well ive said the same i dont want presants i would pefer money or vouchers as we have everything iam gunna tell em all its a greek wedding and they have 2 pin money 2 us lol

Thank you Jen, will have a look. xxx
Thats a relief, I am one of those people that really racks my brain thinking I will offend someone (or everyone) then I end up getting worked up about it all. xxx

I think its reasonable to ask for money and vouchers instead of giving a wedding list.

Everyone expects to buy a present when going to a wedding, so i'd think most people would just be as happy to give money.

We'll be doing the same, hopefully to go toward honeymoon... or carpets! lol. xx

thanks how 2 ask 4 money or vouchers mmmm good idea

I have not done the wording for the invites yet. xxx

also found these for you





If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.

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An Ode to the Gift List

In a wedding invitation,
You usually find some lists,
For venues, menus and hotels,
And also for the gifts

But this one is unusual,
It comes in a different way,
As we're not asking for presents,
But for something else today

Now please don't think we're selfish,
Or that this comes from greed,
But we've lived together for a while,
So there's not that much we need

We would appreciate help though,
To send us on our way,
And allow us to have our honeymoon,
In a land quite far away

So now the point of all this rhyme,
The thing that we would like,
Isn't towels, toasters or microwaves,
But pounds and pence alike

And now you know the reason,
Behind this cheeky accord,
Please help to give us memories,
Of a dream honeymoon abroad

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For a couple of years we’ve lived in sin,
we have a toaster, a kettle and a stainless steel bin,
saucepans and towels we have many,
corkscrews and flannels we don’t need any,
we just want you with us to celebrate our day,
but if you insist on a gift anyway,
What we’d really like is a gift of money,
we hope you don’t think we’re being funny!
We’ll put it all together and buy something that’s best,
as a reminder of our day and our wonderful guests
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We know it's not traditional
It's not the way it's done
But instead of a wedding list
We'd like a bit of sun.

Please do not think of us as rude
Please do not take offence
We do not want to upset you
That's not the way it's meant.

We've lived together quite a while
And all the bills are paid
We've got our plates, our pots and pans
Our plans have all been made.

So if you'd like to give a gift
To help us celebrate
Some money for a honeymoon
We would appreciate

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We are sending out this invitation
In hope you will join a celebration
But if a gift is your intention
May we take this opportunity to mention
We have already got a kettle and toaster
crockery, dinner mats, and matching coasters
so rather than something we have already got
We would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot
But most importantly we request
That you come to our wedding as our guest

tiggs thanks a right help thanks very much am gunna write them out and put them in the invites

We asked for money in a nice way and everyone was fine with it x

were asking for money hun we have a poem to put in invites so its worded right think people will understand we the same are living together and dont ned anythin but honeymoon lol xx

lots of people ask for money and its fine although I think you should give people some options there are those of an older gen who would prefure to give you a gift. why not a nice set of china a painting a mirror some crytall you can get universal gift list on line.

Hi

If you search the supplier "Gift Lists" section (as opposed to Gifts) of UKBride you will find a website that allows you to ask for money as wedding gift. It is free to set up Your Gift Page and you can list the item(s) you are saving up for like a honeymoon etc, add your own message/poem and use other features like stationery and e-mail to notify your guests of your Gift List.

We'll be asking for money or travel vouchers but if they want to get us a gift they can do that instead.

Thank you everyone for your advice. I spoke to h2b armed with all your responses and he thinks its a great idea!!! Cheers all. xxx

we used this one

weve been together for a while now
and we are not alone
we have 2 gorgeous children
and a family home we have a toaster, kettle, microwave
were all set you see
there is nothing for our home we really need
so please dont be offended
and please dont think us brash
but if your thoughts were on a gift
wed much prefer the cash!
but its really up to you
and we would like to say
we hope you come have lots of fun
and help us celebrate

no problem hun :) i went through loads before i found that one then just altered the amount of kids (the poem i found had 4) it just popped out to me lol

we are doing both ....a small gift list with debenhams and then a poem to say money would be lovey if they would rather do that

we are asking for money for a honeymoon, the people we have spoken to about it are more than happy to give money as they dont have to plan what to get and to shop for it, they just put it in an envelope and put it in the post box provided, they seem to love the idea :)

i think its more common than you think! we will be doing this too. majority of people live together a while before they get married nowadays!
don't worry about it people would rather give you something you want and can put use to how you wish

xx

bumping this for nickers :-)

just put a link on your wall to what i told you about the wedding account. hope it points you in the right direction x

I THINK THOMAS COOK do that but im unsure??
perhaps go to your local whatever that is and ask them but im sure there is someone on here that has done it and they just added a number to the invite for ppl to pay money for it.

Hey
We are putting a poem in our invite asking for money for a rainy day.
we have been together 12 years and have a house and 2 daughters so don't need anything.

I don't think it is cheeky, it is better to get what you want than not

show come ur guests neva paid into it hun?dont think h2b is likin the idea i think its great i want to get booked up now x

i never gave anyone the number, not long after we booked the wedding (over a year ago) we decided to have a blessing and renew our vows in church next feb and have the big white wedding all over again, we could afford the wedding abroad and we had enough time to get it paid so are just asking everyone who was going to pay towards it to give us cash towards something else or debenhams vouchers xx

if your going to do it its best to do it early so that when people start asking, or even people like close family who you know are going to contribute will do so early so everything gets paid off in time x