first thing i am going to say is relax!! my sis has pcos and she has been told that although she has a very severe case of it and it is unlickly she will conceive naturally it can happen!!

stop having s*x to try and you never know what might happen. just enjoy doing it!!

if you are stuck indoord why not go for a brisk walk for half an hour a day. that will help you feel better!

if you cant manage a full time job why dont you try a part time job? that will ease you back into it slowly! maybe a dinner lady or something like that which is just an hour or so a day?

xx

Small steps. One at a time. Instead of stressing about a full or even part time job how about doing a few hours volunteering, perhaps in a local charity shop, they can be really flexible and a great way of getting back into things. My youngest daughter does it and loves it, and now my oldest daughter is signing up to do a few hours too, good experience and no pressure. And how about some relaxation, lying on the bed, gentle music, deep breathing, just relaxing - perhaps a local yoga or tai-chi class to help you get out and about and meet new people with no stress involved. Just a thought x

i cant imagine how hard it is for you having pcos..but on the depression/anxiety side of things I know how you feel about two years ago I was very very poorly, I was on the point of a nervous breakdown I could hardly leave the house. I literally only left to go to the corner shop by my house...(which is literally two doors away from me) to buy food and nappies etc for my little girl. If I was in a big crowd I'd freak out start having panic attacks and just really felt like the whole world was out to get me/judging me..it was awful and that feeling of being stuck like that can sometimes can be just as bad if not worse. To try get myself out of it I decided to enrol on a college course studying to be a hairdresser..at first it was very hard. I hardly spoke to anybody and felt genuinely intimidated by all the 16 something year olds on the course..but after a few months it had really made a huge difference, I was like a totally different person. dont get me wrong you will still have 'bad' days but they feel more managable now..it may be worth chatting to your gp about your symptoms and they may be able to offer you something to help.it isnt just medicine they prescribed now, they can put you in touch with support groups, councilling etc all sorts..depression is not something to be ashamed off thousands of people go through it without reaching out to anybody for help and it can just spiral out of control..the worst thing I found about it was the feeling of lonliness..I had never felt so alone in my life, even though i had family friends etc around me I felt totally isolated, I know it may seem scary but I found the best thing for me to do was to make myself start mixing with people. now im training to teach hairdressing, I give lectures/lessons and assist with instructing in a salon, I even sing in a band..all things which if somebody had told me I would be doing 3 years ago I would have laughed at them..but I do think you need to sit your mum down and explain how your feeling, your her daughter too and if anything she'll be upset you hadnt confided in her sooner and will want to help you..you will be ok..it may not seem like it but you will get there, like all the girls above said it will take time but you will get there xx

Thanks everyone, don't really know what else to say. If I could go out and get a job I would but I find it hard just leaving my house on my own. It's not easy for me at the moment and as much as I tell myself to snap out of it the harder it gets as I'm putting pressure on my self. But thank you x

megs, I will speak to my mum when I get a chance but first step is to talk to h2b I think, he knows I feel down but not this bad and he really should know otherwise I think it's going to start putting pressure I the relationship and that's the last thing I want, he's my rock. I will go to the GP when I can get someone to come with me, I think I need a little help whether it be anti-depressents or just support group, I don't think I can do it on my own any more. But a huge well done to you, sound's like you've really turned it around and that's brilliant, I hope I can too. xxx

And Linzi, I've been taking metformin for 2 years and it's not done any thing for me, not even helped me loose weight and not even helped with being insulin resistent as I've become borderline diabetic since I've been taking it. I've had 3 different forms, slow release, lower dose and the 500mg and nothings worked.
I was having monthly scans up untill about 6 months ago and not once did my overies have eggs in and i haven't had a period in 2 years, so I'm not ovulating but thank you for your positivity mrsbarkertobe, was very kind of you but I don't think it will happen, think it's a loosing battle now.

Sorry for my rant x

mrs walker 2 b1 wat about a volunteerin job? then if ure 2 ill u dont hav 2 go in etc? at the hospital we hav volunteers makin teas/coffee etc for patients or walkin in the shop ( that womans institute shop)but u dont wanan work til ure fully fit! have just looked it on website ( wasnt 100% on condition) it says metformin and a new drug called thiazolidinedione (glitazones),??? dont know if u tried that 1?

do u hav a gud circle of friends?

new drug?!??!??! off to look!!! cheers becky

Linzi I was using Verity for a long time and met some lovely people but eventually found it useless. I've been going through this a very long time so been there done that got the t-shirt, unfortunately!
I haven't tried clomid yet, my GP won't send me to an infertility clinic as I'm over weight and your GP can't prescribe it, it has to be done through a clinic. So untill I've got my BMI down by about 14 there won't even look at me.
I have every symptom you can imagine with PCOS, it's not nice.

Becky, I've tried it. I'm no helper I suppose lol. And I would volunteer, if I didn't have panic attacks everytime I leave the house on my own

wat about a job from home then? wats ure bmi now??

kaya is it to do wiv ure area code etc??? like the cancer drug lottery thats on news all time

Kaya, I've been to many different GPs and hospital specialists, PCOS and diabetes clinic.. they have all said the same, clomid can only be prescribed through a clinic as you need monthly scans, weekly monitoring etc, unless your doctors surgery has a clinic in the surgery then clomid can't be prescribed through them

mrs 2b...it is very scary letting your partner see you at basically is what is your most vunerable, but if he does this may really help him to see exactly how you are feeling and how it is affecting you...dont be scared it will put him off you etc if anything this will only make you closer as you'll be going through it together...if you ever need a chat or whatever im here...i found people had a stereotype of depression and sometimes it helped me to chat to somebody who was 'on the inside' ...chin up missy you'll get there xxx

Thanks megs, thats lovely of you xx

yep change your doctors!! phone first and ask if they have a Dr that specialises or has an interest in PCOS. When i moved i changed my Dr, and was shocked to find one of the doctors holds a PCOS clinic!! just speaking to a Dr that actually understands PCOS and researches it was a breath of fresh air. My old Dr's didnt even really know what it was when I first got diagnosed 15 years ago.

worth a try. And if your BMI is that high, have they given you anything to help you lose weight? cause as we know it is particularly difficult to do with PCOS.

DONT GIVE UP. Get determined. Tell your DR what you want. And make sure you get it.

I don't think I look it either, my aunt is alot bigger than me and her BMI is 36. I'm 16 stone though, so I am a very big girl, although I think each one of my boobs weight a stone each lol

kaya its like i said area codes i reckon! that jane ( cancer patient that raised all that money 4 charity) wasnt allowed her herceptin( bad spelling) cos of her area code!

lol mrs walker ask ure doctor for reductil! ( appetite supresant) it works really good and alot better than that ali on sale now with bad side effects!

Becky, I was given Orlistat which is pretty much the same thing but my gp told me not to take it if your meal didnt contain much fat as it would be a waste and Ive been eating really healthy stuff and given up all the rubbish so I haven't been taking them

awww just thought wat about a collage course at home?

Yeah, I've been looking into doing something from home but I think I'll see my gp, have a chat and hopefully I'll start feeling better and I can face the real world again and get out to work. The money would be nice too!

try acai berry..its brilliant its aberbal appetite suppressant and helps to aid weight loss by detoxing your bod or all its nasties...i felt very healthy taking it, lost loads of weight had loads of extra energy, was really good

its something we cant change, so i try not to let it stress me. But then i am not trying to conveive yet. That will come later this year........ so my outlook might well change then. But at the moment I am clinging to the hope, and the real possibility that I will be one of the lucky ones and not have too much trouble.

I'm 34 soon so dont have that much time..........

I miscarried and have since been told it's likely to be because of the pcos, so I'm dreading when we start trying for a baby again!!

I'm taking agnus castus atm as well, after a recommendation from you I believe!!

Yeh, it is becky but I didn't find it helped at all. Though others may have found it helpful?
The only things that helped me made me into a zombie though :-|

aww thought so lol aldies at work cum in on it alot! am very relaxed person as i hav a heart condition and on beta blockers....they dont half relax u!( gp sumtimes give them out to nervous people for drivin etst etc lol)

I love herbal stuff, whether it actually works or not is a different matter so I might try St Johns wart and see how I go, just the name of it makes me laugh!