We're actively trying to plan our ceremony that will make people giggle as well as shed a tear. We're not terribly serious people and we're always laughing, so to have a very po-faced day would just be pointless, but I keep seeing people on wedding based TV shows having a go when there are laughs in the ceremony.
We're having a humanist ceremony (they're legal in Scotland) and one of the joys is that we can tailor it to suit us perfectly. The plan at the moment is to have a handfasting and a couple of little aspects from the Jewish wedding (chuppah, ketubah and smashing the glass) but we're also planning to have "Bring Me Sunshine" as an alternative to a hymn and there are a few little anecdotes to make people giggle (as well as my mum doing a reading that's guaranteed to make me cry). It's all very "us".
Basically, why is it seen as inappropriate to start your wedding laughing and giggling?
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
im in scotland and I had a humanist Ceremony as well :D
and our celebrant had went on to say "oo becky and michael were asked what things you love about each other....and rebecca said...then michael said the fact she tolerates his love for football" and everyone laughed
the way i see it, i wanted it to be a relaxed atmosphere and not too seriously but not overly funny iykwim!! that is indeed why i chose to have a humanist ceremony.
i had Carrie's poem (from se x and the city) as a reading that my bm did and she couldnt read it as she burst into tears so celebrant had too...it made it fun through our nerves and vows etc
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CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
I think ceremonies that are more relaxed and fun are so much better than those strait-laced formal ceremonies. Weddings are a time of joy and happiness. Being not allowed to laugh during kinda defies the point. When my FIL2b got married, the celebrant's speech had us laughing and shedding tears- it was a lovely ceremony.
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
I think it makes a wedding far more memorable! I have seen a few weddings on tv where the children do something sweet and everyone laughs or the bride and groom say someting funny in their vows, or the old one of bride or groom saying awful wedded wife/husband instead of lawful. I personaly would find a very serious wedding a little dull. I think its your personal preference and your right to do it how you want hun. xx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
There is nothing wrong at all with laughter. It is part of who you are. Just because you enjoy it doesn't mean that you are taking it any less seriously.
I'm really hoping our wedding is relaxed and people can laugh. I personally can't do with solemn ceremonies - it makes everything 'tense' and after all we're there to celebrate.
CommentAuthorMel D
a lot of people see it as a very serious and solemn occassion ... personally, I think it is a celebration and should be enjoyed with lots of laughter and fun. We're not having a serious day xx
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
I completely agree! Weddings should be a reflection of you and your H2B and if there is funa nd laughter in your lives (and lets hope there is otherwise it would be a little dull, let's face it!), then it's fine! Having said that, H2B wanted a midget Elvis conducting our ceremony in Vegas and I did put my foot down on that one as I thought it was taking it a little too far and taking the piddle a tad! There will be still be fun and laughter on our day though :)
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
We want fun and laughter and it to reflect us as a couple and as individuals..... Though much more fun is our weather dependant planned picnic in the park the next day with all the family together for rounders and hide and seek.... my family get well into their games and even my 70 odd yr old aunty joins in, brilliant fun :D
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
i want laughter and tears its a wedding not a funeral x
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CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
I'm so glad that I'm not the only one to think that it should be fun. I'm looking forward to the ceremony.
CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
Natural laughter is sooo moving! Forced comedy doesn't always work x
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CommentAuthorRingo
I would much rather be giggling at a wedding and boogying to a fun song than listening to a vicar or another stranger drone on and people mumbling lines to a hymn! Your wedding sounds like it'll be fab = D xxx
CommentAuthorYourFirstDanceBride
I think its just that in some ceremonies if the celebrant thinks you are not taking it seriously then they will not legally marry you. I think some light hearted comedy is good for everyone, but if you were to turn things into a circus or a lee evans gig (which I don't think you are, I'm just peaking generally) then the celebrant might think you don't take marriage seriously and as such, not marry you!
I'm definately up for some laughter. The poem I have found as one of our readings is very funny and very fitting to us so I hope people will laugh at some bits of the service.
CommentAuthorFoxySaurus
I hadn't even thought about this!! I couldn't imagine a wedding without laughter. I'm a bit of a hippy and a lot of my friends are the same. My H2B has already confessed he's hoping to fit in a few song lyrics. We're both comic collectors and gamers and I had been planning to add some geeky references into my vows. Guess I should make sure it's clear that's how we are and no bad or lack of heart is meant by it!
I think if the tone is set for the wedding to be relaxed and fun, and it sounds like your ceremony will do that, then laughter will be perfectly in place and appropriate. Personally I think laughter should always be acceptable at a wedding (well unless it's that scoffing/disdainful kind of laugh at the wrong moment!!), but I guess I can see how some old fashioned types might frown at laughter at the wrong time during a mega-traditional church do.....
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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I will be gutted if there are no giggles during the ceremony, but I don't think it will be a problem as our 21 month old will most definitely do something that will have everyone laughing. It is a fun and happy occasion so I don't see why people would sit with straight faces. Maybe some people feel that it is a serious matter, getting married, and that it should be taken seriously with no laughing but those people are boring. x
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CommentAuthorKayteeG
I think the most important thing in a wedding is to let your personalities come through, so if you're a fun loving couple, this should reflect on your big day. It's YOUR day and you should have it how YOU want it - who cares if it's normal or traditional x
CommentAuthorVicky
I think it all depends where you get married!! I can completely see us laughing at ours - but we are that type of people too.. I think wedding are changing so quickly that is fine now to laugh and clap even in church
CommentAuthorkimmy
Sounds good to me!!!!
CommentAuthorBarbieBride
I think its great to have a few giggles :) xx
CommentAuthorJenR101
SpecialSundae and ~*~ Becca ~*~" I was wondering if you could give me some info on your Humanist Ceremonies? It was something we were thinking about but don't know a lot about it. Have added you both if that's ok. Thanks Jen x
CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
I went with a humanist ceremony as they're very personal and can be held pretty much anywhere. We're getting married outside and including a few cultural references to Judaism, both of which would be impossible in a civil ceremony.
CommentAuthor~ஜ~Tiggs Daltry~ஜ~
we laughed all the way through our ceremony,it was so layed back and relaxed,plus i had a giggling fit
CommentAuthorsar
it's a happy occasion and its your day it should be exactly what you want!
CommentAuthorExcited_bride_to_be
Weddings are meant to be a joyous occasion! I was at my sil2b wedding and there were loads of giggles and it was in a church conducted by a minister, whoever says you can't laugh in church nevermind at a wedding is quite mistaken. :) Xxx
