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    • CobaltBlues2016
      CommentAuthorCobaltBlues2016
      Posted: Jun 1st 2016
     
    Hi Ladies,
    I'm hoping you can help me with your advice/experience please,
    I'm in a dilemma regarding inviting my work colleagues to the evening of our wedding, I get on with them OK most of the time but some I get on more than others (2 close ones I see outside of work are invited to the day), there are about 10 others in my team, I feel if I were to invite them that I should invite all 10 or none and not select few, I don't socialise with any of them outside of work unless it is work related.
    A friend of mine said that they regretted inviting their work colleagues to their evening reception as they couldn't relax which has worried me more. I know it's only evening and not the whole day and I may not even think about it on the day, but I'm worried I'll regret it if I invite them but also worried if it'll cause friction at work if I don't.
    Thanks
    xxx
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 1st 2016
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    I wouldn't worry. Only invite them if you want them there.
    If you don't socialise with any of them but do the other 2 then it makes perfect sense why they would be invited but not the others.

    If they kick up a fuss you could always say due to venue restrictions you don't have the space.

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    • StephanieM158
      CommentAuthorStephanieM158
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 1st 2016
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    If you socialise with them outsid eof work then invite them if you dont then dont worry.
    I work from home so I am my only work colleague. LOL, but we have invited all of his work colleagues as he works for a small company and theyve done so much for us in the past.

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 1st 2016
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    I wouldn't bother, but then I like to keep my work and personal life separate. I think if you are umming and ahhing over it, then you shouldn't invite them as you obviously don't reaaaaally want them there. :)

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 1st 2016
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    Only invite them if you want them there. It's your wedding day, noone should feel obliged to invite work colleagues.

    I only invited one work colleague to the whole day and none at all to the evening. It is just that one colleague I get on really well with and socialised with outside of the workplace. Other than her I didn't want to see colleagues on my wedding day which IMPO is a private and personal event.

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 33 months ago
      Posted: Jun 1st 2016
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    Yeah it's your wedding, invite who you like- if you only really get on with 2 then invite them

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    • MaxineP89
      CommentAuthorMaxineP89
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 1st 2016
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    Similar dilemma here too, but still have plenty of time to make a decision.

    Looking forward to becoming the 3rd and last Mrs McLauchlan


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    • LauraH813
      CommentAuthorLauraH813
      Posted: Jun 2nd 2016
     
    Am in the same boat. I work with a smallish team and I get on with everyone tho some better than others. I have decided to invite only a select 4 or 5. It would be incredibly awkward to invite the majority and risk offending a few. Even half would be difficult and i dont have the allowance to invite all of them. I'm not inviting their other halves either as I figure knowing each other they can stick together and I don't really know their partners. Am lucky in that H2B has a large group of colleagues he wants to invite and they will take most of our allowance anyway. Gives me a good excuse for the smaller number of invitees.
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    • StephH96
      CommentAuthorStephH96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 4th 2016
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    In my office there are about 25 of us. I get on with all of my team well plus my manager and a lot of others on other teams. There's a few new people that I haven't really talked to properly but they seem nice. As an office we are very gelled together and we talk about our lives all the time so I have invited everyone and partners. That way people aren't going to feel left out but can politely decline the invite. From my replies so far about half are bringing partners and half aren't.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is it depends on how your vibe in your office is. You can quite easily accommodate your whole team for the evening do if you want to. If you don't want to ask everyone then don't, just say you have tight numbers.
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    • SusanM34
      CommentAuthorSusanM34
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 6th 2016
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    I agree with Steph, just say sorry, but numbers are limited. Especially if you are 100% on having them there.

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    • CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
      Posted: Jun 6th 2016
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    Invite who you want. We invited some from work and not others. I wasn't bothered about those we didn't invite as it was our wedding and up to them if they wanted to sulk about it. They didn't seem to bother anyway. It's your day, have who you want.
 
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