We have decided NOT go get our Bridesmaid any thank you gifts... they have their favours and will be having a FAB day..
We have gone WAY beyond our 3k budget, infact its more 4k now. We have got our parents a framed pic of our Pre Wedding,
I have been told that its rude notto get something for them, but i really cant afford any thing else, Does anyone think its Rude not to get gifts for out 4 BM and 1 Flowergirl?
CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
nope not at all, were not gettin any thank u gifts!!!
neither of our familys have helped us so y shud we thank em! i think just bein asked 2 be a bridesmaid/flower girl is an honour n a priveledge. x x x
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CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
Ok my post didn't post ??? lol
I don't think it's not rude if you can't afford it then you can't afford it end of. If you paid for their dresses, shoes etc could you not say to them that they are their gifts? x
CommentAuthorMrs_raske2b
I dont think i'll be getting my two bridesmaids gifts; im buying their dresses, shoes and bouquets so cant afford an expensive gift like the ones suggested in all the magazines! Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a gift in itself if you ask me!! xx
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
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They have brought their own dresses shoes etc.... i have bought their bouquet tho.. silk fowers! but after everything i still cant afford to buy them anything... they are obviously keeping their dresses and shoes etc..
Glad im not the only one not buying as id feel mean lol
i have got our bm gifts but they werent that expensive! i have bought the dresses and flowers and will have favours. it is just another expense you dont have to do xx
CommentAuthorricky
I did buy them something but they were very very cheap..more a momento than a gift..but I totally agree with you..if you can't afford it then that's it. xxxxx don't worry they will have a fab time in their posh frocks and with flowers too. xxx
CommentAuthorMrsTacky2B
Not at all,, i dont think its rude, they are going to understand your circumstances anyway. Dont worry they will have a fab day with you xx
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
I've not got mine gifts per say, more like little favours that are unique to them and only cost me £2 each. If your paying for everything else then i dont think a thank you is necessery
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CommentAuthorkimmy
If you cant afford to then don't, iv'e bought my two a lovely trinket box all engraved for £7.99 !!!!!!!
CommentAuthorljeh92
We have bought all our bms, ushers, parents etc. something but wish i didnt now cos its cost us a fortune ad they never even helped us so whats the point?
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CommentAuthorCroc
Nah is it hell rude ... We haven't oh and also not for the parents either don't see why we should lol x
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
I've got mine gifts but they've bought all their own stuff. In fact the only things I'm buying for them are their fascinators and bouquets which comes to £25 each. I've got them a bracelet each, think I've spent about £30 on each of them. Although I am going to say that the ONLY reason I've had to do this is because they were BMs last year too and the bride bought them a Pandora bracelet each as a thank you - well I cant afford that but it meant that I had to get something as she set a rather expensive precedent!! xxx
CommentAuthorPinky1985
I've bought all my flowergirls a personalised charm bracelet with their names on, they came to £18.01 for 4 inc postage and I have order our bestman a personalised tankard and my bridesmaid a hand painted personalised wine glass each of those was just under £13 inc postage! It really doesn't need to cost alot but if you have gone over your budget and really can't afford it then Im sure they wont mind, I wouldn't if it was me!! Im only buying my grandad, dad and mum something has they are walking me down the aisle and paid for quite a bit of our wedding whereas H2B mum and dad haven't paid or offered to help with anything so they can go run and jump if they think they are getting a 'thank you' pressie! Lol! xxx
CommentAuthorlili1988
It isnt rude not to buy them gifts, they are getting the honour of being part of your day that if they are that immature that they expect a gift they arent worth it!
You said you are doing framed pics for your parents (lovely idea by the way) if you still feel you should give them something
Maybe you could give them a nice framed pic of them in their bridesmaids gear - you can get nice frames for £2 from wilkos
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CommentAuthorStave
We are not going to, I hate the bit of the speeches, when the gifts are given out. It is such a waste of driking time ;-) everyone knows how important they are!
CommentAuthorxox-Zoeee
its not rude if h2b had his way no1 would be getting gifts. he doesnt understand why we are giving people gifts when we have fed them and give them free drinks. he also carnt undersatnd why we get them a present and they give us a present no1 wins lol. he does have a good point. the little famed phots are a very good idea tho if u feel u have to giv a little something. xx
CommentAuthormcquire81
As im having a butterfly theme to my day im buying my bms a silver butterfly necklace each which they can wear on the day, they arent expensive and double up as a gift too. I dont think its rude of you not to get a gift though, im sure your bms will be happy just to be part of the day xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i am buying mine tiffanys necklaces ...bit ott ? maybe but they are my daughters lol if they were anyone else they would be having something VERY little
Ummm i.think.after i buy mine dresses, tiaras, jewellery, flowers and shoes they will not be getting anymore lol xx i will get my mum flowers and if anyone.else puts in any effort they can have some too x and im hoping to buy groom a watch xx
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
I don't think we're going to get gifts for anyone apart from my parents, who are paying. We're giving the BMs £75-100 each towards a dress of their choice (my only stipulation is no pastel colours; otherwise, any colour or style goes); so, it'll be something they like and can wear again. Food and drinks are then costing in excess of £100 pp, and then there'll be their bouquets. Also, I'm not giving them any duties; all they need to do is come shopping for their dresses, and turn up on the day; that is all that I expect of them. If I was expecting them to ferry me to dress fittings, help make invites etc then I'd get them gifts to show my appreciation, but as it is, they're getting food and drink, and a new dress/money towards one, so not a bad deal lol
I also don't think we're doing favours as such; instead of place cards, I'm having sterling silver wine charms on key rings with people's names/nicknames, so they can keep those.
I just think, we're spending A LOT on everyone, so really, I think favours and gifts are unnecessary; plus a lot of people don't really appreciate them anyway IMO
CommentAuthorgothprincess
I don't thik it's rude if you have bought all the dresses etc. but if the BMs have bought their own dresses then really they deserve to know it's apreciated. It doesn't have to be an expnsive gift but they have gone to an expense for you and deserve something special maybe you could paint a wine glass for them or make some other keepsake.
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
just an idea, although i don;t think it is rude, is you have overspent how about you getting them something not mega expensive, for example my mate got her bridesmaids chocolate champagne bottles with thankyou iced on them for thorntons
CommentAuthorclareabella
well girls ive been buying things for my bridesmaids and the only person person whos getting a bunch of floers is my mum cos his mum as offered us sweet fa and shes loaded my mum as offered 2 buy our cake and the photos my dad is paying 4 the registar office and none of his family have offered so his side getting nothing
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
our mothers are getting nothing although having said that at least my mother is coming
I have just come back from Party spot, and saw a little plaque saying "Thanks for being my Bridesmaid... they was only 99p each lol....
So i have got them all one of them... So they HAVE got something!!
CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
Why not ask your photographer to take a pic of each of them? I'm sure they wouldn't mind, I'm getting gifts but my friends and bridesmaids are photographers/flower arrangers etc.
CommentAuthorFruity_pops
no its not rude
if u feel bad find a poem about thier role and print in on nice paper for them and maybe a frame if u can find on cheap. or something really cheap in sale somewhere
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CommentAuthorkisseymad1
I know i would like to but i'm not sure if we can, i don't think it's rude so long as they know why -which i'm sure considering it's you bridesmaid they will- they can't be upset, i mean you are making them a special part of one of the most important days of your life :) x
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
I've having this dilemma too, as our budget is tight. I don't think it's rude as you're up front about it right from the start and explain that you are only spending what you can afford on the important things (not that bridesmaids aren't important of course, but you know what I mean)
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hun, why dont u get old piccies of u with each of ure bms and make them a scrap book thing of ures 2 'lives' 2geva? that wud be ultra cheap! i dont this but bought me to u albums for £7
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CommentAuthorsam73
I bought my BM's gifts bulk buy on a shoppin jewellery channel absolutely beautiful and came to £43 for 4
CommentAuthormym72
We're only having one bm - and we've decided to get her a small gift as well as the best man - but we're not doing favours for the guests. We're paying for their meal and wine, bought suits for the wedding party and also some deposits for accommodation so I definitely think that's enough.
CommentAuthorsoon to be Mrs Hughe
We are making our table decoratons ourselves insted of renting them, so we were planning of giving those as gifts to our parents and bridsmaids and a few other guest, plus keeping one for us.
It's not rude at all, if these girls are your bridesmaid they obviously mena alot to you so they will understand that wedding are blooming expensive and they shouldn't expect gifts.
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
give them a home made thank you card!!!!
i dont think its rude...
i wont be gettin all my bridesmaids one im only gunna get the ones that have actually helped something which will prob ened up ben my sister and chief and to be fair im only considering it at the moment as they havent really done anything yet!!!!!!!!!!!! x
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CommentAuthorClarabella
I have 2 out of my 4 sisters being my BM and they told me they didnt want anything but i was still going to get them something but when i got my rings from smooch the guy said i could have a free gift for them so i have that and im going to get them something else as well
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CommentAuthorEnny
I dont know yet if I'm going to get my brides maids any gifts yet... its so far till april 2013 although the time seems to run away... still havent decided how many bridesmaids i'm going to have... my plan is to pay for they dresses and a lovely necklace or tiara for each of them which they will be able to keep it of course depends who is supporting me the most and they obviously do deserve a gift... i think its more the gesture not how expensive it really is personalized is sometimes more worth than something real expensive so its really up to u :)
