Me and my bridesmaid decided what we would go and look around a few dress shops tommrow! How excited was i, the booking was made over a week ago and i have be soooo soooo excited the last week!
Today has been a terrible day ive been crying for the last 3 hours! She has decided to cancell all my appoitments(One of the shops have some lovely sale dresses that i wanted to try on) and not TELL me and make other appoitments at a few boutique bridal shop where dresses start at £1200! (My budget is around £500 maybe abit more due to if i find something i love im willing to pay abit extra!) She is not listening to anything iam saying and doing it all her way, she is so rude to the owners of the shops and i feel so embarssed! so i feel that i cant make another appoitment with them. I have told her that im angry and im not very happy about changing the appoitments and she just didnt say anything to me. She doesnt like our colour we have chosen and doesnt like the dresses i pick!
Im asking myself now do i want her as my bridesmaid? She is my only bridesmaid and i have our daughter who will be two who is a flower girl.
H2b isnt really helping at all as he doesnt want to get involved!
x
CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
Mayeb you could try and have a word - or write a letter/email - explaining how she has made you feel today and making her aware that as BM she should support your decisions, not try and take over and make it all her way, and suggest that if she doesn't feel that she can offer that supportive role that she step down as BM x
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
she shudnt be cancelling your appointments!! i wud cancel 2mora on her but u still go wiv sum1 esle mayb?
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CommentAuthorLauraCrossan
oh god so sorry to hear this!she is out of line and if she cannot be supportive and happy for you,you should tell her she wont be a bridesmaid anymore.xxx
Is this to buy your own wedding dress? In which case I'd contact the original shops and make further appointments but not take her with you - use tomorrow as a research trip with her to see what shape dresses you like but don't get swayed into wanting a dress you can't afford, then go to the other shops with sales on later on, without her if necessary. I can't believe she had the nerve to cancel your existing appts!
It's up to you if you want her as a bridesmaid, but personally it sounds like if you're clashing now you might clash more nearer the wedding date - no harm in re-contacting the shop, am sure they won't mind - I live 170 miles away from where I'm getting married, so at first I went to a couple of local shops on my own to get an idea of dress shape, then went home to visit more shops with my mum etc before finding the one I've ordered - the shop assistants are really nice and helpful when you go in on your own as they know it's a big decision, and all the shops wrote down names and styles of ones I liked so I could go home and have a think about it!
CommentAuthorELCC
surely if she is your bridesmaid then you must be pretty close? why dont you try talkikng to her away from the shops and what not else x im sure you will solve this x
CommentAuthorloustew2012
you should contact the shops and say there has been a wee mixup. then go to the shops she has arranged to see, say u dont like anything or u will have a think about it and then say "id like a look in this shop, just to see" and try on stuff there.
end of the day she shouldnt be cancelling any of your appointments, youve made them for a reason and she need to know she cant take over your arrangements.
i feel right sorry for all the brides on here that are having bm issues, they need to be reminded that its our day, not theres and if they dont like it they dont have to be bm.
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
thats down right out of order! how dare she cancel ur appointments! weather its for her dress or urs! at the end of the day its ur wedding and ur paying for it! if shes buying her own dress then fine but she could at least have told u beforehand where she wanted to go. i would say the same as others have suggested, its my wedding and if u cant be supportive of me and the choices i make then maybe u shouldnt be my bridesmaid!
good luck x
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CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
I couldnt believe even believe it, H2b called me and told me! If the shop had cancelled thats fair enough somethings happen! but in this case it wasnt the shops fault. I have spoken to her tonight and all she said was 'i didnt think thoses shops had dresses good enough for you' Apparently she looked online! I have told her that she has been out of order and that she should cancel any appoitments! and she needs to stop cancelling on me at short notice, She has said sorry and she is still my bridesmaid im very please!
I called up the shops and the ladys were so nice and did understand when i told them what had happened just didnt tell them what she had said!
Im so glad to have my appoitment re-booked for the morning im soooo soooooooooooo excited now :D xxxxx
CommentAuthorstarlighthunny
yay thats great news hun x
enjoy tomorrow x
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CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
Thank you! Im so pleased its all sorted out.x
CommentAuthoremz382
maybe she was going to suprise with buying your dress for you from the other shops?? if not then...that is very unfair cancelling your appointments!
CommentAuthorloustew2012
glad you got it sorted out now!!!!
good luck with your dress hunt xxx
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CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Phew glad it's sorted! Enjoy tomorrow! :) Xx
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Yes - she certainly has some making up to do methinks!
CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
I had a similar problem with mine. I asked her to put our names on a guest list for a sale at a bridal shop she agreed to do this but the only problem is she never did. She ignored when I tried to ask her so I managed to arrange for me and my mum to go instead of going with both. If I had missed this appointment I would never have got my dress. So i suggest from now on you arrange the appointments and if you even decide to invite her then fine but make sure that you are secure with such things it's not fair for someone especially a bridesmaid to let you down on such important things
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
She hasnt got the money to buy my dress & i wouldnt expect her too!
She has alot making up to at the moment, Il see how today goes and take it from there! Shes on very thin ice with h2b at the moment! He so so upset that she cancelled the appoitments and could see i was upset! Bless him! x
CommentAuthoremz382
oh that is horrible then that she did that! really odd aswell, dont see why she would!? good luck today hope you try on some amazing dresses and have fun!
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Hope today is going well, and she's doing some serious grovelling! :) Xx
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
I have found my dress :) She has been great today had loads of fun aswell x
CommentAuthorAnnette
Yai! Piiiictuuurees please So glad it worked out for ya. How did the BM act today? x
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CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
I have posted a pic in my album :) She was fine, gave me loads of help etc really good day x
