Okay so we have our venue covered and the wedding breakfasts basic price caters for 60 guests which I'm happy with. But heres the thing, we have about 65 immediate family members, ok that on its own is fine I wouldnt mind paying the extra but my H2B has invited 1 family that I'm not happy with, his cousin got married about 6months ago and we didnt get an invite (although my h2b brother and sister did!) and we always said we'd be the bigger people and invite them to ours which we are intending to do but now I'm thinking about it, why should we?
There are 5 family members which are James' aunty, uncle and 4 cousins plus 3 partners and 4 kids. They have only bothered with our eldest, who is 5, once and never seen our youngest child. We havent spoke to them for 4years. I always had the impression they never approved of me much either, not that they gave me a chance! I'd much rather have close friends who actually give a crap about us. But another problem is h2b dads side of family can hold grudges and he doesnt want to feel the brunt of it after invites have been sent out. What do you all think? Am I being a bitch? x

sounds like you have a good reason not to invite them we have not invited my cosins because i don't know them well and they are fine with it. talk to your h2b and see how he feels about it.

Exactly, I'd feel a lot more comfortable without them there and I'd rather share it with the people that mean the most. I will sit down with him later and discuss it i think just thinking of the best way to word it without sounding harsh lol

I am divided on this one. I would want to be the bigger person and invite them but also would want them to feel that they are not on my radar.

Weddings can bring people together..............

invite them to the evening part, that way you have included them

I am following the rule of if we haven't seen then in 2 years they aren't invited, if you dont feel comfortable with them and they were *insert rude word here* to you then they do not deserve the honour of being part of your big day!!

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i wouldnt want to invite them either. i knew someone who didnt invite me to her wedding but the day before said i could come if i wanted---only because a lot of people didnt rsvp and thought it would be empty----needless to say i didnt go and then when we announced our engagement tried to get an invite----dont think so! xx

I'd say stuff 'em but as a compromise could you invite aunty and uncle and not the rest? That way, you've made an effort with Dad's family and if it isn't good enough then tough!

Thanks for the replies ladies! I'm finding it all a bit of a pain, I spoke to my dad about it and he agrees and not to give a cr*p what they think. Good old dad eh. I think the evening is acceptable, that way they're not in my face looking down on us (which is how they made me feel before) Tbh I'm not even sure they'd turn up! I hope the other half agrees lol

I have a large family, most of which dont actually bother with me or my kids....so i havent invited most of them. The only family i have coming to our wedding, is my mum, brother, my dad and his partner and my sister. Thats it.
Some of my friends think its odd that i have not invited extended members like my uncles, or my nan...but i think it's ok, why should i bother, when they cant even remember my kids names!