I know its something I shouldnt be worrying over yet but I cant stop thinking about the table plans!! I really dont want to mix the families as some of my family unfortunately dont have much in common with his so therefore I need to make a table arrangement to suit everyone. I have a step family to add to the equation also so its all a bit manic. I wont even bore you with the crap Im having over the top table!! Hows everyone else sorting their table plans out? xx
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CommentAuthormummyto2
im not mixing my family and his family up as such, but were putting our family on say table 1 then his family table 2 me 3 him 4 and so on but NO WAY would i have them mixed on the same table
im a married women now
mrs carson-moores
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CommentAuthorUnknown
you dont have to but we are so our families get to know each other xx
CommentAuthorSijen
I don't see why people want to mix families...this is just awkward - it's bad enough mixing friends and I don't feel as though people can relax when they are trying to be on their best behaviour in front of the in-laws ha...
I'm not even mixing my mum & dad's families coz it just causes too much hassle!
Stick to seperate tables hun - as for the top table - I don't know what the issues are obviously, but why not just have you & your hubby, MOH, best man, and parents? If that is the cause of the problem, as my friend struggled with, they just sat on a round table with their friends....or you could just have a little table for 2 in the middle of the room for you and your H2B?
Might be weird but if it saves you hassle?
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CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
You don't have to, but it's worth blanking out family to an extent and seeing them as people and treating it like a very big dinner party. Ideally, you want to put people together who will either match or contrast. When I was planning dinner parties, I always tried to add a wild card to the table every time (i.e. a couple of staunch Tories in the middle of a table of lefties). Admittedly, that only really works if you've got a table of people who love to talk and debate.
When I have done my seating plan I have done it grouping people together who I know will get on with each other rather than where they come from etc. They are all sat in their small groups together so have someone they know on the table but will also have new people they are similar to that they can talk to.
CommentAuthorKimi
Best thing to do is to sit down and list everyone who's coming - work out those that will ideally need to sit together and fit others around that - For me it was easier to keep families together and not really mix people.
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
every table I have will have a mix of both families.
But I am trying to put similar personalities together. im also putting similar age groups together.
I am not splitting up couples obviously
And top table is going to be 100% traditional. His parents both have new partners - but for me the top table is for mother and father of bride and mother and father of groom - best man and moh - bride and groom - Not for step parents.
Thats just us though - and I understand some step parents are more parents to the kids than the actual parents is etc and that every body is different - but with us it has to be this way!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we are grouping people according to age or taste .......so bothe sets of parents will sit on the same table with older guests ....
our top table consists of us and the four friends that are coming to our first ceremony in America
lol! I said Im not splitting couples - well thats a lie because I am splitting 3 couples.
The best man;s wife will be on a different table with the best man on the top table
The father of groom will be on top table with his partner on another table
The mother of the groom with be on top table and her husband on another table.
But its only for the meal! x
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CommentAuthorMrsSnedden2B
I mixing mine only reason some will get on better with h2b family than mine haha i have put likes and personallites together so the have stuff in comanin xx
CommentAuthorLeanneDickson
I'm not mixing either. Well, only two people from my dad's side is invited so I guess they are getting mixed in but they can't exactly sit at a table on their own! But I'm not mixing h2b family with mine....very different people and it would be horrendous. Luckily, if I go with the venue I'm thinking about, the tables are long and sit 12 so will all his family on one, all mine on one, all our age group friends on one and my older church friends on another, makes it easier for the venue too as the church friends don't drink so that can be the alcohol free table! (I used to be a member of the Mormon church)
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
aww wno i dont liek the splittin up of families and sittin wiv sum1 they dont know, they can mingle before and afte rthe meal they hav hours! for the meal i want my guests to have a good time and a laugh so gunna keepo them 2geva
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
We're not marrying for 3 years lol but I've had to do a table plan as our venue is quite small and very limited space and seating-wise; I've really struggled to fit in a top-table and we've lost space because of it :-s
I've sat people with people they know and get on with as much as possible; personally I don't see the point of mixing people up unless necessary, I want my guests to enjoy themselves, not feel they're stuck with people they don't know/have little in common with/making small talk. I've found the seating plan a real nightmare TBH :-s
CommentAuthormrs_houghton_2012
Thanks ladies :) im definitely sticking to NOT mixing the families!!
As for the top table dilema well.. on the top table so far i me, H2B, daughter, MIL, FIL, mum, dad, BM, CBM, step mum and step dad!! my step dad is like my real dad and i just about get on with my step mum but cant have one on n not the other!! was half considering my CBM to sit with her BF on a table near the front to reduce it to one person.. i know she wouldnt mind as he will be on his own! xx
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Got engaged to my sole mate on 1/09/06
Getting married on 1/09/12
Looking forward to becoming Mrs Houghton!
