My mum passed away 6 years ago and I want to do something to mark her memory on my wedding day. Are other people planning things also, or is it a bit morbid? I don't want to bring people down, but I do want people to recognise her, especially as she actually helped me get together with my now h2b when I was being really shy about it.
My mum always said she would have the biggest hat at my wedding. To honour her I am going to slip a line into the invitations encouraging all ladies to wear hats in my mum's memory (I may even offer a prize for the the best one!).
I was also thinking that on the day I would have a candle on the guest-book table with an arrangement of lillies, her favourite flowers. It will be like she is looking over everyone writing their comments.
Is that a bit much?
What are other people doing (or not) in memory of a loved one.
CommentAuthorRachel_Sarah
We are having a vase with a poem engraved in the front. We are putting a single rose for each person that we have lost wih a ribbon attached with their name on it. We are thinking of letting other people add to it too. Between me and h2b we currently have 6 roses for the vase.
CommentAuthorangelan1986
i will be having a photo of my nan on the front seat so when i look towards the guests she will be sitting there smiling at me and i will know she is there. she only passed away 9 months ago so i am gutted we didnt get married sooner as there is only 1 other of her grandaughters got married and she did it abroad so my nan couldnt be there xxx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i'm having a picture at the ceremony and playing a song my ex sis in law (best friend) and i used to dance to while out could do more than that coz her ex husband will be there with his new fiancee x
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorcaza
they are both really thoughtful ideas. my h2b's mother has also passed away. although he hasnt mentioned anything, i may just suggest we do something as well.
he has also lost a few friends over the years. his remaining circle of friends have a ritual for their weddings. we are the last of the circle to get married. all the men huddle in a circle on the dancefloor with a drink and dance to a song called 'your my mate' i think its by right said fred. words go..... 'your my mate and i will stand by you, cos your my mate and i will stand by you....etc' then they raise their glasses and shout 'meet ya there' (refering to heaven)
That is such a nice though Caza, it kind of brought a tear to my eye just reading it. xxx
CommentAuthorsbride
I think that sounds like a lovely idea hun. All the loved ones we have lost that wont be at the wedding, we have lost to cancer so we have done the cancer research wedidng favours and will be putting a note on each table saying we have done this in memory of and then list the names.
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthorHelen
both lovely ideas, which will make you all feel as if your mum is with you on your special day x we are going to have cancer research favours, which will come with a card, saying a donation has been made on your behalf to cancer research. My mum died 21 years ago x
CommentAuthorangelan1986
i think when i do my gift list i will have a donations page on for cancer research as all my grandparents were taken by cancer. thats a really good idea thanks sbride xx
CommentAuthormummyto2
were having a photo of my grandma and grandad and the top table in pride of place (my grandma was such a big part of my life)and 2 single red roses in a vase on the table for them
im a married women now
mrs carson-moores
i love my hubby and my kids with all my heart and soul
CommentAuthordizzydora4
i have bought a candle with crystal drops around it (pic on my profile) for all my family who have passed away, mainly my dad tho x
CommentAuthorRachie :D
I'm having a single pink rose in my flowers (no other pink roses any where) and im also wearingt my late nanas necklace, she died 2 years ago and im still finding it hard as her death was just awful in my eyes.
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthorMrs Steer
some very lovely ideas, im loving the picture on the table idea so ur looking at them! I think i may use this for my nan and grandad, i lost grandad 10+ years ago and nan 7 and half years ago :( both doted on me as a young child miss them both loads. Also have my neice who was stillborn that i want to have there in someway xx
Is now happily married to my gorgeous man
11-06-11
CommentAuthorSteffie
putting invitations in to balloons and letting them go during the pictures!!!
1 for my nan, and 2 grandads and if ant wants to for his xxx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
reading this made me cry big hugs to every1 xxxx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorangelan1986
aww steffie thats a great idea. have you seen the lanterns that float off with a candle inside? well we wrote a message on 1 each and set them all off, need to be careful with your dress though, but i think they would look really pretty and they sell them in the £1 shop and 99p stores xxx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
that's a lovely idea not to much at all
Dyslexic
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I am NOW MRS LONSDALE!!
CommentAuthorshellay
i have ordered a candle for both of our dads as they could not be there with us on the day, would so have loved them to be, but instead we are lighting their candle from the beginning of the ceremony until the last guest has gone so that we know that they will be there with us x
I have know my soulmate for 27 years and on the 6th August
I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
I love married life !!!!
CommentAuthorMrs K 2be
Such lovely ideas, i think im going to put a photo of my grandma and grandad on their wedding day in my bag so they can be there with us all. x
CommentAuthorWinterrose
They are both really lovely ideas the hat will represent a fun element and the candle will be symbolic & timeless. We are lighting lanterns for those who are sadly unable to attend & I think it's nice to remember them all xx
CommentAuthorAldridge2B
am in tears readin all these i was thinking of doing the same thing my mum died when i was 2 so didnt really know her (which is really hard) my dad and i dont really talk about her as i think it really affected him, but i dunno if it will make a tearful day (in a happy way) even more tearfull am so undecided on what way to remember her by x x
CommentAuthorBluerinse
My Nan died 3 years ago she was like my mum so I am tying a picture frame only a mini one with a pic of my Nan in around the bottom of my bouquet
CommentAuthorangelan1986
with the candle you could light it every year on your anniversary and it will always make you remember that even if your loved ones were'nt there in person they definetly were in spirit. I think having the photo of my nan will be upsetting for my mum and aunty but its something i would like as i never imagined getting married without her there, she was such a huge part of our whole family and it would feel wrong if she wasnt there in some way xx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
someone else mention a candle too its a lovely idea xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorCowChop
They are some lovely ideas. I would like to do something for my grandad who died 6 years ago as we were really close and it breaks my heart that he wont be there to see me get married. Also Pauls brother died last year after suffering from MND so it would be nice to do something, just not sure what.
CommentAuthorshellay
i got my candle from ebay, its personalised with a poem, their names and our name and the date and is in our colour scheme its perfect x
I have know my soulmate for 27 years and on the 6th August
I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
I love married life !!!!
CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
I lost my one and only daughter to cot death, to honour her memory I shall be sewing a black bow into the lining of my wedding dress
