me and the H2B would much prefer money than wedding presents as we would like to use it as spending money on our honeymoon. Question is. . .is that rude? if not how do you let guests know? was thinkin of adding it into the invites but not sure how to word it?? HELP!! xxx
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CommentAuthorloustew2012
hey
there are several sites that have some poems already done for that (i would give u the links but h2b is on the big pc working!!) im thinking the samme or a gift list to replace some of the worn things we have.
everyone knows most people live together anyway so would prob opt to give cash than a gift... xx
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CommentAuthorNuttynonnie
thanks chick!! il have a peek at some sites :-) xxx
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CommentAuthor~feebee~
I've got some little cards with a poem on it off the bay of e
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CommentAuthorloustew2012
np, might sound silly but theres a lot of american sites that have wee poems you can send with your invites....
good luck xx
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I'm sure i've seen money wallet/cards for weddings? Lots of people ask for money instead, mainly to go towards the honeymoon x
CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
No, its not rude and I would say its more common nwadays to ask for money, so don't feel like you shouldn't be doing it :) x
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i hav a little money poem in my invites x
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CommentAuthorBridezilla
I agree with the other people who posted. Although it doesn't sound like a very exciting gift to give, at least it's nice and easy for people.
CommentAuthorsussie
i have a poem that we are putting in, and tbh they are the left overs from my MOHs wedding in August lol
CommentAuthorLittleMissBossy
There are lot's of poems out there - quite funny ones too. I am going to add one to our wedding website and I'll also add it to the invites.
It does feel rude to me but it would also feel rude to me to give a registry or similar. So what the heck! :-)
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CommentAuthorDee37
We didn't need anything for the house, and think its quite common these days as most people live together.
We asked for dollars to spend on our honeymoon and people liked doing that. I put a little poem in that i tailored i found just by googling. We still got a few presents from people as well as gift vouchers. You could always put a list of shops you like for vouchers or some companies let people pay towards the honeymoon if you're not going straight after. Lots of options.
xx
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
we have put money poems in the invites too, i took lines from about 3 poems so it was unique to us and it sounded nice :) just an idea if ur worried about it being samey :) x
CommentAuthorTikobear
We already have everything we need for house & garden and our budget doesn't stretch to a honeymoon so we are gonna pop a poem in the invites and have a homemade wishing well with envelopes so peeps can pop money in there, no need to even put a name on it, people won't think they're being stingy if only givin ya £10!!
Hopefully we'll have a nice tidy sum to put towards a week away!
Tikobear :)
CommentAuthorBristolBride
WE HAVEN'T GOT A WEDDING LIST THE REASONS WE'LL EXPLAIN IT'S TO SAVE YOU ALL THE HASSLE AS SHOPPING IS A PAIN
WE THOUGHT WE'D ASK YOU ALL FOR SOMETHING ELSE INSTEAD A SMALL CONTRIBUTION FOR US TO TAKE A HOLIDAY IN THE MED
SO IF YOU'D LIKE TO CONTRIBUTE TOWARDS OUR HONEYMOON WE OFFER YOU OUR HEART FELT THANKS WITH LOVE THE BRIDE AND GROOM
or my fave
We've been together for a few years, And have a lovely home, There are not too many items, We don't already own.
So if your thoughts were on a gift, Your presence will suffice, But if you really feel the need, A small donation would be nice.
The choice is really up to you, And we would like to say, We hope you come, enjoy yourselves, And have a lovely day.
CommentAuthorBridezilla
Those are great! I might pinch, erm I mean recycle one of those! :)
CommentAuthorTsukijin
knowing my family I'll end up with a Hoover or a thousand plates or something..or knowing oh's family, the ugliest ornament they can find on the face of the earth, so we have put that there is a wishing well for our honeymoon if anyone feels like they wish to add anything,spare change, buttons ect ^_^
eru, shiteiru ka? shinigami wa ringo shika tabenai?
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CommentAuthormym72
We already lived together so didn't need anything for the house - so instead we put a poem in with the invites asking for money or Thomas Cook vouchers for our honeymoon. No-one gave us vouchers but we did get a lot of money.
CommentAuthorNuttynonnie
bristolbride those are fab!! :-) a poem doesnt make it sound rude at all!! xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsComiskey-2b
Bristolbride,
Love the poems and have saved them so I can use them myself, we have decided to ask for money also because we will have moved into our new house a year before we are married so will have all those bits and bobs. I was worried about this also but you have all settled my mind thanks girls xx
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CommentAuthorSweetchilli
Our's is very similar to Bristolbride's second poem.
CommentAuthorKate4
No I don't think it's rude at all... that's why i'm doing it :-p
I've lived with OH for 5 years, we bought a house last year and kitted it out then so we don't want a gift list. We don't even want vouchers because we don't need anything. My mum wasn't too keen on us asking for money at first, as she said older guests like to see that you've had something to keep. But I explained the majority of guests are younger and will be used to this. And also our wedding and honeymoon is costing us more than we can easily afford so money to help us out is a hugely helpful gift. I think all guests, young and old will appreciate that. x
CommentAuthorJules
I thought the same, that people may think it rude, but 2 b honest it is really common these days that people do ask for money so we are putting a little poem in with our invites aswell xx
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CommentAuthorJilly17
It seems to be more and more common to do this and it seems the only potential problems are with family members (usually the oldies!) who do feel it is rude. We will be doing a combination with a small wedding list so that way everyone is happy!
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
A friend of mine is expecting a baby so she set up a gift list at John Lewis, and all she had on there were gift vouchers in multiples of £5! We're putting little envelopes in with our invites and an explanation that we would like money for gifts, as this is a Chinese tradition so expected!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
We asked for honeymoon vouchers but we ended up booking and paying for a honeymoon ourselves before the wedding, most of our guests knew this but also knew we still would like vouchers for a 2nd honeymoon so we ended up with honeymoon vouchers, cash to put towards anything we like and dollars to spend on our honeymoon we had paid for. We done pretty well! And none of our guests found it rude at all, they found it much easier doing it that way x
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsClarke
Not rude at all! You guys are setting up your marital home and you want to be able to afford some things. Besides when people give gifts they never have the same taste as you and youre just left with a bit of tat thats a cluttering dust collecter!
CommentAuthormrs m
No not at all, we are doing this and here is the poem to be used. Just make sure its on separate paper then is then slipped inside the invite.
For a couple of years we've lived in sin, we have a toaster, a kettle and a stainless steel bin. Saucepans and towels we have many, Corkscrews and flannels we don't need any. We just want you with us to celebrate our day, but if you insist on a gift anyway. What we'd really like is a gift of money, We hope you don't think we're being funny! We'll put it all together and buy something thats best, as a reminder of our day and our wonderful guests.
xx
Happily in love and can't wait to be married! xx
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
we've got a money poem in our invites aswell and its specific to asking for money towards a honeymoon :o) the most important gift to us is to have you share our day, but should you wish to contribute in some other way, then to help us on our honeymoon in our chosen paradise, a little extra spending money would be really nice
xxx
CommentAuthoremma-lou1506
Wow - I love the idea of the poems!
I've had an invite once that said that only money was required as a present and I didn't find that rude at all. It's the norm!
bristolbride those are fab!! :-) a poem doesnt make it sound rude at all!! xxx
