cracking me up! my fella goes through phases of not being bothered but at this moment it's driving us mad.

my partner always been the black sheep but when he met me he turned it all around. new job, home, training, everything. and we got engaged and set a date for coming july. family are all so proud except brother who is very jealous. he's always been golden child but now it's changed. so he proposed to his girlfriend and the set a date for nearly a year to the day after ours. now it's all become a competition! i keep telling myself i don't care but it's driving me mad! i just keep thinking my wedding is first so will you just shut up! our venue is nicer, theme is better, we have better ideas and being a music teacher i know our ceremony will have fantastic music, and i definitely got the better looking brother! but they keep trying to out do us! we booked a piper, they booked a piping band! it's taking the mick now. and kin of spoiling it for me. shouldn't we just marry for love! i'm trying not to buy into it with them but i'm getting annoyed. exspecially as we live far away and everything we tell them they go straight back and tell his mum.


ok. rant over!

aww huni as you say your 1st, its your day and they wont change the fact that your marrying your lovely h2b and it is all about marrying the one you love, and its a damn good excuse to party afterwards. Dont let onto them anymore then you have done so they cant try and out do you, they will have to think for themselves :) xx

its ok hun rant away thats what were here for, i have a friend like that who getting married the week before me so its war in her eyes on whos going to have the best wedding but im not playing that play we have different taste different likes, im just going to plan my wedding my way

hahahahahaha! lalabunni i'm sooooo going to do that! oooo what can i tell them........

tribrute band

Your leaving the reception in a sponge bob square pants hot air balloon and doing round the world in 80 days for your honeymoon

hahahahahaha! loves it!

AND! maybe i'm being extremely childish here, but, yesterday the brother asked my fella to be his best man (rightly so, jamie was told by his dad he HAD to have his brother as his best man). the brothers girlfriend is a bridesmaid for me and their son is a paige boy. so that's the whole family part of our wedding party. no one is left out.

but she's been very explicit about not asking me to be a bridesmaid for her. i know that returning a favour isn't a good reason to ask someone to be a bridesmaid but i am not looking forward to standing there like a douche at their wedding on my own while my husband and all his family have a function in the wedding and i don't. i asked her so that she wouldn't be on her own and they'd all be involved and part of the 'wedding party'. i'm quite hurt really.

haven't told jamie that tho. i'm just pretending i'm not bothered.

I agree with Lala if he should ask for advise feed him a bunch of lies!!

i very much know how you are feeling hun. i am sorry that you feel they are trying to out do your wedding and that they have turned it into a competition. i would try not to tell them anything at all and just ignore anything they say. my htb and his brother have never really been competative and have always been really close til his brother got with his girlfriend. she is always trying to out do us no matter what we do and becomes the green eyed monster as soon as we do anything better (which is way to easy when they spend nearly £100 a week on cannibis). it does become really petty and annoying. for example. i redocorated our living room last october as soon as i'd finished stripping the walls they decided they were redocorating. i finished the wallpapering in a lovely brown and cream patterned paper with a border all of a sudden they bought brown and cream paint and a border. we got a lovely brown carpet so did they and then ever since all we get is you copied us didnt you. grrrrrr its so annoying, but luckily for me they will never get married. i hope that you can relax and enjoy planning your wedding hun make your day about you and not about what she does. good luck xx

If there ever was a copetition you have already won it. Like you said you have the better looking brother,. Its obvious you love him to pieces so thats all that matters. Dont let any of the rest get to you. xxx

tell them that your doing something that your not, something that will look stupid of wont work. I know its mean but it will teach them a lesson, something they will have to pay for before your wedding (a large deposit) that they wont get back it they realise you havent had these things at yours.

well i agree with what the other ladies have said chic they just jealous that is silly i agree you do marry for love they do sound like acompetition dont let them stress you out hun urs will be better by miles keep everything a secret xxxx