I haven't seen my Dad for 20 years and haven't a clue where he is so it makes perfect sense for my Mum to give me away. She isn't a confident public speaker but has said she's going to do a speach. Just wondered if anyone else is having them Mum give (throw) them away? xx
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorRachie :D
I would like her too along with Dad but she's not happy with that as she feels its my Dads time with me. But if it was just us two i know she would be very annoyed if I didnt ask her xxx
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CommentAuthorLiz3yy
Not me, Mum is too ill to get involved like that. I'm going to walk down the aisle alone and not have anyone give me away
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthorSharon Lawman 2b
I dont speak to my mum so my son is giving me away he will be 22 by then and is in the RAF so he has asked can he wear his uniform which will be really nice. my BF mum gave her away and that was really nice as her dad had died it made the day a bit more special I think x
CommentAuthorGuessWho
Sorry to hear that Lizzy, will she be ok to get there on the day?
That's lovely Sharon - I am sure he will do you very proud xx
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
I like you dn't bother with my dad and until recently my grandad was gona give me away but sadly past away in april :0( from Lung cancer so ive asked my nan instead and she was over the moon :0) My mum is a complete nightmare and doesn't want me to marry hubby to be so.. can't wait and know it will be more emotional too as im getting ready at her house xx Can't wait!! Good luck for your day hun x
CommentAuthorGuessWho
That sounds very special Becky - make sure you both have the Kleenex ready on the day xx
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorAbbey
My Mum was going to give me away but her and my brother have apparently discussed it and the thought of a speech and not being able to watch me walk down the aisle has made her nominate my brother. I'm kind of glad as I'm very close to my brother and it will be nice to see both my h2b and my Mum near the front, as long as my Mum doesn't start blubbing and make me cry to! x
CommentAuthorMrsH2B
My dad wasn't really around when i was growing up but since we had our daughter he has come back into my life and is making an effort. He is coming abroad for the wedding but I am still having my mom give me away as she is the person who has been there my whole life through everything. May ask him to walk with us but I'm not sure.
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CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
I prefer not to be given away at all but my parents made a huge production about it so I have to :( I especially don't want my dad to give me away as, although my parents are together and I live with them, he's never really taken an interest in my life except when he wants to show off. Buut I can't tell him that to his face so instead I'm having both my parents give me away. Or, rather, they're walking me down the aisle. I specifically chose to leave out the "who gives this woman to be married today?" part of the ceremony. Partially because the "giving away" tradition feels too much like a financial transaction and partially because my parents both have foot/ankle problems and will need to sit.
CommentAuthorhlaraine1
i lost my dad some years ago, as my son is now 21 i have asked him to take on the role of walking me down the aisle and making a speech. my mom would not be confident enough to do it.
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
My Dad died when I was 18 and my parents divorced when I was 11 anyway, but I wanted my Godfather to give me away. Unfortunately, he died 3 years ago. My mum's really not a confident person and has always said she'd hate to give me away. So I made arrangements for me and my MoH to walk down the aisle. Typically, my mum kicked off about it so to keep the peace, she's walking me down the aisle, but I'd much rather it was my MoH!!! Hx
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CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
I thought about having my MoH do it too but, like you, my parents would have made a huge fuss. I thought it would make more sense- essentially my best friend of 17 years placing her trust in my h2b. She's already deployed the "break her heart and I break your face" rule, haha.
When h2b's dad and stepmum got married, she had her son give her away (her dad passed away the year before) and it was so lovely.
CommentAuthortracey.blue
My brother is giving me away. I havent seen my Dad in 5 years, he has never met my fiance, so he isnt even invited to the wedding!!
CommentAuthorGuessWho
It's so hard but life is never simple is it. It then moves on to the top table with a Dad absent what do you do there? xx
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorxbeckyx
Im not having a top table for that same reason hun x Were having our table with me and hubby to be and our kids x
CommentAuthorClarabella
I have my mum giving me away and my dad is still giving his speach as well. My dad left my mum when i was 11 and so she raised me and my 4 older sisters by herself so i thought it only be right that she gave me away. When i asked her she was so touched that she was in tears. When matthew proposed to me i said to him that i wanted my mum to give me away and he was completly fine with it. At that point he had never met my dad as my dad lives near newcastle and i live up in aberdeenshire but i have never had a close relationship with my dad so i wasnt sure how to tell him that i wanted my mum to give me away but my sisters said write him a letter and so i did and he was alright with it but he still wanted to give a speach for me which my mum really didnt want to do cos she wasnt happy about standing up in front of everyone
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CommentAuthorGuessWho
I've thought about that Becky but I do love the sentiment of it so really want one but it gets akward grr x
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorPaula
I am doing the same becky, top tables are hard work.
I have no idea if I will have anyone to give me away as my dad's side dont want to come because of my mum and I am not close to my mum we have a strained relationship at the best of times, but would feel bad not inviting her x
CommentAuthorserine4andrew
My mum is giving me away, its the only right thing to do as she was the one who bought us up by herself, i am also having a hard time trying to figure out who sits on top table :/ my h2b and our three children may just be the way forward :) xxx
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CommentAuthorGazza 122
why cant families just be easy! lol, i am in the same boat with you, ...i dont really want my dad to walk me up the aisle, or give me away and all that business, ....he isnt interested in my life for most of the time..so why should one day matter? If i ask my Mum,....i would feel like i was deliberately trying to push my dad's nose out of joint.(i keep asking myself why i care about this...but i still do) ..grrr the walk down the aisle already feels like a scene from entourage...there is my son who is the pageboy, my neice the flowergirl, my daughter and half sister are my bridesmaids, and my 2 besties are MOH and BM....hmmm then there is me..i thought about walking down the aise between them...but H2B recons they will look like bodyguards! lol
I dont think i dare walk all by myself :( but its a good option!
CommentAuthorClareS
My mum's giving me away :) Haven't spoken to my dad in about 5 years and don't want him there. My mum is doing me the honour but she isn't going to be making a speeches x
CommentAuthortracey.blue
My Brother will be on the top table in what should be my dads place. I dont want my dad at my wedding, so he's not even being told!
CommentAuthorcharlottelee
My mum is giving me away, i didnt know my dad until a few years ago and i think my mum would be very upset if i asked him to do it
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CommentAuthorMel D
My mum gave my sister away, but didn't do a speech. I asked her to give me away, but she didn't seem to wat to and suggested that I ask my godfather xx
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CommentAuthorGuessWho
It's so hard isn't it - it's reassuring to know though that there is a lot of us in the same boat xx
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorKirsty4Paul
my dad and my stepdad are both coming to the wedding, not very close with dad but dont want to upset him by asking my stepdad to do it. so good old mum is giving me away she is the man for the job ha ha x x
CommentAuthorKirsty4Paul
my top table is me, h2b, best man, and 2 ushers and 2 bridesmaids
CommentAuthorGuessWho
That sounds the best solution Kirsty, so you're not having any of them on the top table. I am thinking :
Best Man, Grooms Mum, Our daughter (FG), Me, H2B, My Mum, Grooms Dad, MOH
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorKirsty4Paul
with both of our parents divorced and remarried there is too many of them and i dont want to split them up for the meal and i would just feel awkward so we are having our best friends on the table and thats that sorted then! families are hard though!! xx
CommentAuthorPrincess Sarahbelle
my mum and brother are giving me away
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CommentAuthorreilykit
My mum is walking me down the aisle as i couldnt choose between my dad and step father.....my little sis got married last december and she had my step dad walk her but it really upset my real dad and caused loads of problems! I decided not to get involved in the petty arguements by choosing my mum, she isnt doing a speech my step dad will, beside my dad is walking his step daughter down the aisle so its not like he will never get to do plus my older sis will def have him if she ever gets married lol !
CommentAuthorMel D
we had two top tables, us, bridesmaids, best man & partners and then all the parents were on a table of their own
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Renewing vows Sat 29/05/2021
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CommentAuthorGuessWho
Lol I like that idea Mel. x
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
Hi Toria,
It's difficult with my Mum, she had a stroke and heart attack in 2003 and ever since has been hard to handle. She has to have round the clock care and can't live by herself. My Dad died two years ago so now Mum is in a care home. I got loads of abuse from her sisters for not dropping my life to care for her. Sorry but she is a grown woman and brought a lot of her health problems on herself, besides I live 200 miles away so couldn't drop all and go there straight away.
Since then and due to the total lack of sympathy from "them" about my Dad I have cut them out of my life. Mum will get an invite to the wedding as she is of course the only Mum I have, but how she gets there and is looked after isn't our concern. Might sound harsh but we won't have the time or energy to worry about that.
Sorry, I went off on one a bit there!
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthorGuessWho
Hey hun that's what this site is for isn't it so we can all support each other? That sounds really hard to deal with as you say you only have one Mum but on your big day you will have enough to worry about. Does she have a carrer who can come along and look after her?
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorTinkerbell
I havn't seen my Dad since I was 4 (long story but he tried to kidnap me), anyway, my Mum gave my sister away at her Wedding and she requested not to do it again as she was shaking more than my sis lol ! So, as H2B sister dosn't see their Dad, he won't get the chance to do iy so H2B Dad is going to walk me down the aisle, he cried when I asked him....Bless !
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CommentAuthorkimmy
My darling dad passed away 4yrs ago, so iv'e asked my mum...she's chuffed but nervous about the speech!!
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
My dad died almost 8 years ago so my mum is giving me away. She is pretty nervous about the whole thing I think, particularly the speech but she's also chuffed because she's going to treat herself to a really posh outfit so she looks the business :o)
CommentAuthorGuessWho
I think it's a very brave thing for Mum's to do as it's not the 'norm' but as you say Sara they get to have a very posh frock and play an even bigger part during the day than they would normally. I think Mum's are good at reassurance too so will be handy having her on the arm x
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorKatiePx
My mums giving me away :) my dad unfortunately died a week before christmas due to cancer :( so she has told me she would like to walk me down the aisle but she doesn't want to do a speech because like your mum she isnt a keen public speaker x
CommentAuthorGuessWho
Sorry to hear that - will be tough without him there on the day I imagine - good job you can support each other xx
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
