I think I already know what most of your answers will be here but just want to sound you out because I have a bit of a dilemma.
I have invited an old friend of mine who lives out of town (who I don't see much of anymore) to my wedding. 2 of her eldest children were best friends with my children when I lived near her and they all went to the same school.
Now, my inital thought process was that my friend and her husband would come to the day-time and that maybe her older kids would accompany them for the evening.
When I went to see her the other week, I didn't say anything apart from I would like her and her husband to attend the day and everyone else for the evening reception. I was a little flabbergasted when she then practically invited herself, husband, her 5 children and also her mother (who would be able to help out!) to both the day and evening - that's 8 guests!
I was pretty much in a state of shock and I tried to be diplomatic and say that as we were working to limited numbers I didn't think we could invite everyone as some of my fiance's relatives were flying in from other countries. I told her that I had no problem with everyone coming to the evening and I sort of hoped that maybe, she would then say, ok, tell you what, I'll get my mum to just look after the kids for the wedding breakfast whilst me and husband attend and then everyone can pile in for the night time. But no, she said she just didn't even acknowledge what I was saying... Her children's ages range from 2 to 16, I don't even have a problem with them attending the ceremony part, it's just the breakfast bit, we have a package where only 60 are catered for.
Help!! What do I do here??
CommentAuthorLaura JaneW
You have to put your feelings first and tell her straight. I felt terrible when I've had to do this and I still feel terrible as Im also going through my own invite problems but as you said you have limited numbers as I do too! You might have a few fall outs but most people do to be honest! It's never smooth!
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
You've tried to tell her gently, she's blatantly ignored you, so you just have to tell her straight that the kids and mother can only come to the evening do xx
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I really dont see why some people think that they can just invite their family along when thats obviously not what you said! grr! Anyway, Maybe you should give her a call or go to see her again and just say that there is definitely not enough room for the kids and mother...and leave the ball in her court! she might say she isnt coming but if she isnt such a good friend anymore youve not lost out on much eh :) xxx
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CommentAuthorPrincess2be
I agree that you just need to tell her outright. Explain that its not that you don't want them there but you have a prepaid packacge which means they can't possibly be at the breakfast as all the limited spaces are full.
I think its comical sometimes that people think they can extend YOUR wedding invitation to other members of their family. Tell them that you are limited on numbers and that you only have room for the two of them during the day and the others can go in the night time. id definitly be going to see her again x x
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CommentAuthorlisag43
Thanks for your advice ladies, It's appreciated. God it's never bloody easy is it? Now, tell me why I didn't decide to go abroad for all this?!!! :)
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Paah!! I think about this everytime i need to think about invites or seating plan!x
