Wedding Forum - Is it rude?...

Just watching dttb and when the bride was coming in and during the ceremony loads of people were taking photos on smart phones etc, with flashes going off. Does anyone else think this is rude? aswell as the fact like beyonce said to fans recording her show on phones, by recording it and watching it through your screen you missing the moment.?

Whats everyone elses thoughts on this?

your capturing it on screen but missing it in real life , and a good photographer will catch candid moments, thats the reason we picked ours as he likes doing candid and has lots of good previous.

I think there are limits to what people should capture, as you enter the church you dont want a bunch of cameras and phones in your face and me being clumsy will be focusing on not tripping so any flashing cameras will probably make me fall over. i know that my church has limits on when photos can be taken by anyone other than the photographer for this particular reason, the tog can take pics whenever he wants but the reverend will ask all guests to refrain from taking pictures until the end of the service after the photographer has taken his own pictures- the problem i find with guests taking photos is that in trying to get the best picture they often prevent the photographer you have paid from getting those amazing shots you want. this is just my personal opinion and i can understand valentina why it would be lovely to have those closest to you get some shots of their own, and if they stick to the no flash then thats lovely but there is usually one who doesnt and it can spoil the whole feel of the ceremony as well as some of the images the photographer gets

I think it may b rude if it's for the whole time but taking a nice couple of pics to capture memories is nice. Xx

I saw dttb and I think due to location it did seem cramped as in everyone standing close together so flashes seemed more than normal , I didn't like that as imagined seeing wedding vids with just flashing and mobile phones everywhere

I wud hate cameras going off, which is why I was thankful our church didnt allow flash photography, love the signs!

Im in two minds about this one :S x

I will ask the registrar to ask people to turn their flashes off as it can disturb the lighting for the professional, but I don't mind non-flash pictures being taken.. I got a sneaky entrance photo of my friend walking into the church and she was so glad because her photographer wasn't allowed to take photos in the church at all.. Not even for the signing.. Xxx

Yeah I think it is rude with all the flashes; maybe if they took them discreetly it would be better :)

I don't think it's rude if their family and friends complete strangers yes x

I think I will ask the registra to ask everyone not to take pictures unless informed they can, our wedding planner says the registra that norm comes to our venue normaly does, but at say the signing and kiss says you might want to take a pic now, and dies a cute thing where he asks the bride an groom to turn around to crowd for the last time a 2 single people!

It's becoming increasingly common to request that guests don't take pictures; in the States, they refer to it as an 'unplugged' ceremony/reception.

I don't want guests taking pictures during the ceremony, and at other key moments (speeches etc) for several reasons. First, I want to actually be able to SEE my guests, rather than their cameras/phones. Second, we have paid a lot of money for 2 excellent photographers to shoot our day; I am confident that not only will they get all the shots we want, but they'll do a much better job than someone's mobile phone will :-s Third, I want to see our guests in the photos; I've seen so many photos, particularly of the ceremony, ruined because all you can see is a sea of phones/cameras, rather than the guests faces. Fourth, if lots of flashes go off it can affect the quality and make it harder for the paid professionals to do their job.

We'll be asking the registrar to make an announcement saying that no photography is permitted during the ceremony (in a nicer way than that lol), and also asking our guests to keep it to a minimum during the day-time celebrations and to just relax and enjoy themselves and let the photographers do the work. I'm not too bothered about the evening once the first dance is out of the way though.

I would rather not have guests taking pictures at the church during the ceremony which the registrar has agreed to, but after that I'm pretty much ok with a photo free for all - as long as they don't push my photog out of the way of course! =) x

I think flash photographer personally during the ceremony shouldn't be used unless the B&G have explicitly said they don't mind. I don't usually use flash during the ceremony, instead just open the lens up for more light and prior preparation before the ceremony making there there is plenty of natural light! I didn't like it during my day I found it distracting.

If you wanted to let people know not to take pictures then do so. A photographer on the IOW recently put a link up regarding this and how people taking pictures can actually ruin the professional ones. I will try and find it.

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I took over 300 at my sil wedding and that was just in at the church lol and i didnt miss a thing, His face when she walked in, her and her dad coming down the isle and when she stood with h2b, Best man with rings etc, I have to say the bride was lucky i did take so many as they had 2 pros and they didnt get every shot the couple wanted. I made her a collage of all the pics which she has up in her house and she said to this day every one who sees it asks who mad it and says its so good . Every pic in it is mine and it contained over a 100 of my best pics from the church. Another wedding i went to i took a lot again and the best ones were in the church, I have a lovely one of them sitting after signing as i had the perfect seat to take it from, She also had pros there for the whole day and he even ask me if i could try and get a pic of the couples little girl as he had tried so many times and she would not stand still, But as she knew me she let me take a few of her. I was also on hol once and a bride ask me if i would film her wedding on the beach lol no pressure then. So im there in my bikini and h2b in his swimming shorts and i filmed it and my h2b took the pics all with there own phones. I didnt miss anything i had the camera to the side of me so i still watched it as normal. I have to say i do love any photos so i guess thats why i dont mind them being taken all day long at my wedding and why i cant help taking them at other weddings, But then i have taken 1200 on a weeks hol before lol I cant help it i think im picture mad. I think a thread on how many pics does your photographer say they aim to take though out the time they are there would be good, as when i asked at wedding fairs it changed so much some 200 some 500 for the same amount of time. I wanted a lot more than that lol. I would not mind going to some ones wedding and they said no pics or no fb pics or vids as its there day i wouldnt mind at all.

I don't mind as long as I don't fall over walking down the aisle that's all that worries me I will say turn your flash of Thoe as it will make me feel uneasy and like I have loads of cameras in my face which I don't want as I don't like my picture taken much but as it's my wedding day may make a acceptation just coz I'm getting married =D <3X

We're not having a professional photographer so Im the opposite really - I want guests to take as many as possible - but having said that - I don't want a sea of phones/camera's in place of my lovely friends and families faces xx

I think phones should be off full stop for the ceremony and meal no taking photos no hearing peoples phones vibrating during the ceremony and meal. If people want to use a camera with out the flash that's fine but you don't want to get the photos back and there's everyone standing phones out when you walked down the isle.