So today we took both sets of parents out to see our wedding venue. Everyone seems to love it so yay I am happy. We sat down for a drink after it and my sister was saying to me that an ice cream cart would be amazing for between the ceremony and dinner. I said to her that had she not paid a huge chunk of the deposit on my dress as our engagement and wedding gift then I would have said to her to get us one of those.
His dad then says, "talking of finances, me and your mum are happy to pay for half the wedding if you like or pay for the honeymoon."
Now I had told my h2b when we got engaged I was not taking a penny off them towards the wedding as almost a year later they still have not said congratulations. However me and h2b have agreed that we will ask them to pay for the honeymoon and will let them know the kind of thing we want and leave it to them to book it and surprise us.
It is a load off our minds yet I feel a bit guilty that my parents were there when he said that and I know that they cannot afford to contribute anythign at all to the wedding. I ahve even told my mum to book the 2 nighst at the hotel for the wedding and we will pay for the difference between one and two nights so they won't be rushing aroundon the morning of the wedding.
Am I right to let the in-laws pay for our honeymoon or should we politely decline?
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
It's a very kind and generous gift which I'd accept graciously unless you feel that you'd owe them for it. If you can accept it as a gift and that they won't use it as a reason for you to give them anything or do anything for them in the future I'd go for it.
Every set of parents have different financial circumstances which is good that you recognise that. Your parents I'm sure will give you something which may not be financial, it could be emotional support or help with something which is priceless xx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
I agree with Indreamland. I would accept or I would book the honeymoon and let them know and they can contribute to it however much they wish or like you say they can surprise yous.
I know how har dit is when one set of parents are better off than the others, My dad doesn't wok and my mums business is struggling so they cant contribute no matter how much they would love to. I had a chat with my parents as I don't want them to feel pressured to try and give us a lavish gift/substantial amount of cash when H2bs mum will prob give us a lot of cash to go towards a honeymoon.
xxx
After 7 years and 11 months he proposed to me 18.10.13
Our son is 5 years old and our world
Getting married 15.08.15.
Life hasnt been easy but we have each other :)
CommentAuthorRachelE118
I agree. Accept graciously and I'm nicely jealous! Xx
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
Thanks girls, I don't know if they will use it against us which is a reason why I didn't want any money towards the wedding. Too often on here we see girls saying the parents are payhing x amount and now expect a say in what the wedding will be. Ross doesn't want to be ungrateful so will say to them to book the honey moon as a surprise for us and we will just tell them the kind of thing we are looking for and leave the details to them.
I am grateful for the offer just a bit annoyed I think at the timing of it as they know my parents don't have alot of money, so kind of feel like his dad was just trying to be a bit flash although I am sure the offer is genuine xx
