my sons is practically 10... hes not an old 10 hes a young 10 very close to me.. know he can tell me anything, he never naughty, he knows the rules, he helps me out, rarely gets told off, funny, laughey, and everyone who meets him love him to pieces and say hes defo a mini me!! before we moved the kids in his old school used to pick on him and call him gay etc... he never used to play foot ball etc i guess prob because i brought him up and we have never done that, he used to minly play with the girls because the lads didnt want to know... he has reading difficulties has he has a form of dylexia... but is a yr ahead at maths and finds that so easy and enjoys it because he can do it , and hes good at running... he won the schools long distance race and he was made up the first thing he has ever won... we moved changed school and he has fitted in (the school is in the country side not city centre) hes settled in the teachers are made up in the space of nearly a school year his reading age has gone up 11months and he has a new confidence and wants to read.... in the old house we live about 4 weeks ago the kids in the rd picked on him so he never played out...... now we have moved he is out every night, the kids knock for him, he comes in at 7 covered in mud from playing in the swamp...
right theres the back ground....
now this morning he shouts me mum am not well.... he has a poorly belly and a head ache.... my sons wear boxers to bed he cant sleep in pjs as he moves too much and near starngles him self with them so i went in and hes lying on the bed sweating obviously not well... but he is covered head to toe in bruises and i mean covered... one is half the size of his shin... there are about 30 in total some small others look like the bruises i had when io gave birth from squeezing my thighs so much i had finger tip bruises on the back of my thighs....he has one on his ear quite a nasty purple one... one on his forhead! cuts and scratches all over him.... i ask him nicely where these are from he said footie... i asked where the big one was from but laughey and jokey not making a deal out of it.... apparently from footie.... in my mind must of been the heaviest footy ever to leave a bruise that size... honestly its the size of a cantoloupe and black....
if he went to school to do PE the teachers would report me to social services as it looks like i have battered him from head to toe!!!
i dunno what to do... are they genuine football injurys?? are the kids picking on him??? am i worrying unecessarily??
he my baby and my little side kick and i dont want him hurt....
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorVicky
That is so difficult if you go to the school it could cause more problems but i think you do need to talk to them and say about the bruises and you think he might be being bullied, but tell them that he says that they are just from footie, because it might be the case.
Joe does I also of biking and I always think that the social would have a fit if they saw him after a ride covered in blood and brusies!!
Good Luck I hope he is okay.
CommentAuthorloubylou
i agree with vicky, if you take him in school and explain and show them the bruises, telling them he said they from football, but also explain his past about being bullied and you are concerned it could be that, most schools have a certain member of staff that can talk to the child and see if they open up. (well ours does anyway) if he is close to you i dont see why he would tell you its footie when its not. also if he is being bullied im sure next time his friends knock for him he will make excuses not to go out so moniter that too, if hes happy to go out, it probably is rough play. i can understand you being worried thou as no mother likes to see their child being hurt. and the way the social services are right now can understand your concern there too, if you go to school and tell them rather than them mentioning it to you first surely that will be better. hope you get to the bottom of it and it is just the typical boys play bruises. :) x
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CommentAuthorStave
Is this the first time that you have seen them? How old do they look?
Thing is he might be being totally honest with you and he did get them while playing football. You know how there is always that one kid that will knock someone harder, or not just bump into, but actually give some force. The worst type of bully imo. If your son hasnt had much experience of this interaction, he might view it as normal rough and tumble while playing and hasnt said anything as he doesnt realise that bullies work on different levels and for him it isnt a problem or issue. From what you have said I am assuming that as he is very open with you, that if there was a problem or a problem that he was aware of, he would have said.
Try not to stress too much, I am sure that you will get to the bottom of things soon x
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
Can he be sure they are ALL justified? I have had a VERY bad experience with un explained bruises and I would simply request you got him to the doctors. At least then you have covered yourself as well as getting him checked over to make sure he is ok. There are some illnesses that start as unexplained bruising. x
i would take him to the doctors just to be safe.xxx
CommentAuthorHalloween_Bride
I would have a word with school first to see if there is any bullying going on if there isnt anything going on then the drs
It MIGHT be from playing to rough my mitch comes home in bruises all over his legs & when i ask him he sayd "dont know mummy" he is only 4 1/2 but i think he would know where they would come from if that makes sense?
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CommentAuthorCroc
ive just spoken to the lady next door whos son same as mine that comes and plays and they are very good friends now... she said hers is the same BUT the other day one of the older kids who lives on the new estate hes 13 threw a stone at my son and her son.... her sons ankle swelled up that much he couldnt go to football pratice or play his match..... just been to ask my son and he said yeah did i not tell you... errrr noooo son you never .... well that now explains the bruise on his face and ear!
well the lady from next door said that her hubby had the lad who threw the stone and told him off and said dont do it again... apparently they were playing comandos and the stones were the bombs!!!!!!!
if i see that 13 yr kid throw a stone at my kid a gain i swear i will get a flipping house brick and cave his ugly little face in .... then go deal with the parents!!!!! <sorry protective mother syndrome> that kid is lucky it wasnt me who saw him 1st as i would have torn shreds out of him and the parents <again appolgies> apparently they dont really care what there son does!!!
so explains 2 bruises but not the ones on his body and legs.... rang the school they said he one of the popular kids in the class everyone loves him gets along great settled in plays with yr 6 and yr 5 and everyone helps him read if he gets stuck in class.....told them about his bruises and said trust me we wouldnt believe you would hurt him as you dont seem the type!! <phewwwww>
hmmm think ill get a dtrs appointment just to be on the safe side... and yes it prob is nothing and just rough play but im so not used to seeing him covered head to toe in bruises... and because of the past bulling maybe im a little bit worried etc
thanks for your advice guys xx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Oh my blood was boiling when i read this .....thinking that he might be being picked on ,i would have gone to the school for you babe ......
glad you have got some answers .....( i would have reacted the same as you and throttled the boy who threw the son)
My H2B goes to football each week and without fail comes home and a few days later has massive black bruises on his legs from where the ball has hit him! And he is 27 - So i can image a 10 year old bruising a lot easier.
As for the older kid throwing stones, obviously we are only having one side of the story and throwing stones is soooo not cool. But sometimes boys (kids really) will be boys and they will play rough! Sometimes they do silly things.
My dad brother threw a brick at my dad when they were little and knocked him unconcious. He didnt mean to hurt him badly he was just playing. Me and my brother used to play fight all the time and he gave me nose bleeds more than once.
So some kids are just a little rough. Im not in any way excusing bullying and must say i HATE bullies I think its horrible and nasty and so sad. And of course I am talking from a childless point of view - Im sure if I had kids I might be a bit more defencive etc.
But some kids when not with their parents dont intentionally 'bully' but just dont realise that throwing a stone is bad. I know that sounds silly but if all the boys were doing it to each other then they would see it as a game.
Me and my brother were caught throwing pool balls at each other once - Till I broke my mums dresser!! eek! But me and my brother loved each other and were litterally just playing! wenever one of us actually got hurt we would stop fighting and if I cried he would give me a massive hug and not let go!!
Again I am not excusing bullies and of course you must make sure that bullying is not the case - eliminate that first which it sounds like you have done.
i hope you find out whats going on and perhaps teach him to be a little gentler with himself and the games he plays!
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CommentAuthorGriff
if they are on the inside of his thighs close to the groin then they are unlikely to be from footie but then again I came home black and blue several times from rough and tumble football :) xx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
explain your concerns to the school and give them a list of the kids he hangs around with. Ask them to just monitor the situation and comment upon the type of relationship between them all
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