I was engaged 4 years ago and bought a dress i loved, however the relationship broke up and my dress was packed up and resigned to my mums wardrobe having never been worn. I am now engaged to the love of my life and would like to wear the dress i have, is that bad luck? I never picked it with my ex in mind, it was just for me. I would be interested in your thoughts.
CommentAuthorsam73
I don't know to be honest, I wouldn't have thought so, it's the dress you picked regardless who you are with
CommentAuthorMrs Q - Weegie
i would say if you love your dress hun and you dont feel any other will compare then go for it!! i think it would be diferents of you had actually got married in the dress but as its never been worn then I think it would be perfect :D
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CommentAuthorboo
H2B and me are actually disagreement on this lol. He sees no problem with it.....you didn't marry the guy, its never been worn, no problem. Where as I am in 2 minds, I think it would feel too weird for me, not sure I'd wear it. But that said, its how you feel about the dress....
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CommentAuthorUnknown
if you like it then you like it and would prob go for something similar again.
my friend did this actually. she was enagaged a few years ago but called it off 3 weeks before the wedding and kept her dress. she then got married last year and wore the same dress. to her it wa hers and not part of the old relationship. i personally wouldnt do it tho as i dont think my h2b would like it.
speak to your h2b and see what he says. afterall it will be saving you money! xx
I think you definitely need to chat it through with your H2B. I would wear it ... but I know my H2B would be funny about it. I wanted to buy a second hand dress and he hated that idea! xx
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
I would speak to h2b about it and see what he says. If he is not offended by it then definitely wear it. x
CommentAuthormcquire81
I spoke to my h2b and he isnt bothered at all. He hasnt seen the dress obviously but he says that if i love it then thats what matters, so i think i will wear it. I cant really afford to buy another either. Its my dream dress and i dont want to waste it just becasue of the reason it was bought. Thanks peeps, i just wanted to get a general feel what others thought :-)
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
then wear it, you chose it for a reason and it will also save you money x
CommentAuthormcquire81
Thanks i think i will!! xx
CommentAuthorloubyscooby
I dont think its a problem. You picked a lovely dress coz you loved it, you havent worn it so go for it. x
CommentAuthormcquire81
Thanks Loubyscooby, most people seem to agree so i feel happier in my decision now :-) xx
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
Wear it. At the end of the day you only bought it you didnt get married in it. Plus you are going to have different stuff this time so it will be like a whole new dress
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Ok im going to play devils advocate here i asked my h2b (via email) how he would feel if i was in this situation so here's his reply.....
ERMMMM are you kidding????? NO WAY baby your marrying me not somebody else, when you walk down the isle to ME I want to know that you picked the dress with OUR wedding day in mind. Not having to think that your wearing a dress that you brought while engaged to somebody else, with HIM in mind with your day together in mind not OURS! Yes of course the dress you pick will be similar as your the same person so how could it not. NO NO NO NO BABY! Sod the saving money, i dont care you could spend twice as nmuch as i wouldnt mind. I want you in a dress OF YOUR DREAMS that you picked because of the day that WE get married not the dress you picked because of the day you and somebody else gets married!!!!!!!
If i was in this situation the above alone would make me get another dress plus i wouldnt feel right walking down the isle in a dress i brought for a previous wedding.
But i see your other half has no problem with it, so really it's down to you hunni and how you feel about it! If it truely is your dream dress and you can honestly say while wearing it your not thinking of the ex.....then i say go for it :-)
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CommentAuthorshelby
I say if its the dress of your dreams wear it. You could maybe have some beading or something added to it to make it slightly differant but still have the dress (if you get what i mean). xx
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CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
If it's still your dream dress then fine... but I had a dress all picked out when I was engaged a few years ago to someone else and the dress I picked this time is so different - and although I had picked out one similar to what I chose last time, when I put it on I hated it!
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i'd say if it the dress you love then ok
does ur h2b know about the dress? xx
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CommentAuthormcquire81
Yes he does, and he is perfectly happy for me to wear it especially as i love it and we cant really afford to buy another one. I really did pick it for me and not with my ex in mind although I completely understand why some men may be bothered by it, but i think if my h2b isnt bothered and i love it then im happy with my decision to wear it.xx
CommentAuthorCroc
i know my h2b would be really unhappy with it ... but if you love it then why not after all its only a dress.... or sell it and buy a new one with the money youve made from it ... id prob do that thou ... but thats cos i wouldnt want to get married in a dress that i hadnt specifically bought with h2b wedding in mind ... if that makes sense ....thats just my opinion thou
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CommentAuthorsam73
oooh croc thats a good idea, you could sell it and use the money for a new one.
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I'm actually with Hails's hubby on this one (now there's something I never thought I'd say lol) Me personally, I could never dream of marrying Ross in a dress that I'd bought to marry someone else in, it somehow seems disrespectful, not only that but I'd have it in my head that the dress was intended for someone else.
But if you're happy and he's happy then it's not a problem really is it? xxx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would say if it is your dress and no two ways about it then wear it. After all it wouldn't feel right if you got a new dress that just didn't do it for you like this one does. Just because you brought it early doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with it. You just had to wait for the right man to come along before you got chance to wear it. Its not like you actually wore the dress or anyone saw it. Its still a brand new dress.
CommentAuthormcquire81
I think its a personal decision and i just wanted to see what general opinion was. I know some brides wouldnt like the idea or some h2b's either but in my case i feel right wearing it. I cant really sell it as my grandmother contributed to the dress and she adored it also and wanted me to have it as i loved it so much, plus i dont think i could bring myself to sell it anyway.
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Sounds like it is your dress. I think when you find your dress that is it no matter what.
CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
My cousin did just that! She stored her dress away after the engagement fell through. She pulled it out again when she met her h2b. They are now married and she looked stunning on her day.
Her reasoning is that deep down she knew she was wrong to be marrying her ex and only ever pictured herself in the dress in the whole image of 'A wedding day' not 'THEIR wedding day'. In the end the wedding was called off and she stored her dream dress. If it really is ur dream dress then wear it hunny. However if u pictured urself with ur ex whilst wearing it the I personally think u should rethink and maybe sell it as Croc suggested.xx
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CommentAuthorljeh92
i wouldnt personally... i dont think i would anyway, but if your ex isnt being thought about or it doesnt bring memories back of when u were preparing your previous marriage then it doesnt seem that much of a problem x
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CommentAuthormcquire81
Wow Suzie Bear i have to say that is exactly the way my situation went!! I was never sure if i would really marry my ex and so the dress was about me, never him!! This time round, everything feels just as it should which includes the dress!! Thank you xxx
CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
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CommentAuthork
ask yourself a question, would you be happy with another dress ??? would you think it is second best ???
You have the answer, go for it, it is your dress and you brought it for you, i think even if i had to re marry again i would wear the same dress as i love the one i chose.
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
Tbh if I had of bought a dress when I was with my ex fiance there is no way on this earth I could have worn it because even the mention of him makes my skin crawl and I would want nothing to do with him at mine and R's wedding.
BUT
If you and your partner feel it is the right thing to do then go for it - its your day your dress so you do what you feel is right xxx
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
i just asked my h2b and he said he didnt know then he was like if it would save money lol but then he said seriousley.. no i dont think it would bother me, i say wear what u love and if your h2b is happy for u to wear that dress then go for it. if he didnt know about it and u said ud been out and bought u dress how would he know anyway,BUT on sayin that its not a good idea to keep something like that to ya self incase they would be upset xx
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
you picked it and neither of them saw it. Ive heard of brides buy the dress without even having a boyf which is crazy but apparently happens a lot. Im sure its fine.
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CommentAuthorLuce21
I would wear it..... You obviously kept it coz you loved it. You didnt keep the ex did you. So I see no harm in wearing the dress. The dress is your dream....Your now marrying your dream....Just coz you bought the dress 4 years ago makes no difference... Its still your dream.xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Buzzlightyear
I am wearing a dress form a previous engagement but it is the same groom I dont think I would if it wasnt. but if you and you groom dont mind then its fine...
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
KERRYLOU dont tell matt that lol first sonia agreed with him yesterday and now you . He'll get a big head hehehe
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