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    • bagpuss
      CommentAuthorbagpuss
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    cracking me up! my fella goes through phases of not being bothered but at this moment it's driving us mad.

    my partner always been the black sheep but when he met me he turned it all around. new job, home, training, everything. and we got engaged and set a date for coming july. family are all so proud except brother who is very jealous. he's always been golden child but now it's changed. so he proposed to his girlfriend and the set a date for nearly a year to the day after ours. now it's all become a competition! i keep telling myself i don't care but it's driving me mad! i just keep thinking my wedding is first so will you just shut up! our venue is nicer, theme is better, we have better ideas and being a music teacher i know our ceremony will have fantastic music, and i definitely got the better looking brother! but they keep trying to out do us! we booked a piper, they booked a piping band! it's taking the mick now. and kin of spoiling it for me. shouldn't we just marry for love! i'm trying not to buy into it with them but i'm getting annoyed. exspecially as we live far away and everything we tell them they go straight back and tell his mum.


    ok. rant over!
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    1, dont tell them anything you have booked
    2,imitation is the greatest form of flattery
    3,YOURS is first .......and will always be so
    4,with any luck they will split up

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    • Mrs Steer
      CommentAuthorMrs Steer
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    aww huni as you say your 1st, its your day and they wont change the fact that your marrying your lovely h2b and it is all about marrying the one you love, and its a damn good excuse to party afterwards. Dont let onto them anymore then you have done so they cant try and out do you, they will have to think for themselves :) xx

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    • bagpuss
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    haha! maybe not split up but still....you're right though. i'm not telling them anymore. well i say that, but then they start in on the bragging and i can't resist!
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    • mummyto2
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    its ok hun rant away thats what were here for, i have a friend like that who getting married the week before me so its war in her eyes on whos going to have the best wedding but im not playing that play we have different taste different likes, im just going to plan my wedding my way

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    • lala "mod" bunni
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    oh oh oh .......tell them random stuff and see if they book that .....tell them your having chitty chitty bang bang as your wedding car ( which you can btw)

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    • bagpuss
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    hahahahahaha! lalabunni i'm sooooo going to do that! oooo what can i tell them........
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    you are having a live singer .........someone famous maybe

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    • lala "mod" bunni
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    tribrute band

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    my friend recently had the birmingham ladies choir sing at her wedding and at the reception

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    • Rags
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    Your leaving the reception in a sponge bob square pants hot air balloon and doing round the world in 80 days for your honeymoon

    I'm now a married woman
    I have a gorgeous husband
    Whats to do now
    Theres no more wedding planning to do
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    hmmmm it des ave to be believable

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    • bagpuss
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    hahahahahaha! loves it!

    AND! maybe i'm being extremely childish here, but, yesterday the brother asked my fella to be his best man (rightly so, jamie was told by his dad he HAD to have his brother as his best man). the brothers girlfriend is a bridesmaid for me and their son is a paige boy. so that's the whole family part of our wedding party. no one is left out.

    but she's been very explicit about not asking me to be a bridesmaid for her. i know that returning a favour isn't a good reason to ask someone to be a bridesmaid but i am not looking forward to standing there like a douche at their wedding on my own while my husband and all his family have a function in the wedding and i don't. i asked her so that she wouldn't be on her own and they'd all be involved and part of the 'wedding party'. i'm quite hurt really.

    haven't told jamie that tho. i'm just pretending i'm not bothered.
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    And you keep doing that hun cuz you are the bigger person .....and peple who have been at both will say .......Oh she was bagpusses bridesmaid you would have though she would ask her .......it will only look bad on her babe , let her get on with it

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    • Halloween_Bride
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    I agree with Lala if he should ask for advise feed him a bunch of lies!!

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    • bagpuss
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    i suppose you're right. people will notice that she was at mine and i'm not at hers.
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    • alimarie05
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    i very much know how you are feeling hun. i am sorry that you feel they are trying to out do your wedding and that they have turned it into a competition. i would try not to tell them anything at all and just ignore anything they say. my htb and his brother have never really been competative and have always been really close til his brother got with his girlfriend. she is always trying to out do us no matter what we do and becomes the green eyed monster as soon as we do anything better (which is way to easy when they spend nearly £100 a week on cannibis). it does become really petty and annoying. for example. i redocorated our living room last october as soon as i'd finished stripping the walls they decided they were redocorating. i finished the wallpapering in a lovely brown and cream patterned paper with a border all of a sudden they bought brown and cream paint and a border. we got a lovely brown carpet so did they and then ever since all we get is you copied us didnt you. grrrrrr its so annoying, but luckily for me they will never get married. i hope that you can relax and enjoy planning your wedding hun make your day about you and not about what she does. good luck xx
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    • Attention seeker :)
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    you dont want to be her bridesmaid hun her dress is going to be gross and she is going to make the brides maids look like triffles :)

    i dont know this but from the sounds of her i wouldnt be suprised ;)

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    • Stevie_Dee
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    If there ever was a copetition you have already won it. Like you said you have the better looking brother,. Its obvious you love him to pieces so thats all that matters. Dont let any of the rest get to you. xxx

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    • alimarie05
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    most of it as you have already said is just jealousy hun. i wouldnt let it bother you xx
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    • felicity.h
      CommentAuthorfelicity.h
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    tell them that your doing something that your not, something that will look stupid of wont work. I know its mean but it will teach them a lesson, something they will have to pay for before your wedding (a large deposit) that they wont get back it they realise you havent had these things at yours.
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    • bagpuss
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    alimarie05 i've so been there! they move every time we move, they do, every time we bought a new car, they did, every time we decorate, they do, every hobby jamie gets, the brother copies (right now it's motorbikes!),we do the garden, they do the garden! where does it end?!?!? i think i'd probably be able to take it if anyone actually aknowledged we did it first, but every time we go up there the in laws are bragging about what wonderful things the brothers and hid wtb are doing. i just want to stand on the coffee table and scream!

    but guys thanks so much. you're all so kind! feel much better now. i think i'm just going to have to be more creative but secertive. think of little things to do that they won't be able to recreate and they'll all just appear on the day!
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    • nickers
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    well i agree with what the other ladies have said chic they just jealous that is silly i agree you do marry for love they do sound like acompetition dont let them stress you out hun urs will be better by miles keep everything a secret xxxx

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    • NHR115
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    Honey your wedding will always be better than anyone else's, you're love for your man cannot be outdone by a copycat :) Enjoy the planning and as the other girls say, keep your plans secret or pretend you've planned something and let tham copy away. xxx




 

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