My wedding breakfast room only holds 60 guests. My immediate family alone is 30. My H2B believes we should have equal sides bearing in mind his family is smaller. Therefore this means my friends wouldn't be able to attend but could come to the evening reception. As his Mam is refusing to take anyone off her list. Has anyone had just a wedding party made up of family guests only?? What do you other Brides to be think??
CommentAuthorNaomiD23
Help Please fellow brides!!!
CommentAuthorclairenina
Why does his Mum have a list? It's your wedding. We don't have equal side numbers. We have 38 at our breakfast, and we have just gone with who we are closest to
CommentAuthorNaomiD23
well I thought it was tradition to expect both Mums to have a list and then the bride and groom have a list. Is your 38 just family?
CommentAuthorclairenina
We have done away with most of tradition, seeing as though we are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. Our 38 is a mix of family & friends. Not all family though, just close family, not invited any that we don't see.
are all the family you have invited close to you? is there any you could bump to evening in favour of friends? there's like 4 fam,ily members i could instantly relegate to evening if it meant my closests mates could be there!
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CommentAuthorkittyh
get them to all write an A B and C list with the most important in A, do the same for yourself and then include all from your A list, then try and include as many from theirs as possible that you are happy with and if you have room start filling people in from the B lists and then the C...thats how we did it...but to be honest my mum and dad and h2bs parents hardly asked for anyone to be included and pretty much the ones that they did were already on our list anyway...as for splitting numbers I don't even know which of us has more guests on our 'side' we just picked the people we wanted together and made decisions on how close we are to people. surely its more important to have people who you really want there rather than distant family to make up the numbers? :)
CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
To keep out numbers to 60 we went with family up to aunts and uncles to the day and friends we are really close to. Evening will then be cousins and other family members and friends.
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Parents nowadays don't have the same roles as previously. Parents used to invite all their friends but now couples actually get to invite who they want. Everyone coming to ours are people we know, want there and crucially care about us and want to see us wed which is how it should be, not what you parents want!! x
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
I tend to agree with your OH to a certain degree Why should one person have more guest than the other its about both parties.
Ive ditched cousins to evening so that my friends can come to the day. However me and OH have a similar sized family.
Agree with the others tho his mother shouldn't be saying im not taking anyone off her list unless she is paying for everything
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I personally don't think it matters about having even numbers - my family is bigger than my OH's family, but I'm not going to turn around to some of my family and tell them they can't come just because there are more of them. In my eyes, both families are becoming one on that day anyway so instead of having '2 sides' it's like one big happy family. :)
We will also be having a sign asking people to choose a seat and not a side at the ceremony xx
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CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
OK, My family is made up of 22 people, my OH's 12. He would NEVER dream of asking me to cut people out of my family list to make it "equal" as that would be unfair since he would be able to have his whole family there but not me just because mine is larger? Our limit is 60 people as well for the meal so the as the rest is being made up of our friends.
My FMIL wouldn't even contemplate telling us who we have to and cannot invite.
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
My OH has more aunts and uncles than me, but my parents are paying for reception and we have a fairly even split because we have invited close family friends and my godparents to the day to reach our 60. He will have more people coming to the evening as his family is huge with regards cousins. We asked both our parents for a list and it was essentially who we would have gone for and then we just added our friends. We were both agreed on cousins to the evening otherwise it would be like 100 people to the day. I dont think a split really matters - you have to have there the people who are most important to you both- its not a case of just inviting people to make sure it is an even split.
