We are having Indian food for the reception (for me) But FMIL raised the question about what about people who don't like it or the little kids
Not all of it is spicy but I do know what she is saying but I don't just want to have the option of pie and chips or something
Any ideas?
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Explain to her that not everything has to be spicy... If she doesn't get it, take her out to a restaurant beforehand? At the end of the day, there will be a range of things and if she doesn't like it, she can lump it really! Your wedding and tbh, most people like Indian food given the chance :)
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Could you offer a choice? One dish Indian and a western dish too? I know a lot of people who don't like strong spice flavours and I don't mean chilli hot type spice but just the strong flavour of mild spices that have no heat at all.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
We were initially going to have a full Chinese wedding banquet but decided in the end the safest option was a traditional English wedding breakfast but the canapés during the reception welcome drinks were all Chinese or oriental I.e. spring rolls, satay chicken tempura vegetables etc.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
I think your best bet would be to offer an alternative ... A korma maybe ?
Not all of it is spicy there are very mild and non spicy things on the list
CommentAuthorShowgirl
Unless you're only having a handfull of people there's always going to be someone who won't be happy with the menu. Probably best to have a mild option available and make sure its all well labelled.
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Like you've said not all of it is spicy... True Indian spiced cooking is done towards flavour and not necessarily heat... I love love love modhu chicken (chicken cooked with almond powder, mild spices and topped with honey) as long as u got a mild fruity one then go for it! Can't stand boring palates! My mil2b is moaning about our starter which is cream of lettuce soup and garlic croutons... We ain't changing it! Good lck x
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
It depends what your guests are like really hun. My mum wont touch Indian food, in fact she doesn't like anything that has any kind of spices (flavourful ones or hot ones) and even at a Chinese she orders mushroom omelette and chips. She likes plain and boring food and will eat nothing else. It can be very annoying at times but it is how she is and if she doesn't like it then she doesn't like it. So I guess what I am trying to say is that if you have any guests like my mum then they probably wont eat any of the Indian food, not just for the spicyness but also for the flavours! I on the other hand, would love it! lol xxx
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CommentAuthorprincesspixie
i personally would offer an option I don't like indian food and not because of the spices but because of the flavours. i would try to suit everyone who is coming but like its already been said you can't please everyone xx
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CommentAuthorBride of Frank
We have opted for an Indian buffet and when we were discussing it with the venue, they mentioned that it might not be suitable for everyone. My first response was 'tough, they will have to just lump it and eat chips and chapati's instead' but after a bit of thought I realised he was right. We have a couple of elderly relatives that I'm pretty sure won't like it and we will also have a lot of kids. The guy at the venue suggested that they could perhaps make slightly less of the Indian food and replace it with something else, to hopefully please the fussy ones, probably sandwiches. I guess the thing to remember though is that no matter what you do, you won't please everyone, so best pleasing yourself really ;)
CommentAuthorInDreamland
It is very easy to get caught up in the "it's my wedding so I'll have what I want" or "you can't please everyone so the fussy people will just have to lump it and go hungry" thinking, but I was reminded by my hubby at the menu tasting session that those who are there are our guests and we need to go with what will please the majority.
We are the hosts, if we invited the guests to our home for dinner we'd check their likes, dislikes and any allergies etc.
For that reason we had the obvious veggie and meat choice but also my dad and I had a different main and dessert to everyone else because I preferred the pork Wellington to the chicken, and preferred the pear frangipane tart to the chocolate dessert.
Hubby agreed with me that the dishes I had were nicer but we knew more people would not want them and prefer chicken and chocolate.
That's why I suggested a non Indian option.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Also, the Chinese and Oriental canapés were the way of compromising but still having food from my culture included in the day x
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CommentAuthorBeckyU98
i would love to go to a wedding with an indian meal mmmm :) but yes i suppose some people dont like it so you might need to offer a choice x
CommentAuthorJoannaS
I've just read this thread out to the lady I work with who is very fussy doesn't eat all sorts of food and she has said that if there wasn't an alternative she wouldn't eat anything. Mind you she is very very fussy she drives me mad with what i have for lunch and that a tuna roll she turns her nose up lol x
CommentAuthorbarbie86
My parents had an Indian buffet for their anniversary party. Only 2 people out of 80 don't like Indian food, and they still found something to eat (we were prepared to cater separately for them but they ate before and then just had bits that they liked). So, I'd say it depends on your guests. If you know 1 or 2 people who really will not eat Indian food (which I struggle to understand; there is literally no 'type' of food where there is nothing I won't eat, and while some types of food aren't my preference, I'll still eat them) perhaps consider providing something different for them. Or, provide something very simple like tandoori chicken with plain rice for the fussier eaters.
