Mornig ladies, some of you may remember i put a post the other day about my inlaws not being interested in the wedding and all that but now they have gone and done something to pee me off even more! they have taken sil 2b and her 4 kids out for the day without inviting our children! i am sorry but our children our as much their granchildren as sil 2b's. it has really upset me. i know they would have paid as well as sil 2b is skint yet we would have paid for ourselves. just seen albums of "family day out" and "time with the granchildren" on facebook and their is parents in law 2b bil2b, sil 2b and her husband. i really cant understand why they are like this, always take her and kids out yet i can only ever remember tham taking my daughter out once when she was 2, she is now 6!! and they have never taken my son out and he is 4. the kids are at the age now where they start asking why nanny and grandad dont take them out like they do their cousins.
sorry, rant over xx
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CommentAuthorAbbey
Aw hun that's rubbish. Could you perhaps ask h2b to ask his parents why they didn't invite you all? Do they realise they are being mean innot asking you tp go too?
CommentAuthorlisa123
To be honest it wouldnt make a difference if he said anything or not. They only live 2 streets away and never even pop in, H2b had a moan about this a while ago and still nothing changed!
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CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
Aww hunni thats not nice at all!! Do you live close to yur in laws? Maybe if sil2b is closer they think its an inconvience for you (although i know its never if it means kids seeing grand parents but might be how they see it) Have you spoken to them about how you feel? X x x
CommentAuthorxMrsRobson2bx
Aww thats not nice at all! ask the h2b to have a word with his mum, see if they can come to some sort of arrangement where they involved ALL grandchildren..xxx
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Thats awful!!! Can't believe that even if your in-laws didn't suggest taking your kids, your sil2b might have! How hurtful.
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CommentAuthorkimmy
Do your children see your mum and dad??
CommentAuthorjanetx71
thats shocking i think i would have something to say poor kids must be an awful feeling for them xxx
CommentAuthorlisa123
weemintymonkie, i live down a road that is a mile long, prob just over halfway down, mil 2b lives at the furthest end of the road and sil 2b live 2 mins walk away from me so distance really isnt the cause! kylee27, sil 2b wouldnt have suggested taking our kids either, she can be just like her mum! kimmy, my kids see my mum about twice a week and my dad prob once every 2 - 3 weeks ( he owns a 24 hour recovery company and is always working!
H2B did have words yesterday and her reply was that she thinks we take our children out enough so didnt think she need to!!! just beacuse sil 2b never gets off her arse even to take the kids to the park she gets preferential treatment!!! so by the looks of it, if i want my kids to be included in their side i basically have to keep them locked up indoors, never taking them anywhere for fun just so she then can!!! i dont think so!
Cant wait to be married
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CommentAuthorjo Santa
I understand where you're coming from. My parents have rarely taken my children anywhere and when I'm at their house, my youngest is left to watch telly, whereas they take my brother's children out regularly, babysit, and the boys are always up the garden with grandad. It's my nephew's birthday on Saturday and I can't afford the trip to the beach that my sil wants us all to do. I sent a text to my dad asking if they can take my 10 year old with them so she doesn't miss out, and I actually got a text back saying "We're at the farm park with ***** and ***"!!!!! They only live up the road but didn't ask if J would like to go.
Over they years, it doesn't hurt any less, but I've stopped expecting the offers - or help if I have to ask for it!
If you can sort this out by talking to them, do, because nothing is more special than the relationship grandparents and grandchildren could have, yet your children will drift and not want to be with them if they feel excluded.
Jo Santa
CommentAuthorlisa123
i already think my children are drifting from them as they have stopped asking to see them now yet constantly ask to see my side of the family. i am just going to leave it now and let it be what it will be, at the end of the day my children still have 3 sets of fantastic grandparents who dote on them so it will be the in-laws loss! thanks everyone xx
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CommentAuthortimpson123
have you told them that it is having an effect on the kids and they have started asking questions?
CommentAuthorlisa123
yes but they dont seem bothered :(
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CommentAuthortimpson123
Thats horrible. sounds like your kids would be better off without them if thats their attitude.
CommentAuthorKaz
Awww hun, I do feel for you, we've the same but with my mum who sees my nephew all the time but not my kids and then complains that my son won't give her a hug, why would he, he doesn't know her! I think you just have to let them get on with it, they'll miss out in the long run, my BIL's bday was sunday, and we weren't even invited so on my daughter's bday this sunday coming we are all going out for the day, see how they like it!
