Just wondering do you think it would be rude for me to put on my invites please refrain from wearing White? I really don't think it's very nice to wear White/ivory/cream to someone's wedding as that's what colour the bride usually wears if I put it at the end of the invite do you reckon people will actually do what I want and not wear those colours?
Sian, I think ur right, it is rude to wear the colours the bride is wearing. so u should state, but in a really nice way. and if people wear the colours u ask them not to wear (be friends or family), then u know how childish and pathetic they really are. xx
CommentAuthorTinsel
I am going to put something like 'we politely request ladies avoid wearing the bridal party colours, black and white'. I think it's fine to say x
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CommentAuthorJilly17
I shouldnt imagine anyone wearing anything weddingy and white in November but they may wear eg a winter white coat. If you would not be happy with even a coat/jacket being white etc then add it to your invite. I personally would not mind this colour for outerwear but would not be happy with a white lace dress turning up.
CommentAuthorSian''OCD''Holkham
I have threatened that anyone that turns up in those colours will get a glass of red wine "spilt" in them lol my bridezilla moment lol how would you word it? X
just put: "The Bride and Groom politely request that all ladies refrain from wearing the Bridal Party colours: (state your colours here). Many Thanks"
that should be alright with it. im loving the bridezilla moment, and yh i'd do the same with the accidental trip with glass of red wine in hand! lol xx
CommentAuthorMrs b to be
I havent thought about doing this :) Good thread! I would be really annoyed if someone did this to me! I think i might add something nice like what kris86 has put.x
CommentAuthorNHR115
I think the majority of people would refrain from wearing white and ivory to a wedding but you always get the numpties who do. I have a wedding on Saturday and there were dozens of gorgeous white summery dresses in the shops and even though I loved them I didn't even bother trying them on as I'd never do that to a bride.
In response to your question though, I say it isn't rude to ask hun and as long as you word it politely then you'll have no problems. xxx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
i think its fine. We are saying no white, ivory or red, no hats and only small fascinators out of consideration for the other guests.
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
and to not clash with our colour scheme.
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
It's not something I personally would do, I would assume most of my guests wouldn't wear white/cream, and if they did then TBH it wouldn't really bother me, it's not like people are going to be looking at them or getting confused and thinking they're the bride.
It's personal choice but I would never ask guests not to wear certain things.
CommentAuthorBradshaw2Be
I think I'll add this to my invites too. As my colour scheme is Purple with Ivory I think quite of few people could turn up in that colour as it's one of those colours that looks flatering on everyone. I just don't want to have people not reaslising who the bridemaid's are as that would be awkward. I know that I'm probably looking too much into this but I tend to thinking liking this lately.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
iw udnt put the bride & groom request u dont wera white... i wud make it funny or sutming like this..... the bride ( me) is wearin white like an angel..... and i hope you will be wearin something liek a rain bow .. sumting like that lol
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CommentAuthorFaeth
Okay as we're kind of on this topic. I have my MoH's wedding to go to, and pretty much all the dresses I own are black, which most people on here seem to think is a no-no for wedding outfits. Problem is, my only other dress, is this one....
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Is that tooo close to a wedding colour, or bridesmaid style? Does it even suit me? MoH is wearing a diamond white dress, with bridesmaid in purple.
I'm so busy saving for my wedding, I could do with not having to buy something new..... but I'll have to if you think it might cause offense?
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hmmmmmmmmmmmmm babe it is very' bridey' cant u buya pruple dye?lol
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
That's a big no IMPO; as I said, I personally wouldn't really mind if a guest did wear white/cream, but a lot of people do mind and I would NEVER EVER where anything remotely white/cream/ivory to a wedding.
You can get some real bargains, esp online, so maybe buy something new? Get something you can wear again, a dress in a different colour is always useful as black and white dresses can be a bit restrictive IMPO; I have dresses in pretty much every colour, from pinks and reds, to grey, to blues and greens, to purple. Check out sales in places like Debenhams and Coast, or have a look at ASOS and very online. Next also have some really nice dresses atm, and TK Maxx is always worth a look
CommentAuthorFaeth
I'm can't dye the dress - fabric is really kinda soft but shiney, don't think it would take dye very well (that and it's one of my only designer dresses I treated myself to in the sales, so I don't wanna risk it). And the bridesmaid is in purple, so definitely want to avoid that colour :-)
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
if u blinged it up wiv a different colour accessory and got a shawl it be ok i reckon?
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CommentAuthorTinsel
What about a dress from ebay? I wouldn't wear your dress to a wedding, although it is lush, as it is too close to wedding colours x
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CommentAuthorFaeth
I will have a look in the shops a little closer to the time, but I usually struggle with cheap fashion dresses because I'm a size 10 top and 12/14 bottom, so depending on the fashion, I can look a bit daft in dresses, with the bottom being too clingy, or the top being too baggy.
But yeah, last thing I wanna do is cause mutterings from people thinking I'm being a bit odd wearing the wrong colour. It's difficult, because I really don't care what colour people wear to my wedding, so long as none of the women come in a style that looks like a bridesmaid or wedding dress - LOL. So because it doesn't bother me, it's hard for me to judge what might bother other people....
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CommentAuthorFaeth
hmmmm maybe I can keep that dress on standby for me as an evening outfit if I have a sudden desire to get out of my wedding dress (unlikely!!)
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CommentAuthorBradshaw2Be
If you really couldn't afford a new dress then maybe wear the black one but with some bright and statement accessories? I did that as I really couldn't get anything else at the time. Otherwise there are some nice summer dresses in DP which you could look at.
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
I don't think it's rude at all, it's your day so you decide on what the colour scheme is and what you would like others to wear.
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CommentAuthorUnknown
of course it isnt. i have asked guests not to wear purple and ost of them have been ok about it
CommentAuthorHonest John!
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It should be common sense for others not to wear white, but some people just dont think, so if it means that much to you then do it! tell them! be forceful, i would never wear a white dress to a wedding, i look better in black haha Faeth, Beautiful dress, you look great in it, but i feel it is too close to a wedding colour, and may be better of in black
CommentAuthorMariephiz
Love the dress, but maybe it would be a bit too weddingy...though I now look back and wonder what people thought of me as I've worn cream and creamy/gold to weddings in the past without thinking...oops! Can you borrow a dress from a friend? That's always the first thing I do when I have nothing to wear and no money!
CommentAuthorMrs Q - Weegie
i wore white linen dress to a summer wedding once, although it had big red and pink flower design on it and wore a matching red cardi and red and pink shoes still one of my fav outfits :) It was my dads wedding and my stepmum was in a mint green suit so it was fine :) it does depend alot on the circumstances.
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CommentAuthorKinkyemo
I am putting 'at the brides request please can guests wearing dresses please refrain from black or red as these are the bridal parties colours'
CommentAuthormym72
I'm not bothered at all what colours my guests wear. As long as they attend if they say they are, and are comfortable in what they're wearing then I'll be happy. It's not like I've got any hang ups about them looking 'weddingy' as they'll be no confusion to who the bride is (it's not like my dress will look like a guests lol). I've been to a few weddings where you're in the same outfit all day so you need to be comfortable in your clothes, whatever the colour. My wedding's in August so I expect guests to wear light 'summer' colours (it wouldn't be normal if they didn't).
CommentAuthorekielty(now Trow)
faeth- tesco have got a "wedding collection" of dresses and they arent too expensive. there are some really nice ones! Its my cousins wedding a month before mine so im thinking of getting a new dress from there! xxxx
Sian - its ok for you to put on the invite to not wear white.. I dont think its rude at all. xxxxx
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CommentAuthorFaeth
Funny thing is, alot of websites have a wedding collection, which are obviously outfits for guests, rather than the bridal party, and most of the outfits they put in there are all ivory/champagne/pastels.....
I have found a couple of dresses I absolutely *love*, but seriously, someone remind me not to go looking at Monsoon and Karen Millen!!! I don't *have* a spare £200!
dang high street fashion for having dresses with no waists. I look terrible in stuff like that!
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i dont think its rude to say it at all xx
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CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
I dont think its rude at all....
I have politely put on my invites, "No Hats Please"
CommentAuthorStave
Hey Trish, may I be personal and ask why you dont want any hats????
CommentAuthorCroc
no its not rude...
one of my friwends told me shes bought a new champagne dress fro the wedding... i thought omg cow.... but im gonna let her turn up in it cos theres no way shes up staging me and everyone will laugh at her for wearing practically ivory!!!
iv wrote on ours big hats and facinators and no jeans or trainners so no its not rude
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CommentAuthorStave
Personally if I saw someone wearing white/ivory/cream at a wedding I would think, what a tit! ;-) and I am sure that most of the other guests would too, she would be looked at for all the wrong reasons.
To me it just screams of somebody that is insecure, has personalas well as relationship issues, is a spoilt brat. But that might just be me over thinking things. Each to their own. x
CommentAuthorbarbie86
TBH I don't think it's anything to do with being insecure or spoilt; a lot of people just don't think, or it's summer and they buy something light and summery without thinking. Plus, not all brides would mind: I'm with mym and provided my guests are happy and comfortable, that's all I'm bothered about, with the only exception being the BMs and MOTB and MOTG, who I don't think should be in white or cream because of the photos. I just want my guests to have a great day and join us in our celebrations, I couldn't care less what colour they're wearing and would feel awkward dictating to people what they can and can't wear; if I personally received an invite banning certain colours I'd probably have a giggle with my OH about it.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
girls rememebr a normal guest wont b in ure main pictures, just a group one so wont really matter x
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CommentAuthorClairebear67
I dont think that is rude at all hun, I know I would steer away from ivory/white and cream for a wedding for sure,it doesnt hurt to mention. : )
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
Cos i dont like Hats...... !!
CommentAuthorStave
This has just reminded me of a debate about family dynamics I has having with the in-laws. It never ceases to amaze me how different people are and how we were taught to fit into society. It was a classic :-0
CommentAuthormym72
barbie - I agree, it's good for the guest to enjoy themselves and join with you in the celebrations, whatever they're wearing. I really think some of you need to rethink your guests if they'd spend the day laughing at someone in white/ivory instead of being there to celebrate your day - maybe they need to get a life lol.
CommentAuthorUnknown
i have just be told by my mum that she was talking to someone the other day about her daughters wedding and asked guests on the invite not to wear black and white as it was the colour scheme! 20 people then turned up in it and she cried she was that upset!
this is why i am having the ushers not letting anyone in who is wearing purple! it may sound harsh but the money and stress this wedding is costing me i want it my way and if people cant understand that then they arnt welcome!
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
i actually wore the same colour green as the bridesmaids to the last wedding I went to and it didnt even cross my mind till I got there and then I felt awful! I apologiesd to the bride - but she didnt seem fussed - but I did feel pretty bad and if I had screwed my head on I would not have worn that dress!!
i hadnt even thought about how I would feel if someone turns up in White/bride dress colour. But thinking about it now - yes I would be upset!
I think it is rude to rock up to someone elses wedding wearing anything resembling a wedding dress unless its your own wedding.
I know someone wore a white dress to my Brothers wedding and his wife wasnt too happy - she didnt let it bother her - and I probably will let it slide too - but I would be a tad upset!
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CommentAuthorSian''OCD''Holkham
See the fuss this thread has caused so people are bothered by guests wearing white and i know it sounds harsh but i would seriously throw guests out if they turn up in white/cream/ivory because i dont want people talking about that girl who turned up in the white dress wether their bitching about her or calling her stupid because any attention on her is attention away from me and its my day so i should be the only one in white decided im gona put on my invites a little rhyme at the end something like ''sticking to tradition the bride will wear white so please can all guests wear something bright, our colours are navy, white and pink so before you get dressed just have a quick think'' lol x
I like the quirky little poem Sian :P I think that's probably the best way of dealing with things! :)
I didn't think I would be that bothered until I had a dream the other day where someone I knew turned up in HER wedding dress! I was fuming! So might mention it on our wedding site! Also wouldn't want anyone turning up in my BMs colour either... if anyone does turn up, I'll assume they want to be given duties like the rest of the bridal party and will have them hanging up coats... see how they like THAT :P
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I'm really not fussed in the slightest! My BMs are wearing sky blue and the flowers are yellow, pink and white, but that doesn't mean that I'm going to ask people not to wear those colours. If you think it would bother you then you should ask them not to, I just personally think that I'm more bothered about my guests making the effort to come than what colours they're wearing. Sorry if that offends anyone, its not meant to :o) xx
CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
Often you can work out the colour scheme from the invites. My cousins invites are in a duckegg blue and sure enough I found out they are wearing duckegg blue! lol Not a hard and fast rule tho! x
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
ooh and back to the thread - not rude at all!! x
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