to marry us without us having to attend or anything

I understand where you are coming from, we are not getting married in a church as i dont go and have a fear of walking up the church aisle, our local vicar (who i know quite well) would marry two people who dont attend church but he would make it clear he was not happy about it. As you said this is there life, and he does only do it to try and encourage people back to the church. But to be honest whatever you say to this woman she will always take the wrong way as you are her competition with weddings on the same day, she wants to out do you by the sounds of it !! as long as it doesnt interfere with your work, you should have your say xx

Just wanted outsiders opinions incase I was a bit mean

thank you ladies, I just wanted to make sure, I dont like being nasty to people, its just not the way I am.x

Your are right! Lots of people are not the slightest bit religious, but expect to be married in the local church. My W2B is a Catholic and i will ahve to attend church every week for 6 months prior to the wedding, if we opt for a church wedding.

Anyway I dont believe in god, niether does my eldest daughter for different reasons. She told me when she was 6, nearly 7 "Dad do you believe in God?" i paused for thought and she said, "Well i dont, i have been reading the bible, the real one the old testament not the new one, and it says that soemone in there is 602 years old, whcuh is riddiculous, because the oldest man in teh world lives in Japan and he is 117, and peopel live longer now than they did in the past because of the advances in medicine and peoples lifestyles." I was Gobsmacked.. she then said, "Anyway god is supposed to have build the whole world in 6 days and rested on the 7th, yet the builders in our street still have not finished next doors extention, and they started it 2 months ago.
How can you argue with logic like that!

lmao your daughter's fab! children are so much wiser than we are lol.. I agree with you though CowChop and I probably would have told her the same - it's not that the reverand is being awkward or nasty in his decision, it would be going against his moral and religious beliefs and he's absolutely not in the wrong or a bad person for saying no. I have to admit I considered a church wedding at my local church because it's a beautiful building and a bit awe-inspiring, but I would feel like a complete fake and it wouldn't mean anything to me so I dismissed the idea pretty quickly! If the aesthetics are all she's bothered about then I'm sure there are a LOT of places that are equally as beautiful.

I would just let her have her little strop and I'm sure she'll soon calm down, if not then I really wouldn't worry about it. If you said it nicely then she's just overreacting and being a bit immature - not everyone will agree with you all the time!

xxx

LOL @ Honest John, love the way kids minds work :O)