Ok, I know this isn't a pregnancy forum or whatever and its probably not the right place to post this but its the only forum I use and I know a lot of you girls have children so I thought someone might be able to help..

H2b and I have had another set back in the whole trying to conceive department, its been just over 2 years since we've been trying and I have polycystic overy syndrome, I was told 18 months ago I was infertile as not only was I not ovulating but I wasn't making any eggs at all. So its been difficult, very difficult and I'm on the verge of giving up all hope in me becoming a mummy.

My GP is no help, no one I have ever seen has ever been any help. "loose weight" "stop trying" "bla bla bla".. So I'm dieting, exercising, looking after myself, not thinking about s3x as "trying" etc etc.. Still, nothing.

So we've been thinking, once the wedding is paid for we may start saving or sale our other flat and start IVF privately, I am more than entitled to IVF on the NHS but "I'm overweight" and untill I'm a skinny mini they won't even look at me twice.. BUT Im worried, will I spend all this money and it not work, am I just never going to get to hold my own child?!

What I'm hoping is someone say "I was told I had no chance, untill I tried IVF" ... I just want someone to tell me miracles happen basically :-(

This is probably nothing more than a rant to be honest!!

Sorry but thanks for listening xx

I'll have a read about acupuncture now, I've also been told to try reiki?! I'm very sceptical but I'd try anything :-( xx

Thank you hun :-) xx

hey mrs walker to be im in the exact same boat as you and its very hard, i have read allsorts of things but like yourself very sceptical about everything. I have tried to put it to back of my mind but its very hard. but you gotta stay positive but i know its very hard to :)

Awww hun, my mil2b has got endometriosis and she's got 5 boys. Please do not give up. Please don't think I'm being insensitive by asking this but are you thinking about adopting at all? I only asked cos I know a lot of people who have problems conceiving and then they adopt then all of a sudden become pregnant. Dunno if that's just coincidence. And I'm probably not even helping but just keep praying and trying xxx

No that's not being selfish. Perfectly understandable. As I said I only asked cos know a few people who then fell pregnant after adopting. But you're right, there is no greater thing than the natural bond between a mother and her child. I've always been skeptical about it cos I'm not maternal at all and before my baby came out I was so worried that I might not have that natural bond with her and completely get fed up with all the crying but wow, I just can't help but love this little being unconditionally. Well as I have suggested to you on another forum, keep thinking that you don't want one yet and you might get pregnant. That worked for me lol ;) xx

OMG mrs walker to be, me and h2b was talking about IVF last night and i hought i need to do a post about this and ask peoples opinions on ukbride lol x

Hey Mrs Walker to be,

I don't have a miracle story for you, but reading your original post it's obvious how passionate you feel about this so I would suggest exploring every avenue you possibly can, even if you have to pay for it privately- as I wouldn't be able to settle unless I'd known I'd done all that I could to hopefully have a baby.

Take Care xxx

Kaya i changed doctor when i found out as the one i had was crap. The new one is lovely. Has printed me out loads of stuff for me to read and look at. He sent me for scans and then met me straight after to talk about it. I am going to see him again tonight to see what he has to say. I just wish he had a magic cure.

My friend started trying to conceive and after about 3 years switched to IVF, they had a few goes on NHS then started selling their cars and belongings to afford more IVF, after a total of 5 failed attempts they gave up and began looking at life as just being them two. 3 years later she fell pregnant......delivered a beautiful boy. 9 or more years all in all she was waiting for her baby and she says it is well worth the wait.

To top it all off after another 2 years she fell pregnant again with a baby girl, talk about miracles!! So they do happen, but I believe the stress of 'trying' has a hell of a lot to do with it not actually happening.

I wish you all the best, I really do! Its an awful thing to go through! xx

Ahhhh, just been talking to a friend of mine, who's been trying to conceive with no success, and she stopped trying a few months back, and just found out she's preggers!! So there is hope! I am soo happy for her, if a little jealous!! x

My friend was told she was infertile with PCOS but her daughter is 18 in august. Miracles happen everywhere and all the time but I can understand your concern over selling your house. I would literally try anything and everything to get your body in the best shape it can be....even sit on that ancient chalk willy thing ha ha. I have a reiki qualification myself and it is a very powerful therapy as is acupuncture and you are not losing anything by trying them. I cannot have children and I have always dealt with it but last week my goddaughter told me she was pregnant and it has really hit me as now the next generation are overtaking me! Anyway, try not to think too far ahead..just look at things you can do here and now and deal with the other things like adoption when you need to..the what if's just drive you made. I was going to say keep everything crossed but maybe I should do that bit for you! lol.

Thanks for all your replies and advice etc.. I've tried to do the "trying without thinking about it as trying" but its so hard, after each time I can't help but start stressing and praying that this is the one but it never is and the same cycle begins again. I don't want to give up trying and hope it just happens, I can't ever imagine it happening like that for me and as I don't have a period and I don't ovulate I don't think it will be that easy and that's why I wanted opinions on IVF or if anyone had success stories because I think the only way I am going to become a mum is to get help. I know alot of people have failed IVF and fall pregnant after so IVF seems a waste but I totally believe when this happens it was still the IVF that boosted things.. It's just so much money :-( I'm still dieting and exercising and I've lost 4lb, this has been a month now, the PCOS is making it so hard, I'm fighting a loosing battle but without loosing this weight the NHS really won't help me :-(

Louise, that's exactly what I wanted to hear! Thank you :-) hope your friend is enjoying every second with her little girls xxx