Having emailed the church last week, I got a reply yesterday from the priest. Not quite what I was expecting to hear though.
The church is outside our parish but my H2b has a connection with it because his father lived in the church parish for more then 6 months since my h2b was born.
I explained the connection in the email I sent to the priest and he has replied with the following:
Dear Tracy,
Thank you for your email. In response to your questions - as you do not live in the parish, (also 1988 is quite sometime as link because your dad lived in the parish) legally you will approach your local priest about this.
On the other hand, another way round this, (if you really want to get married at St. Katharine's Church, is for you, to at least attend our church services for 6 months to qualify or be a member of our congregation and on our electoral roll.
Let me know which of these options is okay for you.
Blessings.
I am not sure if this is a "yes we will marry you here, pop along to your parish church" or a "no, unless you join our congregation"????
Any help would be great
Thanks xxx
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CommentAuthorShazk
Oh im as confused as you.
I would read it as yes you have a connection but not a good enough one as needed so you would need to attend for 6 months prior to be able to do it (sorry that not what u prob wanted to hear).
I would possibly email them back and say that you are unsure of the responce and wish to clarify what the are saying xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsCS2b
Thanks for the reply,
Have emailed back asking about attending the services and if we both need to attend and how often.
Am also going to try and see our parish priest this week if i can.
I am hoping it reads as the yes just pop to local church and get the legal stuff done, but have a feeling its not going to be that straightforward.
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CommentAuthorMrsCS2b
Just a thought.....
Does anyone know if we need to provide paperwork to prove connection
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
edited
The line "legally you will approach your local priest about this." is very confusing. But I think the fact he has said "also 1988 is quite sometime as link because your dad lived in the parish" implies bad news (I think, unless that meant since 88 is a long time and that's good?), especially as he goes on to say how to become a member of their church.
Nightmare when illiterate people try and explain something in writing lol
thats how i read it too. gonna pop to parish church tomorrow and see if they can help
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CommentAuthorjill81
Hi Me and my h2b are getting married in a church that is outside of our parish and we had no connection to. We had to attend church for 6 months. we went to the parish office and had to fill in a form and she then penciled in our wedding date. Then once we had attended for the 6 months we had to complete a form to apply to go on electral roll. Once we were on that we paid our deposit and the date was confirmed. Hope this helped a little. xx
CommentAuthorlizzylou
I'd pop in and ask. It looks to me like he's saying you have to become part of his parish by going for 6 months. My cousin did that for her wedding. x
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CommentAuthorKATG
I think it's no you should go to your local church unless you attend here for 6 months. However thats a confusing response.
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
Yes I think it means that you have to attend for 6 months in order to marry there x x
CommentAuthorMrstalbot2b
It's a yes you can get married there as you have the links but as none of you still live in the area you have to go once a month for 6 months. Am having to do this as the church we getting married is in town my mum was born and lived to she was 19 and moved away to little village 6 miles away where I was born but rest of my family still live there so iv got the links but just because the village is just outside the town area for the church am doing the once a month for 6 months, but date is already booked with church and iv only done 3 so far,
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
He is saying that you need to attend his church for 6 months for you to marry there (it is normally both attend for every sunday service for those 6 months). The connection you mentioned to him wont count as I believe it is only if your h2b lived in the parish for 6 months or more within the last few years that it counts as a connection. The bit about seeing your local priest is because he will have to agree to read your banns there aswell as at the church that you are getting married at, and he may not agree to doing it for you to marry in another parish. Normally they don't have a problem with it but be prepared to explain why the other church is more important to you. Hope you can sort it out hun. Keep us updated xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsCS2b
Thanks for the help ladies.
The priest has emailed back saying that only one of us has to attend the services and that I need to speak to parish priest for reading of the banns.
Off to see them tomorrow after i drop the kids at school
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CommentAuthorMrsCS2b
UPDATE:
Went to see parish priest only to be told that our parish boundries have been moved and they are no longer our parish church. Have emailed the new parish church who have passed my email to their priest. Now just waiting and seeing I guess.
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CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
Ahhh that's so annoying!! Hope they get back to you soon x
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
as far as i knew as long as you or a direct relative etc had lived in the parish for at least 6 months at any point in time u could marry there no problem....my friend is getting married in a church in a parish she does not live in and shes only entitled beacuse she lived there as a child and attended the sunday school and that was 20 yrs ago! id be disagreeing with your church if i were u! xxx
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CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Aww, hope you get it sorted out, sounds all complicated! x
CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
hope you get everything sorted out I read it as they want you to attend church for 6 months xx
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CommentAuthorSam
how annoying, I hope you get a clear answer soon.
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I read it that either gotta join the corigation and do the 6 month thing to get married there or you can speak to ur local priest about getting married there. Do u know anyone in the church's zone that u can use there address? Or get an appt and speak to the priest in person will allow you to get the Lear answers x
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
When I said speak to local priest I didn't word it well meant if u don't do e 6 month thing then u can speak to a local priest about getting married at ur local church s
CommentAuthorMrsA-J
Hey hun I dont no if this is like me but im getting married at a church I have a connection with (not in catchment or whatever its called) and the priest will marry us however he has asked us to check with the preist of our local church that is it ok for him to marry us. Sort of a go ahead I think...which you have to do anyway because of bands...and i dont think you need paperwork-i hope not anyway.
I hope things work out for you! x
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Sounds far more complicated than it probably needs to be! There's always something isn't there! x
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CommentAuthorkatielea100
most churches ask you to attend for 6 months before they will marry you its a yes but u have to attend church 6 months prior to your wedding good luck
CommentAuthorMrsCS2b
Thanks for the help ladies. Hoping to see parish priest this week so will have to wait and see what she says i think.
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CommentAuthorKellyN29
It will be a yes, the priest in the church you are marrying in wants to see you make an effort to show your Christian beliefs and the commitment to get married. Due to neither living in the parish you have to pay for banns to be read at your local church (the legal bit). PS it seems very enlightened to email the priest I don't think any of the clergy at my church advertise this - I had to go in person during 'office' hours on a Tuesday night to book mine lol
CommentAuthorMrsCS2b
Hope you're right KellyN,
Local church has a vestry time tonight, so going to pop up to see the priest and hopefully get an answer.
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CommentAuthorSam
Hope you get the answer you want :)
CommentAuthorMrsC
Any update with this hun?
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CommentAuthorMrsCS2b
Have contacted my parish church and they have said to go and see them with the payment for banns so i am assuming they are happy to allow it. not had chance to go see them yet though between all of us being ill on and off and kids on half term the wedding has taken a back seat for now. will be back on here now more regular cuz i have wedding withdrawal lol
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