I think it shows that you aren't ready yet. And why not? Your young and have your whole life ahead of you. Maybe youll feel differently in a few years, maybe you won't. Having them, when you aren't ready won't make you happy. So relax and enjoy yourself.

I agree with Dove, you aren't ready at the moment, and that shouldn't worry you at all. I was the same as you, I knew that kids were somewhere in my future, but at your age I really couldn't genuinely contemplate having any.

Both you and Simon have time on your side. You could enjoy the next 5 years together, and still be 5 years younger than I am now, and I'm only just coming round to the idea of having them!

I agree with Dove you should enjoy your life and if kids aren't part of that that's fine. maybe you will feel different some day but don't rush stuff like that kids are important

Don't worry about how you may or may not feel in 7 years! If you start down that road there's no helping you!

Lemondrops I am in exactly the same situation. Me and H2B lost our little boy. He would have been 18 months old now. But he came as a complete shock. I never got the chance to say hello to him properly because he went to heaven before I could.

We were only 20. We always said we would start a family at around 27/28 after it happened and I put kids to the back of my mind. The thought of children terrifies me but I know deep down its because I am loving being selfish at the mo and the thought of loosing another is unbearable. I never imagined my life without kids. Where as now I can.

I think I will come round to the idea eventually. But I know H2B would be upset if we didn't have kids BUT he has always said he loves me for me, not for the kids I may or may not give him. x

I think you just need to not overthink it and see what fate brings your way. Maybe you'll wake up one day and find that there's something missing in your life and will want kids; maybe you'll always be happy with just the two of you and continue to feel that kids just aren't for you. There is nothing wrong with either option, so long as both you and your H2B are happy with it. It doesn't even need to be a consciously made decision. Personally I am now at a stage where I know I want kids, and am just waiting to be in a financial situation where having children would not be irresponsible. We both know we want children, and we would have them now but don't want to risk not being able to give the kid what it needs! It is that sort of rational decision that showed us we're ready. Anything less than that and I would feel the same way you do right now! Just don't worry about it too much, like I said, and see how you feel in a few years. We'll all live to be 100 anyway :)

Hey, I keep thinking "when im older I will want them" and I get older and it doesnt change. I want it to be about us

people always say to me that its never the 'right' time to have children. you just have to go with your feelings x