I asked my best friend to be MOH. There was never any question that it would be her I chose. I was not prepared for what was to come. She has been awkward as sin, wouldn't even try on anything I suggested, made a fuss over necks, sleeve lengths, fabrics, colours, everything. It was irritating but I felt that as my friend, I should want her to feel comfortable and let her have a say in what she could wear. I didn't want to be one of these brides who dictates so much about things that friendships end up suffering. As a result, she has ended up with something that doesn't fit with the colourscheme or the dresses I've chosen for the flower girls. As a compromise, we agreed that accessories would match the colourscheme. Within two days she decided that she wanted the accessories to match her outfit, not the colourscheme. In the midst of all this we had a very heated discussion where I did make it clear to her that I was beginning to get frustrated that she had gone completely vetoed what I'd had in mind for MY wedding and at that point asked her if she'd maybe prefer not to be involved and was this her way of telling me. She got quite upset that I would think that. Though I was annoyed that she had gone against what we'd agreed on, I considered that wasn't that big of a deal because at least it matched something, so I let her have the accessories she wanted.

Now, everything is bought and paid for (by me) and delivered to her, she tells me that she has bought accessories that she likes better. I can't believe that she would think it acceptable to go and buy different accessories without even discussing it with me. I have already bent over backwards to try and accommodate what she wanted because she is my friend and I want her to feel comfortable but now, I am just fuming. It's so rude and a smack in the face after the absolute fortune I spent on trying to accommodate her demands but she doesn't seem to see anything wrong in what she's done. She's already got her way by disagreeing on the chosen colours for outfits, then the colour of the accessories and now she'd decided on a completely different colour again, without even consulting me. I have visions of her turning up on the day wearing something completely different altogether. She needs to realise that this wedding does not revolve around her and what she wants.

God, I'd ditch her seriously. My bridesmaids have been easy as pie. I am a bridesmaid for a friend in 2016 and she wants us in knee length teal dresses. Teal doesn't suit me and I'm short so neither does a knee length dress, however, I will wear what she chooses because it's her wedding day, not mine. She should put up and shut up in my opinion xx

Yeah i agree that you should have put your foot down. I have been prepared to compromise with my bridesmaids as the colour scheme is orange which i knew they wernt thrilled about. I was even going to put them in short white dresses and orange accessories until they themselves found an orange dress they liked every other dress they suggested that i didnt like they accepted as a no and kept looking. They even went dress shopping without me and are almost as excited about my wedding as me. They are my sisters so maybe its a bit different but to me this is how bm should behave.

Slap her

You need to tell her that enough is enough , that she has to make a choice wear what YOU agreed or don't be a bm ......I worry that as everything is now with here she will arrive to where you are getting ready with the stuff that she wants.

If she won't take that let me know as I'm just in the mood to take her on and put her in the place she needs to be .

tell her (and I find myself saying this quite a lot!!!) that she can HAPPILY wear her own accessories outfit, if she likes. AS A REGULAR DAMN GUEST.

Be aggressive x

I had a bridesmaid that said no to EVERYTHING. I took her to the side and said look when you get married I will wear whatever you want, for now you should give me the same respect. She started to get it and is now going along with what I want. If you just talk to her calmly and get your point across in a mature way and she doesn't get the idea then ask her politely to come as a guest. Sometimes weddings bring out the worst in people and you get to see their true colours and sometimes they just aren't worth your time :/

Sack her! Silly maid who does she think she is! The hints In the title bridesMAID! A maid is basically a servant she's your servant for the day, did servants get to choose what they wore? Nope! X