Hi everyone, I'm new on here but wanted to here some advice or words of wisdom from fellow brides. I am due to get married in August and recently things just seem to be going wrong. My mum and dad don't speak and are refusing to sit anywhere near each other on the day of the wedding! And that's just the start of it. Then last September my mum and sister fell out and haven't spoken since. I had wanted my mum and sister and other bridesmaids to stay at my mum's house the night before the wedding but now my mum is talking about staying at the hotel the night before meaning that she won't see me in my dress until the same time as everyone else!! Which has all become really quite upsetting and an added stress for me!! Then to top it off...my fiance has seen a photo on my old phone of me in my wedding dress!!!! Can anything else go wrong?!!!
im sure everything will be fine on the day - it will all sort it self out x
Maisie Moo Moo
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
as for your family i would get them all together (just dont tell them the others are going to be there) and tell them that as much as you love them all, they ought to start acting like grown ups and kiss and make up if only for one day.
then if that fails tell them lalabunni will be round to sort them out ...(people quake with that threat and just give in )
Oh dear. I have the same problems with my parents, but I got 2 years until my wedding so I am hoping they will sort it out by then!
Just tell them all that its your day, and people will do as they are told. i am sure your mum will come round, I really doubt she would want to miss helping you get ready in the morning of your wedding.
As for the photo on the phone, tell him that was just one you tried on, i am sure he will still be gobsmacked when he sees you on the day all done up.
Good luck and hope everything works out for you! xx
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HI hun... I know how horrible it is to plan it all perfectly and then, just as the big day approaches, things going wrong, but I'm sure things wil fall into place. Regarding your parents and sister, it might be a good idea to speak to the (seperately) and explain that this is your big day and you expect them to behave in a certain manner (I'm sure they'll understand how important it is for you to have them all present). Then, you can always ask your mum again to stay with you that morning, and if she insists on stayin at the hotel, ask her to meet u before you get to the church, so that she's part of the 'gettin ready' preparation... And about the mobile pic, don't worry about it, it'l will be totally different when he sees you walkin in the church, besides men don't really retain those things in their minds as such :)
Sometimes grown ups can be sol childish! I would plea to their better natures and ask them to be civil to one another for the day. Tell them where you want them to be and what you want them to do. Anyone who wouldn't do thiose things for me on the most impoirtant day of my life would not be welcome at the wedding xx
CommentAuthorpinkkirsty
Aww thats awful surely they can all make up for your big day. And about your h2b seeing your dress a picture on a phone never does a dress justice so i wouldnt worry he will still be blown away when he sees you in it on the day so don't worry xx
CommentAuthorkitkat
The parent thing affects lots of us, I did a discussion on it last week as we are having out 4 kids on the top table and no parents as I have adoptive parents birth parents step parents and parent in laws who don't speak english to accomodate! I am trusting everyone to be on their best and I am seating them on seperate tables so they don't feel uncomfortable. Let your mum stay at the hotel (maybe she doesn't want to be around if your dad is giving you away and that relationship is not good and your sister is a bridesmaid). I think putting her in an awkward position wouldn't be helpful to either of you. Why not ask her to wait outside the church/hotel/registry office and open the car door for you and help you out when you arrive so she can see you and you can have that moment, then your dad could get out as she goes in then make your entrance? You will look completely different in your dress when you have your shoes hair make up flowers jewellery and everything in place so don't worry about the photo he will be gobsmacked when he sees you and superstition can't hurt you. Take a great big breath, get a glass of wine and take a moment for yourself after all it is your day and as long as they are all there with you, even if not with each other thats whats important. Wedding etiquette is great but more & more of us have non-traditional families to accomodate so do it your way and have fun x
lmao @ lalabunni, Sending you big hugs CJ i hope you manage to sort something out :) xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
you need to talk to all your family and tell them that its your day and them fighting and being horrible to each other is going to spoil it for you. I hope that all this stress is not spoiling the run up to your day. and as to the dress thing you will look way better on the day he will not recognize it!!
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hun sorry to hear that u have been having it bad, i would just get them together and tell them how badly their actions are affecting u, and explain that even if they never talk again they please act their age for u for your wedding good luck xxxx
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CommentAuthorCJ
Thank you all for your words of bride wisdom x KitKat, you speak so much truth and I like the advice that you have given about my mum meeting me at the car when I arrive...I think that that is the only and best way to go with it. I think, lalbunni, that you seem to have a wierd obsession with wet fish and hitting people around the face with them (hehehe) I think that that would be a great plan although one of them has a serious allergy of fish so that could, potentially, lead to even more trouble and upset!!! Never mind, thanks for the advice.
Many thanks to you all xxx I shall now try to enjoy planning and preparing for the big day..MY BIG DAY XX
