All of our guests are invited to the ceremony, then some are invited to the reception and the rest are invited to the evening celebrations later that day.
So we had two types of invites...
This was a) G and L request the pleasure and company of ...........................................
at the church on this date at this time
we would also love for you to join in the evening celebrations at the hotel from 7:30pm
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b)
G and L request the pleasure and company of ...........................................
at the church on this date at this time
followed by a reception at the hotel and evening celebrations.
Then both types of invites had rsvp slips enclosed.
Somehow people who have been sent the invites to the ceremony and evening celebrations have gotten confused and have mentioned things that have made us think that they think they are coming to the reception aswell. Is the wording confusing? Or have some people just not read it properly?
Anyway we have decided to send people a letter that basically says thank you for their rsvp. It will go something like this...
Dear ....
Thank you for your RSVP to the evening celebrations from 7:30 onwards. We are really looking forward to seeing you there.
lots of love G and L
Gareth has said that we shouldn't mention the ceremony in this little letter as he thinks this is where the confusion comes from (people assuming they will go to a reception after this).
Is this what you would do? Has anyone got any other suggestions? We've made it so far without any major dilemas, lol and now this lol people are gonna be showing up for a reception and they won't have a seat or a meal haha.
Sorry for the super long post :(
xx
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CommentAuthorMrsL2Be
It seems pretty simple to me hun.. Don't see where the confusion would come into..
But I'd do the same as you by sending the letter.. Hope it gets sorted hun xx
CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
dont see how people would get confused with that! id send a letter just incase xx
CommentAuthorKaya
My friend did the same thing, but she had people that came to the sit down meal thinking they were invited all day too x
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CommentAuthorClarabella
Ive never heard of inviting people to see you get married and then come to the evening celebrations. That could be why they are getting confused?
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Actually I can see how people could have been confused by this invitation as you have sent an 'official' invitation for the ceremony. People have probably assumed they are going to the wedding reception too...awkward! I've had invites before for evening do's that have said we are welcome to attend the church to watch 'us' get married and will see you later for the evening do type thing. I think what is confusing is that you have made the church the main part of the wedding invitation, whereas you possibly should have made it stand out that it was an evening invitation and that guests could also attend the church ceremony if they wished.
Sorry - not having a pop at you or anything and I think sending the extra letter will clear things up...good luck x
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CommentAuthorKaya
I've been invited to 2 in the past year that have invited me to ceremony and evening, I understood both times, but I did think it was a right pain in the ass having to wait around all day! Soo I didn't go to 1 of them cos of it, and the other 1 I got asked nearer the time to come all day x
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
Personally I wudnt of bothered inviting to Church cos u can't expect people to get whole day off etc when they only doin to nite do!
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CommentAuthorlouise88
Okay, thank you girls :) xx
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CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
I would be a bit confussed if i was invited to the day and the evening and not the meal inbetween
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CommentAuthorruthie87
i sent evening invitiations and just said if they wanted to attend the church they could but i just did it verbally so they didnt get confused and it was clear what their invite was for. i think your best sending a letter just to confirm just for your own piece of mind.
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
maybe people are confused because they weren't expecting to be invited to just the ceremony and evening reception. 2 of our friends did that for their wedding a couple of years ago and I had to read the invite about 5 times to realise they only wanted us to go the ceremony and then amuse ourselves for the rest of the day before the evening reception lol. im sure if you explain people wont mind, and will probably feel a but silly for not reading it properly lol x
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
I read this whilst watching the football and initially thought that they were both saying the same thing but worded differently. It's only with reading one of the other girls post that I twigged that one is for the whole day and evening and the other isn't so I can see where people would get confused. You have to factor in that people don't read things properly.
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CommentAuthorkimmy
I don't know how they got confused, it seems pretty straight forward to me :D
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
i admit i had to read it a couple of times too lol but i think the letter will help xx
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
I think it can be confusing. I've kept our evening invites to not mentioning the church and included a note saying that of course if they choose to they are welcome to come and watch the ceremony dispite the evening invite. Your letter should sort out the predicament. x
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CommentAuthorClareS
I can see this from both sides. I pesonally wouldn't invite people to the ceremony and then send them away/expect them to hang around until the evening. It's good that you're writing to them to hopefully clear up any confusion x
CommentAuthorSummerbride2012
I once got an invite in the post inviting me to the service and then following onto their venue for a reception, with a gift list card inserted in the invite. I turned up to the wedding breakfast to be told that I was only invited to the evening! The irony was the bride had phoned me the week before to confirm i was attending for 'seating' reasons. If I get invited to the ceremony I guess I would just assume I was invited to the whole day (as what happened here). Probably the most embarassing moment of my life so far!
CommentAuthorKaya
Aww Summer :-(
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CommentAuthorSummerbride2012
Ha ha I know. I'm a noob. anddddd I bought them some really nice posh egyptian cotton towels from their gift list! I was only 17 at the time!
CommentAuthorKaya
Oh bless :-( x
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
We are doing the same as you but the way we did it was to send out evening invites as per usual and then put on the back of the RSVP:
Unfortunately due to limited space we are unable to accommodate everyone for the wedding breakfast. However, if you wish to attend the civil ceremony in the **************** at 2pm followed by the blessing in ************* at 3pm you are more than welcome to join us.
(Please cross out as appropriate)
We would love to attend the service
We are unable to attend the service
On the front of the RSVP we had if they were attending or not attending the evening reception.
CommentAuthorSummerbride2012
see now that I would understand! Just out of interest, how many of you did actually put gift list information in the evening invites? What are your thoughts on this?
CommentAuthorbarbie86
I agree that it can be confusing and would have done as jo did, sending out evening invites, but putting something on the back/on the RSVP/at the bottom saying something along the lines of 'Unfortunately we are unable to invite everyone to wedding breakfast, however you are more than welcome to attend the ceremony at *place and time* if you wish.
I think if you request someone's company at the ceremony the assumption by some will be that they are invited to the whole day unless it clearly states otherwise; I also think it puts pressure on people to attend the ceremony when they might not want to as they'll have to hang around for ages in between.
I'm toying with the idea of informally saying people can attend the ceremony if they wish (as we have a huge room and plenty of space), but I'm unsure as there won't be much for them to do in between, and it might be awkward as the breakfast/reception venue is a 5 minute walk away, so what if they tagged along?!
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
We are sending out the same info to the evening guests with directions, wedding website, hotels, gift list poem etc but just leaving off the menu that the day time guests have.
Our venue has its own restaurants and seating areas with bars that the other guests can go and sit in if they wish while we have the wedding breakfast so it isn't a big issue or the town where the venue is, is pretty and they can wander around there. Its totally up to them if they come to all of it or just the night time but we needed to know if they did want to come to the service for seating arrangements.
