Well done OWB, you've been good to work through this.
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I'm glad you finally have an answer now hun. On with the planning! xx
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CommentAuthorMrsMcK2B
Wow what a story, I'm glad you have things sorted out, best of luck with the wedding planning x
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CommentAuthorButtonAndBoo
Oh when I read the wedding is back on track my heart jumped for joy and I ended up with a big grin on my face and a funny look from H2B as he didn't know what I was doing. I'm soo pleased for you!
As my mam would say big hugs all round.
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CommentAuthorJoanna
I'm so glad everything has worked out and you're both on the same page :) now on with the rest of the wedding planning :) xxx
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CommentAuthorShazk
Oh this is great news OWB Im glad the wedding is back on so pleased for you (BIG SMILES) and you have sorted it between the 2 of you.
lots of people I will imagine will make the babies next comment (and like you I dont really want children and it is a tad annoying) but remeber its about u & H2B and thats all taht matters, if you are happy with the choice then no one else matters xxx
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Glad it's turned out the way we all wanted for you! Be happy lady xxx
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CommentAuthorAmyK
OWB - thank you for sharing your experience with us all... I think there could be lots of people out there with similar situations, but you've shown how honesty & not pressuring your H2B has proved to be the successful approach. You've been very brave to share such personal information - well done you & all the best for your big day & rest of your lives together!! :-D
CommentAuthorLittleMissWorry
This is the first time I've seen this post. Big *hugs* for what must have been a difficult time for you. I'm so glad everything turned out well, and agree with all the others that you've been so brave and honest.
CommentAuthorBarbaraU
Gald everything turned out well for you.
It always strikes me as very tactless when people start talking about children when you,ve just got married, why should it be the 1st thing on your mind and if you don't want children that is between you and your H2B and no one else.
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
Hi!
First off I think its a good thing getting things out in the open with the significant other, I hear so many stories of people getting married having not really discussed this topic then regretting it later.
My thoughts however turned to you asking just one person you know who decided not to have children what their thoughts were on the subject. I say this because I have an aunt who decided not to have children and didnt regret it until she was almost 60, when one evening out of the blue she broke down in tears having split up from her husband about 2-3 years previously. He had his own children and it wasn't a case of him not wanting to be a father.
I also am wondering what age you are? I'm 34 and currently pregnant with our first child. This is after going through my teens and twenties not wanting children. I did not change my mind because most of my friends had kids, I like someone else said realised one day that I did in fact want children, and I was single at the time.
I'm not saying you will change your mind, you might never change your mind but if you ever do get the urge to have kids, yes they take over your life but its not all bad. I never ever thought I would say this but during my first scan I was in tears watching our little one jump around and that's a memory I don't regret happening. Had I attended someone else's first scan my attitude would have been "Yeah that's great now can we go!" Put it this way when I told my mum I was pregnant she nearly had a heart attack.
Anyway I hope everything works out for you two and you are very happy no matter what you do.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Just read this whole thread, I'm so pleased you have both worked out what you both want .................... hope you both can now enjoy the rest of the wedding planning and like Barbara says, I think people talking about babies as soon as you've said "I Do" is really tactless and quite frankly none of their business! H2B and I are already getting the comments and we don't get married until May next year!
Anyways - I am soooo pleased for you both that you have sorted this out and can look forward to a happy future together xxx
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CommentAuthorowlgirl2015
Aw so glad for you :) x
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CommentAuthorVelcro
haha those are the comments im not looking forward to on the day, oooh babies next eh!? er...no.
the great thing about other peoples kids is you can give them back when they start to do your head in lol!
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
glad things are sorted hun and good to see the wedding back on track
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CommentAuthorfloatee
Have just read through the thread and have to say it was both heartbreaking and quite smile making in one. It is lovely that you had the strength to openly discuss such a difficult thing with your h2b and that he was able to hear what you were saying and then took the time to think about it seriously and make a decision. Yes, there is the possibility that in the future you may change your minds and decide that you wish to start a family or you may not, either way it is wonderful that you are starting your existence within married life with complete open and honest communication about this. There can't be any confusion or recriminations on either side.
I applaud you (and h2b), not only for knowing your own mind but also for having the strength to put yourself out there.
