We've booked cottages for our family and friends to stay in for our wedding as they're all travelling so far. We are paying for some of it but have asked for £100pp from those staying. Originally everyone said they were staying for the week so that actually works out really cheap but now ppl are only staying for a few days and so they think this is really expensive. Our families have been really good but my two BMs are not happy. One is a single parent on benefits so says she can't afford it at all and the other says she doesn't have it either as she's on maternity and not getting paid. How can they expect to stay for 5 nights for free? If they stayed at a hotel it would be more than this. It seems they were more than happy when they thought we'd be footing the entire bill but we're shelling out for the whole wedding so a little help to house them wouldn't go a miss. It's made me feel really sad and they've made me feel awful for asking. I feel like crying. boo!

£100 per person for 5 days is really good. Some of my guests are paying that for one night. If they don't want to pay it fair enough but then just put them up for the night? After all they would be going up there and back off their own backs anyway? MY MOH is coming from Cambridge to my wedding and would as a guest or a bridesmaid. Just because they are in the bridal party doesn't mean they get a free ticket for everything. I know it sounds harsh but they have had time to save for your wedding. Its not like you sprung it on them at last minute. If they can't pay then just put them up for the night.

That is awful! Most guests who stay over pay that for one night, I would be thrilled to pay that for 5 days!!! I think it is incredibly unfair of your BM to expect you to pay for everything and I dont think you should feel bad about a conribution at all! They have known for quite a while that they would need to stay over and have had time to save or say they could not make it. People reallu do take the mick sometimes!!!

£100 for 5 days is a very good deal! You shouldn't feel bad about it and as someone has already said you're not springing this on them at last minute. hugs x

Some of our guest are paying £150 per night so don't feel bad!!!

my goodness how did they expect u to pay for it all. £100 is v good for 5 nights we are paying £118 just for our wedding night! xx

100 for 5 days is a steal in a cottage!!!! i wudnt feel guilty hun or anything! its doeant cost much and they hav notice! i actually think it was cheeky of them to not offer to pay towards wen u was payin it!

You must not feel guilty! Though I know how you feel, I get so embarrassed by that sort of thing. Being a wedding guest is never cheap and often includes staying away - but you go to support your loved ones, and enjoy their hospitality as well. I think its lovely that you have asked your guests to stay with you for 5 days, I'd feel honoured if I was asked to spend so long with a couple around their wedding, and lets face it you have found them a bargain to boot! They will find the money and they will have a lovely time, you can't feel responsible for them - good luck I hope it all works out x

£20 per night? I'd be be there in a shot!