Hello everybody, this isnt a rant but I just needed to say something out loud without people judging me as a bridezilla!

So my very good friend proposed to his gf a few month back and have just started looking for a venue. I helped them out with shortlisting and they asked if they could look at our venue. I said of course, gave them the brochures and went through the prices telling them what I had picked and how I got such a bargin! I was/am soo happy for them!

So they went looking and they decided they loved our venue (not surprised it lush, but im biased! ) but I didnt know they were also looking for a may date. I had booked thee 4th, they preferred the second bank holiday, but it wasnt available so they were offered easter sunday, before our wedding.

Now im not really bothered. It not MY venue, thousands get married there, and I am in no way going to tell someone else when and where they can get married.

There is a little niggle in the back of my head that all our mutual friends would compair. She is a graphics designer so really has an eye for decoration etc (their house is beautiful! ). My friend was very sweet and took me for coffee to explain and see if I would have a problem, of course I said no, I was happy we both had good taste, but the kid in me needed to vent I was worried about it being so close and my day wouldn't be as good. Logically this is rubbish as everyday is different and special to the couple but I just had to say it outload!

Right vent over! Thank you ladies!

Ooh! That's awkward... mostly because they've put you in an awkward position of if you weren't happy with the situation and told them then they may perceive you as being selfish and unreasonable, but I do understand where you're coming from. It's tough! Your weddings will be entirely different and you will only share some social circles and not much family so you have no need to worry! It's not a competition remember... it's a chance for you to show everyone how much you and your h2b love each other and celebrate your official union! Remember the big stuff and forget the little stuff!

Theirs' may be too fussy anyway and yours might be very chic! So don't assume and put yourself and ideas down!

You've handled it all very well, good for you!

I think I would feel a little miffed tbh especially as they're so close! I'm certainly hoping this doesn't happen to me as I've purposely picked my venue because no one else I know has got married there,plus not many of our guests have been to a wedding there x

hmmm...im not really a bridezilla but this would have really got under my skin...if you are going to copy someones venue you should at least have the decency to have after yours! well done you for being so nice and I know that your wedding is going to be much nicer! I can tell ;) xx

Ok so an update, he confirmed his booking today. He will get married exactly 2 weeks before us. That im not bothered about. Being a man he dosnt really have a clue, so I was giving a list of the important things to sort now (his b2b isn't organised either) and I said probably flowers.

My friend responded with 'oh can you just tell us who you booked' I was flabbergasted! Not only does he pick the same venue he now wants my florist! I know our flowers would be different but seriously!

My oh said dont give them the contact as I worked so hard to find a good deal, in your opinion would that be selfish of me??

Bride wars! Sorry they are trying to steal your sunshine by getting in just ' before' you! Yes it's not YOUR venue but YOU chose it first couldn't they have chosen somewhere else I would be completely peed off but you do have to be ' reasonable' just be wary about discussing stuff the last thing you want is to go to the wedding and its exactly like you wanted yours x

I think you are to kind to be be quite honest. I would not be at all happy, 1 that they in a sense are stealing your time to shine but then to pinch your location is a kick in the teeth.

My H2B mate (not close friend) is getting married in October this year and we got engaged after them and it was important that we made sure our weddding was at least 6months after theirs to allow for them to have their moment without me stealing their thunder and 2) for our friends to re-save as weddings aren't cheap for guests, Its new outfits, money for the night, maybe hotel rooms etc.

I hope your best friend appreciates how you are taking this and you are clearly a better person then me as if it was me I wouldn't be happy at all. xx

I think you're being quite reasonable. It's understandable to have concerns about weddings being compared, and to feel that they are stealing your thunder, but you clearly know that your friends don't intend to do that, and that's the main thing. I think it's perfectly fair to avoid sharing details of your suppliers. Although you could go the other way and be totally open in order that the other couple doesn't accidentally do the same. For example you can compare notes on colour schemes. You just need to be careful how you say it; make it clear that your mind is made up and you're not going to change, you're just wanting to make sure that you do different things so that your days are your own and totally unique.

If I were you, I would keep schtum from now on; let them source florists, bakers, etc; why should you do the leg-work for them?!

That's what the OH and my Mum have said, ill just play coy from now on. I just feel so bad as their house move is soo stressful (solicitors!) I always want to help out!

Getting very excited now! (8 months!)

Well the kicker is the venue have just pit a deal on so they got a 15% %discount! ! Bt they had to pay this years price so its around the same really!